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Met Neil in January last year. We were both getting petrol at filling station and i had just got back in my car when he knocked on my window and asked for my number. He phoned me next day and we had a quick chat, that was when i found out that he was in the Navy. I had a call from him a few days later, just chatting about anything, and then i didnt hear from him again for about 5 weeks. Thats how things progressed, until i got a call from him when i was just coming home from work. He was on his way home and wanted to see me. Baring in mind we had only seen each other for a matter of minutes and had only spoken to each other for the same amount of time on the phone iwas panicking a bit added to which i had the biggest spot on my top lip of all places so i didnt look my best. We met up and sat like a couple of shy teenagers not knowing what to say to each other. I was worried that he was thinking OMG what have i let myself in for and what about that spot. Anyway he told me then that when we saw each other in garage that day he was just heading down south to go back into the Navy. He had to go but said he would phone me. Didnt get a call again until he was heading back. We managed to have a very nice kiss and cuddle and then he was gone. Again i didnt hear from him until 5 weeks later, when he called me twice in 1 day. He said to me then that we had done quite well to see each other 3 times in 4 mnths(even though they were brief times). He said he would ring me agin when he was home and we could see each other properly and that it was good to hear my voice and that he wished he could see me. I have heard nothing since May last year. When we saw each other i didnt want to ask him too many questions i didnt think they were allowed to tell you too much. So i never asked if i could write to him. I dont know anything about him, but dont know if i should be waiting for him. Do they go away for that amount of time? I know that his job is his life and that he cant work on a new relationship like he could on civvie street, but i cant stop thinking about him, even though i have tried. If there is anyone with any answers or ideas would be glad to hear them.
So it has been over a year since you last heard from him? have you been out with anyone else in this time? we all have people in our lives we will never forget and think of but, i think you need to move on honey x
Hey Netty
I don't think in general they are gone for that long without any form of contact? If you had his mobile number did you not want to try and ring him or send him a text to see what was going on? If it has been over a year hun I think you might need to move on and although you proably won't forget him I think for your own sake you need to find someone else.
Lucy XX
Why are you waiting for someone who you've not had contact with in over a year?...and more to the point why are you so hung up on someone you don't even know and have hardly saw? As much as you probably don't want to hear it, you need to move on. Don't waste another day on what sounds to me like a brief encounter.
It sounds to me as if this guy could have been married, no one acts like that unless you've got something to hide and if he broke all contact from you so suddenly, he may have had an attack of guilty conscience.
How do you know he was in the Navy? He could have just been spinning you a line as an excuse. This isn't the first time some one has fell victim to a liar. Hun, do yourself a favour and let it go, wont be able to be in a real relationship until you do so.
X x X x X
Hey chick,
It's really hard to deal with a situation when you think you haven't a clue what's going on, but I think in the back of your mind, you do. Sounds like he's married to me too, or at least got a lot more important things going on in his life, and really, do you want to be wasting your time hankering after someone who obviously puts you quite low on their list of priorities?
If he were a civvie, would you put up with this and refuse to move on? No, of course you wouldn't. Even with our guys who are in the Navy, there are means of contact, they're not James Bond lol!
Try and move on hun, for your own sake.
Kitty xxx
Yes I agree with the girls, I dont think much more needs to be said!
Woah there, check me out, being nice for once!
HI Hun
Like the other girls have said I think its time for you to move on with your life! Im an armywag not a Navywag and I know that they can contact people when they are away!! Not been nasty but if he was interested in a relationship with you he would have given you his address to write to him and even an email address!! Not to hear from him in over a year tells me he was never interested and has moved on himself!
Sorry to be negative but you need to move on hun x
I agree, something sounds amiss. Mine is a submariner which isn't conducive to good communication but he texts and calls whenever he can, which turns out to be more often than I thought he could. A whole year without any form of contact whatsoever is one hell of a deployment. If I understand correctly you don't know him and you've been out once. You need to get out there and find a proper man x
Being a forces wag means waiting ridiculous amounts of time for the man you love- but waiting over a year for a man you've met 3 times is a joke. Neither of you have bothered to contact eachother so it's best to just be left in the past and forgotten!
I don't really think you know each other well enough to justify waiting a year for contact. Cut your losses and move on babe..
Many thanks girls for all the replies to my plea about advice. I had always had an inkling that something wasnt quite right. But just needed someone to basically spell it out for me. I hadnt put my life on hold for him( though it probably came across like that), I've had my kids to bring up. There is one thing though, if he is married, his wife must be a bit of a munta, because I'm no oil painting......lol! All the best ladies,I dont suppose I need to be part of the Navywags now!!!!!!!!
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