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Hi am Rebecca.
Am 20 years old, and my boyfriend is in the navy, i have been with him for 6 months, it has been the best 6 months ever,he has now been sent to Iraq, to work until december 2008, i know we will stay together when he comes back. However it is the first time he has been away for home since we been together. I was just wondering if anyone has been through the samething? and if anyone could give me advice how there man cope being over there?
Thanks for reading my thread.
Rebecca
Hello Rebecca... Im Claire, 22.. welcome to wags..
My fella has just come home from Iraq... he left there thursday... so i get to see him next week.... he left for Iraq in November 2007...
You will be fine i promise ya babe.... i didnt think id be able to do it all but i have done, and ive come out stronger and so has our relationship!!! Send him parcels, letters, etc... to keep him smiling... and the phone calls are always amazin! So many girls on this site are in the same situ as you, so each and everyone can help support you!!
Give me a shout if u wana ask anythin... x x x x x
Hi claire.
Thank you for your reply.
Was your fella allowed to come home for two weeks during his time in iraq?
I hope u have a nice time when he comes home.
xxx
Hey!
Yep, he had a 2 week leave called rnr... well it turned out to be 12 days:rolleyes:, but it was amazin, i waited 4 n half months for his rnr, was worth every second of the wait!
Does your fella get an rnr?!!!!! x x x
Hi
I think that he will have, he should be coming back in September.
when you sent a Packages to him how much did it cost you?.
Rebecca
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Packages are free to send if they are under 2kg xx
http://www.bfpo.mod.uk/faqs.htm#faqsoptelic
Thank you for the link, very helpfully.
Rebecca
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Becky, get plannin for what ur guna put in yer parcels, that alway took my mind off things.... coz i always imagined him smiling when he opened it up!!!!!
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hi welcome to wagfs hunni Iam andrea i have been with a guy while he was in afghan but didnt work out lol but i been with my oh andy for 9 months now and he is off to iraq in 09 an iam derding it but just keep yourself busy hunni an trust me ur phone will be a second skin mine is an always has been scene my ex lol
I have been doing, i went out today and bought him a t-shirt that he wanted, i am just waiting for the address to iraq which i should have in 2 weeks, then i send loads of things to him.
Please can i ask what OH means, i have seen it alot on people post.
Andrea your boyfriend will be fine, in Iraq i heard its not that bad anymore out there. so hopefully when your man goes it be ok. He should get loads of time off before he goes. chris did, so you just have to enjoy that time with him.
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oh manes other half hunni i was confuesed the first time i saw it or heard it lol an yer iam just reallt bad i worry all the time lol
I worry alot to, i just got a text of him, telling me not worry and he loves me, i think he finds it hard to.
where is your OH at the min?
xxx
he based in tidworth so he quite far away an yer andy finds it hard bein home n not bein able to see me coz he knows i worry an he knows y an what i worry about so he finds it hard not seeing me to make sure iam ok but he a worrier to if i say iam ill he calls straight away to make sure iam ok he so sweet but yer i am still dreddin iraq only coz my ex grr
Can i ask what happen to you ex? (dont have to answer).
My oh worry that am not going to be here when he comes back. But i will be.
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Hi Becky and welcome. I'm fairly new to this game myself but I've found that your biggest tool in getting through is you really have to carry on with what you're doing and stay busy. It is hard but it's not all doom and gloom and some days are better than others. A few days ago I woke up in the middle of the night and had a bit of a cry but another trick is you can allow yourself to cry but only for five minutes. Keeping busy is the best thing for you and it's the best thing for him as well.
I have very limited contact with my man, can't even write really ... well I can but it could be months before he gets it, so I've taken to writing him letters that I'm not going to send him but I'll give them to him when I see him next. Just with random things, stuff I'd tell him if he were here. He really wants to hear about normal things so I try and include that.
It's not all bad, there are advantages and you learn to make the most of the time and the contact that you do have, and I think you appreciate it more somehow. And you also get a bit of time to yourself which if you're anything like me is really important.
And I think the golden rule is: Civvies Say The Stupidest Things. I honestly think they mean well but they haven't got the first clue. Last week I had someone say "oh well he's not going to Iraq so that's okay then," as though the world is divided into "Iraq" and "Everywhere Else," and Iraq is dangerous and Everywhere Else is fine. Don't take anything they say seriously. Close your ears.
HI mustntgrumble
How are you? how long is your man away for?
i had a few crys myself when i wake up and he not there to talk to like normal, but i get up and get ready to go to work and then day turns out to be ok.
my oh has had 9 weeks off this year before he went to iraq so we had lots of fun and did things that we can remember and think back to.
i like the time to my self but with a few weeks i will get bored and really want him back.
yea people do say things to me that makes me feels sad, but i learned not to listen to then because there not happy in there lifes they want to make other people unhappy.
Hope your ok
xxxx
Hi,
He's pretty much away for the next 12-18 months or so, it's a bit unclear as yet. He does have a couple of weeks leave sometime, and perhaps Christmas but then almost immediately I think he's off again on a nine monther. I'm not really looking forward to it but I figure if we can survive this then we can survive anything.
You will be fine. Every day is a day closer!
That must be really hard, has he been away before for a long period time??
how do u cope may i ask?
are you married?
xxx
Hi Becky,
I'm Beth, engaged to Thomas who's a Royal Marine currently posted in Afghanistan. This is site amazing for support so don't be afraid to come on and pour your heart out when your not feeling too good or you don't think you're coping so well. As with you, my fiance' isn't back til December and doesn't get R&R til September so keep an eye on my signature line for a countdown.
PM me if you want to talk or just fancy a chat.....
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Hi Beth
how did u feel when you was told he was going to afgan, i couldnt stop crying when i was told about chris going to iraq, but am ok with it now, and learning to cope with it all.
rebecca xxxx
Hi Since been with my hubbi he has been on 3 tours to afghan and 2 to canada! The first time he went away and he told me I cried like mad but then after that time i was alittle sad but ok with it! I just thought to myself it wouldnt be forever and just got on with things really!
Hey Becky,
This is his first deployment but I'm a long way from base so we do a lot of the distance thing really. In fact we've only really just got back together after splitting up for a while.
I'm not sure how I cope really, but I think it helps that I'm something of the loner anyway. I'm happy to be by myself and I was apparently the baby that you could leave anywhere with anyone and I wasn't bothered lol. The worst thing is sometimes when I just really want to talk to him about whatever's bothering me and I can't. When that happens I somehow battle on but I don't really know how. I try to avoid counting down to him coming back because that only makes you disappointed when it gets put back or something, and never get my hopes up too high for anything. If I do look forward to anything I think in terms of weeks rather than months because to me it doesn't seem as long that way. And keep on with your life and your hobbies (because you want to have something to tell him when he gets back!) And remember that when you've done you're not superwoman and you can only do what you can do.
And don't read the Daily Mail, who seem to derive pleasure from reporting every single disaster there's ever been, in chronological order.
Hi mustntgrumble
This my oh first deployment, and he away until december.
i trying not to read anything on iraq or navy so i dont get upset, at the minute am getting an email everyday so it really helping. but soon am going to run out of things to write to him and will end up talking about crap that he wont really want to hear lol.
I know what u mean about being by your self, i like my own company but i sometimes i need to talk to chris about things. we only be together 7 months but i cant live without him now.
well i hope ur ok
rebecca
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