New Member Looking for Advice

[charmed73]

Hi Ladies

Thank heavens I have finally found this forum as I feel like I'm driving my friends because they just don't understand what i'm going through at the moment.

My other half is a submariner and we got together in Dec 2007. I was really lucky that when we first got together (even though I didn't really understand that at the time) as he was off crew so was home every weekend and we got to spend a lot of time together.

He went on crew a few months ago and has just gone away on his first patrol and I feel like i've lost my best friend and that i'm going totally mad. I knew it was coming and I knew it was going to be hard, but I never realised quite how hard this all was. He's only been gone just over a week and I was fine for the first few days but now I just don't know if i'm coming or going.

We used to talk to each other, email and text constantly. Hand on heart I don't rememeber going more then three hours without any contact, apart from when we were asleep and then we would have spoken as we went to sleep and then as soon as we woke up. To go from that to Nothing is what i'm finding the hardest thing.

Does anyone have any advice, tips or general words of wisdon how I can get through this, because september is a very long time away and at this moment in time I don't know how i'm going to cope.

Thanks

[shellbell]

Hi Hun

Welcome to wags Im an Armywife been with my fella 8years, Its hard when they are away but you kind of get use to it! The best tip I can give you is to stay as busy as you can thats what I do and enjoy the time you do have together.

I only see hubbi at weekends as we dont live in M/Q's and he is based 250miles away so we have to make the most of the time we have together. Im use to him coming and going for weeks/months on end as he has been to Afgahn 3times, canada twice then away on exercises but I wouldnt change my life for anything!

x

[charmed73]

Thanks for the advice, thats what i'm trying to do at the moment. My friends are being great and they all keep finding things for me to do or just turning up for a coffee, but i'm not sure how long I can rely on them after all my OH is away till end of Sept so I need to learn to cope witht his some how.

[shellbell]

I know what you mean about the friends thing, mine are great but they have their own partners/families and i find after a month or 2 they start to get in contact less and dont meet up as much! I think thats where this site is great you will always find someone where has a partner away and everyone is just great most of us have been seperated from our fella for 6months so we all know how you must be feeling!!
Anyway where abouts are you?? What do you do I mean do you work LOL?

[charmed73]

I'm in Manchester and I work in IT which is very very boring but means I have access to the internet at work so not all bad!

I think him being away has suddenly hit me today because it's my birthday on Friday and the one and only thing I want is to hear from him and I know it's not going to happen. Oh well there is always next year.