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Hello my name is Fiona and i've been with my fiance for two and a bit years now. From when i first met my partner he had told me he wanted to join the army and even though we have had a few arguments at the beggining i've very slowly grown to accept the fact that he is joining it. (to be honest its the last job i want for someone who i care so much for) he has been on taster days for the army and has been studying public services for past two years but i know he is joining this year and i'm finding it hard too be happy in my heart for him as i'm worried sick.
I really just want to know if anyone else felt like this at the start or i'm just being stupid.. cause i really dont want to be apart for 7 months! :(
many thanks
Fi x
hi hun it will b e fine an he only doin his trainning the only thing u need to worry bout is if he gets told he goin on tour the rest of the time everythings ok my bfs been in the army 10 yrs an i was gonna join myself but never did but good luck to him an if its something he really wants let him try it out an if he dont like it he can leave but if he likes it good for him an its a good life an i know its hard on us but a sayin a few girls have got is a soldier is only as strong as the girl behind him its true an iam sure u will be ok i kno its hard but when u get married u will se him more an plus if it maes him happy then u got a better giuy on ur hands sorry seams like i takein sides but iam not i just sayin but if u need a chat hunni anytime just pm me xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hi!
I thought I wouldn't fit in either (I thought everyone would be married to their soldier and living on a garrison with kids and it would all be about practical advice and loads of acronyms I didn't get!) but it truly takes all sorts and there ae loads of different peopleand siuations on here!
In fact I'm sort of the opposite way round to you (i wasn't expecting it as when i met my oh he was leaving the regulars and nw he is being deployed to afghanistan with the territorials! But I'm similar to you in that I'm not sure how I feel about the whole thing. If you look up my introduction thread in this section, it's entitled 'feel like a bit of an anomaly', you will see what I mean!
But everyone is here for you and you aren't alone, so don't feel that you are. Everyone will understand how you feel about different things on one level or another and it will be a great comfort.
hey hun, welcome to wags!
if it what he wants and you try to stop him, in a few years he might resent you for it. but its not as bad as some people make out being a wag. Once his training is over if he is based over here you'll prob be able to see him most weekends.
And sometimes not seeing him will make you both stronger, as they say distance makes the heart grow fonder and its ture! Try not to worry it isnt all bad you'll have a sexy man with a sexy uiniform too!
xx
Hi welcome to wags, dont worry about trying to fit in, everyone on here is different, thats what makes us so special :p
My oh has just been offered a place in the army, his date for basic training is the 8th September, I'm very worried about him going as we've been together for nearly 7 years and have 2 children together. So a HUGE life change!!! But my oh really wants to make a better life for us and wants this to be the way he does it. :rolleyes:
If you ever wanna chat just pm me
xxxxx
Welcome to wags babe x x x
welcome to wags hun! and dont worry everyone on here is in different situations.its louise btw lol xxx
hey hun welcome to wags!! :)
thank you for all your nice replys! all of you make a lovely welcome :) and damn on the weekends off bit because i run my own shop i dont get weekends off :( lol oh well we'll always have the evenings.
xx
Hi don't worry, everyone feels like that (or I did anyway!). All you can do is be happy that he's found something to make him happy and support him that. And be proud of him :) It's a shock but you slowly get used to the idea and adapt to being not quite normal (whatever that is!). I have a friend who says normal is a cycle on the washing machine.
Hi Hun
Welcome to wags, im married but i dont live on camp so only get to see hubbi weekends and when he is on leave! He has been in well!! this is his 12th Year we have been together coming up 8years so I knew from day one what I was getting into! Its hard when they are away on tours but you kind of get use to it and time goes quickly and I have found that it has made our relationship alot stronger then people in Civvi street! Stand by your man and what he want to do, been married to soldier or should I say the army isnt all bad!
Love
i was just wondering... someone told me that once we are married we get to see each other more is tht true? also do they HAVE to go on tour for seven months? or do they get a choice?! sorry so many questions.x
i believe the army pay for your visits like train tickets and such...or so ive been told but i dunno lol. not sure about the rest either. xx
well if your married you can move into Married Quarters if you want so you do get to live together. Most tours have a gap in the middle for a couple of weeks for R&R (rest and recooperation) so you do get to see them then.
It just depends on where he is posted after his basic as to how much you'll get to see him if he is posted in this country then you'll prob be able to see him most weekends, if he is Germany or somewhere like that then it just depends on how often you can afford flights! or him to come over.
Try not to worry too much about it but if you have any more questions just ask! xx
hi fiona welcome to wags! xxxx
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