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Well, you have to laugh, don't you. Long story short, I met my favourite man about ten years ago when I was 17, had my eye on him from day one but good things come to those who wait, and it's about two years now since he told me he's going to be a submariner. So now that's exactly what he is, and after trying once and falling out, he came home for a day last week and we have agreed to "see how things go."
I'm not the kind of person who needs someone there to hold their hand the whole time, but it sounds stupid but I didn't realise he'd be gone quite so much. He's being super cautious: "will you cope? How will you cope?" (I think he's underestimating me) and then I wonder if I'm overestimating me. I don't know how people do this, to be honest. He's being great and he's trying so hard. I hear from him a lot, all things considered. I need to find someone who understands. I haven't told my mum (you don't tell my mum anything unless it's set in stone lol), my dad's really pleased and tells me to enjoy what I have now, in the present (good advice). My best friend said "well, as long as you're happy then so am I." She's my best friend and I love her to bits, but what's that supposed to mean? It has this undertone of "I think you're making a dreadful mistake."
I'm glad to have found someone else out there in the same boat *cringe*, because I think I'm about to go barmy, lol. Sorry I didn't mean this first post to be so long.
Hellooo and welcome, Im Claire.. and my fella is currently on a 7month tour of Iraq... so pretty much 7 months apart... most wouldnt believe a relationship could survive 7 months apart... but no.. in all fairness, our relationship is so much stronger.. You have come to the right place for support babe.. and every single lady on here is livin proof that a relationship with someone in the forces do work out extremely good... yeah, theres tough times, but then theres the amazin things...like.. for me, the little things.. a phone call, a txt.. that first kiss in months... all make me realise that my relationship is amazin.. and you will find that ''civvy'' people... will never understand our relationships.. but we know what were doin, and we also know that love remains in our hearts even oceans apart..
You hang in there, it'll all be worth it!!!!! Ask away, if you wana no anythin x x x x x x
Thanks so much Claire, I feel better talking about it. When he deploys he's with 100 or more other men who are in exactly the same position, and until I found this place I didn't have that x
Aww no problem.. everyone on here can give up some kind of support.. so you never have to feel alone!! x x x x
Hi and welcome to wags!!! xxx
Hi hun, well im with a Submariner and have been for 7 months I thought the same as you when we first met will I cope, I wont see him etc. I admit its a little hard at times and when they are at sea contact is nil but you do cope, it does get better and you make the most of when you see them. My other half is home now for a week, on a course next week then back home for 3. He has been in the Navy for 10 years
HI hun welcome to wags! Claire is so right them been away just makes your relationship stronger, looking back from the first date with lee i wouldnt never have thought that we would be still together and married! Its been an amazing 8years together and we have been through 5tours plus other weeks away trying and we are stronger and happier that anyone of our friends are! If you love one another you just find a way to get through the time apart!
I'm new to all this too but my other half is a submariner too and has just gone on his first patrol since we got together so I know EXACTLY how you're feeling at the moment. It was fine for the first few days but i'm 10 days in now and its hit me that i'm not going to hear from him now till mid September....and it's killing me and as supportive as all my friends are they just don't quite understand.
Anyway this might help, because the lack of contact is killing me, but I write to him in a note pad, I know he can't see the letters at the moment, but it helps me to put stuff down, just general stuff i've done and what I would have discussed with him if he was around. It's really helping me and I might even let him read it all when he gets abck or I might just keep it to myself.
It might not work for you but its worth giving it a go.
"my other half is a submariner"
"I write to him in a note pad"
and we both have a birthday this week.
Are we actually the same person?!?! *eek* LOL!
Hey hun
Sorry for a vary late welcome.x
I've not been on for ages, tend to feel a bit mean cos my fella (Royal Marine) is here ATM n not going away til Sept to Afghan for 6mnths. U do get used to the times apart n makes u value the time u get together & makes wot u have so much stronger. Only piece of advise is never bank on the dates they give for coming & going - it always changes.
Everyone on her is great tho for support, listening to a gud old moan & advice, don't think i'd get thru half as much rubbish without these ladies.x
Gud to see another northerner on here (being a Ex Manc).x
We could well be, if you say you're also in the North West too then we must be the same person.
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