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hey everyone well im new to this so thought id say hi because i could do with the support! Im 22 and my partner is 28 he is in the army and has been for the past 8 years! i work as a nanny and at a pre-school so im always kept busy but its dosnt seen enough im missing him so so so much just every day is a struggle i seem to cry non stop on my bad days but i feel guilty when im happy if ever i was down before id always speak to my hunny because hes also my best friend in the whole world but i dont want to upset him or make him worry so i tell him its all fine and im doing good buttttt theres only 41 days left now. ive heard about this website so thought id give it a try as everyone i no seems not to understand or really care! any chat would be grateful thanks xxxx
Hi lovely, My names Stacey I'm 21 (almost 22 :() and my oh is also 28, a sergeant in the REME and has been in years.
He is currently in Afghan and I have 50 days til R and R, I am a room supervisor in a nursery and work full time, but it doesnt stop weekends dragging :p
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Hi hun welcome to wags well you certainly come to the right place there are so many lovely ladies who definitely know what your going through
tell us all about yourself hun my oh is a Lance corporal in PWRR Im a student hairdresser just about to start my 2nd year
aww thanks huni well im nearly 23 in aug and id give anything to be young again lol! seems like we have abit in common x
hiya hun im sarah 23 got 2 kids my oh is in kenya at the min, dont feel guilty wen ur happy he join the army hun he wont b happy if ur not;) all the girls on ere offer the BEST advice if i do say so myself but dont b tellin them i said there heads wont b fittin out the door lol
welcome 2 wags xx
aww thanks huni well im nearly 23 in aug and id give anything to be young again lol! seems like we have abit in common x
how strange, i;m 22 in august! lol where abouts are you? I'm in sunny devon :p xx
Hello there,
I'm Kat, I'm 30 and definitely would give anything just to stop getting any older now!! I'm in shropshire and my OH is in the RAF.
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well about me im rachael 22 originally from lancashire but moved to east sussex because my man got posted to saffron walden so ended up getting dragged here and ive hated it for the past 2 years ive been on my own apart from when ive seen my fella at the weekends and working my 2 job during the week and its nearly killed me but lucky thing is hes got posted to yorkshire in sept so im really excited about going back near home to my family! hes a LcPL EOD and hes currently in afghan at the moment but back in 41 days and counting this is his 2nd tour since weve been together and this has got to be the worst one yet anything else you want to no feel free xxx
Hey
I'm Lucy , 23 ( very soon to 24..arghhhh). My OH is in Afghan and has been since March. Back in August for RnR and I miss him like mad. But time goes quicker if you are busy and happy. You OH would want you to be happy and don't feel guilty about it ( although completely understand what you mean.. I used to feel that way too ) but I soon realised I couldn't cry for the whole 5 months until RnR as it was making time go even slower!! The girls on here are very helpful and I think you'll find some good support on here..
Chin up
Lucy XXX
is he back in 41 days for R&R or ed of tour?
Come join us in chat x
hey babe im lorraine, welcome 2 wags xx
hes back for good hes only been on a short tour this time because hes getting posted on the 1st of september he begged them to let him go (wonder what im doing wrong lol) so they gave in! weres chat????
thanks lolo nice to meet you thanks for the love x
welcome to wags hun, im 24 my Oh in Afghan atm, but is based in sunny Cyrpus whilst im still over here! we have a 2 year old daughter.
not too long til he is back, bet you cant wait! xx
Hi hun welcome to wags im Michelle been married for a year to my man who is in the signals, i look forwards to getting to know you better X
aww thanks very much huni i would never have enough people to moan too if you send me a message no doubt il get back to you asap
hello, welcome to wags, im emma!! xxx:D:D
hey emma thanks for sending me a message it means alot x
Hello Princess... Lovin the name btw..
Im Claire, 22, and my fella has just returned from a 7 month stint in Iraq... If you need help with anythin, just shout... and EVERYONE here is amazin, they will help you through stuff :D
Chat soon
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HI , im Helen, I have 2 girls and my oh is in iraq.... not back till RnR till end sept...:eek:
I know what you mean about feeling guilty, I was saying in a thread last week, about feeling guilty that I was out enjoying myself. I know i shouldnt.
Hey, just think not too long till he is back. woop woop.
Any way, come on here, everyone is great xx:D
Thanks claire and helen it has made a difference already ive had a really good day so far and getting by ok today so thanks everyone roll on 40 more days xxxxxx
Aaaw glad your havin a good day... 40 days will fly by trust me... whats that like, 5 n half weeks... :D woohoooo!!! x x x
Yep im so excited now chatting to every one yesterday made me reaslise that it could be worse so im just going to enjoy myself and savour the time that hes away and spend it on abit of me time making myself look good for him to get his bum back lol i think instead of being mopy and sad im going to think of all the things he likes and do them for when he gets back make him realise what hes been missing out on lol xxxxxx
Aaaaw im so glad you feel better and aspire to achieve stuff.. keepin yerself busy really does make time go quicker!!
Where is your oh?!! (excuse my blondeness if you hve already said)
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yea i think i just got caught up in feeling sorry for myself and ive even neglacted all my plants theyve all died so hopefully il get them back on track and have tomatos and beans and strawberries in no time!!! i can wait its like a greenhouse in my front room with millions of plants everywere! hes at BFPO 792 along with 4 other of my best friends
Aw bless ya, well keep busy with ya plants, and home time for your man will come in no time atall!!!! Hang in there, the waitin is all worth it, trust me x x x x
yea its not like its forever! do you ever worry about them coming home like if things will of changed between you or if there just going to be like hes never been away! i cant help wondering if when i see him im still gona see the same person i waved off! he should never of gone he was under analysis just before he went and hi psych said itd be good for him to go back as his friend got blown up by a mine last time and my oh ran out over the mine field to get him and held him as he died he came back from that tour such a different person i didnt think wed make it but here we are again! im just worried its gona ruin him u see it on the news all the time and through talking to people
Oh babe... that must have been traumatic for him.. you can only hope for the best.. if you have made it past that, then i dont see why you wont through this, obviously he must be stronger to go back.. Try your hardest not to worry about him coming home different, or you wont be able to settle.. How is he wen u speak to him on the phone, etc...?!!
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i really dont no after he came back hed wake up every night and have the most horrible nightmares and hed prob kill me for telling you this and well everyone else who reads this because he thinks it makes him a weak person! its so hard because he tries to protect me so much and i just wish he didnt sometimes! when he rings up i can tell by the sound of his voice hes unhappy but he just says hes fine and hes enjoying himself and i just feel powerless because i just want to protect him so much all he says is hes a big boy now and he can look after himself just wish i could get out there and give him a cuddle make it all alright
Oh i can imagine he does have the worst nightmares after his experience.. but i dont see how that makes him a weak person as you cant help what your mind thinks about once ur asleep, the best you can do is just be there for him... you will be the person keeping him goin out there.. Try your hardest not to worry angel!!! x x x
yea i no he got pised off because i missed out one days letter because i send them every day im trying so hard to be strong and its all i ever show him he dosnt no how im feeling as i tell him im fine and tell him to have a good time and enjoy himself and il be waiting for him thats all he sees but somedays i just cant even speak on the fone because i just dont no what to say and i dont want to cry and make it worse but ohhh well only 40 more days to go its not a long time wen your going to be together forever
Your doing a great job babe, but can i suggest that maybe once hes home you maybe tell him how u feel somedays... only coz maybe one day you may end up blowing up and tellin him everythin at once! I use to hold everythin in, but it didnt help.. and my fella even said i shouldnt keep stuff in... and that he wants to know how i feel..
I think we all have those days where u dont know what to say on the phone, i had many when my fella was in Iraq!
You hang in there, and before you know it, you will be able to watch him smiling when he see's your face..
And yep, 40 days is nothin compared to a lifetime.. its the tiniest amount of time!!!
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Heya Princess! Glad your finding this site useful, isnt everyone so lovely? I'm Holly 21, oh is posted in germany. Hope to chat soon hun xxxx
thanks claire youve been so amazing dont no were id be without you lol x
hi holly thanks for the message much apreciated xxx
Aaaw bless ya darlin!! Im only a pm away if you ever need to chat, dont ever feel like your alone, coz your not xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
My oh get horrible nightmares too, I find them hard to deal with and when i am with him and he has them he wakes up screaming and crying but does not want me to see him like that, I just cuddle him, he normally then has a fag and then we go back to sleep! as of next week I will have 271 days till I see him, as he is going on a 7 month posting rather than a tour not too sure about R & R so if you need a chat I am pretty much free!! lol
thanks for the message huni was nice to no that other couples are going through sleepless nights aswell! well your not far from me so if you want to meet up while your oh is away then let me no sure we could pass the time~!!
that would be good thanks, are you on facebook? my mane is nicki thomas and I have a silly picture blowing a kiss if you want to add me x
hey huni yea i think ive found you nice picture ;);)
Wow Princess, i have just read through all of this thread, and i just wanted to say what an amazing couple you and your OH must be. Thats a hell of a thing to go through. My OH has just lost a friend in a helicopter accident, and i had no idea how to handle the situation.
I think it sounds like you are doing amazingly. Looking forward to chatting more to you. And i hope you have had a lovely thursday! xxx
added you back chicklet! The pictue was from my works xmas do and I was a little relaxed as it was my boss taking the picture lol!
ive got you now hehe chat soon huni xxxxx
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