View Full Version : Marine bf goes afghan in sept :(
Hi guys,
Im a newbie on here and so glad i found this. Been reading through some posts and it feels so much better when you realise how many of you go through this and make it work.
Im only twenty but been with my marine bf whos 23 for two years, he is based in devon and drives back most weekend to see me.
Like everyone we have had our rough moments and broke up last year as we thought we couldn't go through with him going away. Now things are on track but as his deployments getting closer, im not going to lie im pretty terrified. Ive been away from him for nearly 3months when he was on exercise. The truth is I know im still young but i love him to bits and willing to stand by him, im just scared that I am going to wait 6 months and he is going to come back different, or hes going to come out of the marines and its not going to work as we are so used to a long distance relationship.
Also, he says he wants to be with me more than anything but at my age hes worried about how ill cope and doesnt want to be selfish by making me wait.
I just would love some friendly words to reassure me that its going to be ok.
So sorry for blabbering on for so long,
thanks for reading, elisaxxx
hey hun welcome to wags. it does seem daunting thinking about ur man going away on tour, when i got with my man he was already in the army and is based in germany so had to get used to the long distance from the start. i'm not gonna lie, it can be tough, but we all find ways of coping and this site is a godsend. trust me, these girls can get ya through anything. i'm sure you'll be ok, try to keep busy when he's away. you might aswel give it a go, i dont see the point in throwing it all away when you might find you can cope better than you expect. xxxx
Hi hunni,
Welcome to WAGs. M name's Amie, i'm 22 and ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years. Hes based in Germany at the mo and he's goin out to Afghan in October. As you already know, it can be extremely tough at times, bein away from ur oh for long perioeds of time but you get through it, trust me. This site will be a huge help to you, the girls are great support and on here, you always have someonr to chat to who knows exactly how you're feeling and understands completely what you're goin through.
So dont worry sweetie, you aren't alone and just try to stay strong and positive. There will be hard times, but then you are rewarded witht the great times when your man comes home. You'll be fine, and with our help, you can get through anything that comes with being a WAG.
Keep your chin up hunni and keep chatting to us lovely ladies on here. Look forward to chatting to you :D x
Hi Elisa...
I echo all that the girls say... there will be tough times, but there are tough times in any relationship. You've been through alot together already so you clearly love each other and have a strong relationship.
I would say try not to think about the deployment for now, you still have a couple of months to just enjoy being together. When he does have to go, all the girls here will help you and keep your mind off things.
The trick is to keep busy, maintain your independance, you own friends and interests and you will do just fine. And this site is a god send! You'll be addicted before you know it! xxx
Hiya Elisa
I'm Lucy, 24 and my OH and I have been going out for over a year now and he left for Afghan in March. it's been 105 days since I last saw him and his RnR is in August, so not long now. There are moments that will be really hard, and like you me and my OH nearly broke up just before deployment as he didn't want me to wait etc, but we have got through it. It is a challenge but once you have done it, its great to know you can do ( and believe me you can) you will realise you are stronger than you ever thought you could be . Key thing is to keep busy, and time will go quicker, plus throw yourself into WAGS as the girls on here know how to cheer u up on those down days!!
Best of luck hun, you can do it!
Lucy
Thanks so much girls,feel tons better already. speak to you all soon xx
hi hun. welcome to wags. im sarah im 22. been with shaun for 5 n half years now. yeah, as you know there are days that are so tough you dont think you cant make it. but you do and you realise your another day closer to being with him again. we're all here if you ever need a chat, a moan or a little cry. you've come to the right place hun x
hey hun welcome, to wags, my Oh is in afghan atm and im waiting on dates fro him to come back, this site is a godsend! I wish i had found it earlier but imsure you will be fine, as the other girls said try not to think about him going for now and enjoy the time you have together and we will all be here for you now and when he does go xx
Hi Elisa,
I'm Elizabeth, I'm 24 and engaged to a Marine who's currently deployed in Afghanistan. You wont be the only one, a few of my friend's partners are being deployed in Sept too. It is hard, but not as hard as your setting it up to be, Honestly! You'll have an adequate ammount of communication with your boyfriend during his deployment, not to mention 2 weeks R&R somewhere within the 6 months.
There really is no need for you to be worrying like you are, he wont come back a changed person or want to leave etc. Is this is first deployment? As from what i can tell, he's over emphasizing the impact it will have on you, of course it will be hard but it's something that you can cope with.....maybe he just thinks you can't. He needs to understand that although he's going on deployment, you're life will carry on as normal (or as normal as can be lol).
You've done 3 months without him before, and 3 months is usually the mid way point of a deployment so i'm sure you can do it again. Give him the best send off when the time arrives and put you're worries to the back of your mind. As if there is one thing that will prove to him that you can't cope, it will be expressing your difficulty of seeing him going away. Be stong for his sake and show him that you're going to be fine once he's gone. Even if it means bottling everything up until the second after he's left, thats what i did back in May and my fiance' was so suprised that i held it together, whilst really i was breaking up inside.......I know you'll be brilliant, you have this site for support and i can't tell you enough of how its helped me through the past 6 weeks and will continue to help.
Just enjoy being with eachother until Sept and after then, we'll all be here to pick up the pieces.....I'm more or less on here most days so if you fancy chatting to a fellow Marines wag, just let me know!! Welcome to the site anyway Elisa, i'm sure we'll have you smiling in no time!
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Hi Elisa,
I'm Elizabeth, I'm 24 and engaged to a Marine who's currently deployed in Afghanistan. You wont be the only one, a few of my friend's partners are being deployed in Sept too. It is hard, but not as hard as your setting it up to be, Honestly! You'll have an adequate ammount of communication with your boyfriend during his deployment, not to mention 2 weeks R&R somewhere within the 6 months.
There really is no need for you to be worrying like you are, he wont come back a changed person or want to leave etc. Is this is first deployment? As from what i can tell, he's over emphasizing the impact it will have on you, of course it will be hard but it's something that you can cope with.....maybe he just thinks you can't. He needs to understand that although he's going on deployment, you're life will carry on as normal (or as normal as can be lol).
You've done 3 months without him before, and 3 months is usually the mid way point of a deployment so i'm sure you can do it again. Give him the best send off when the time arrives and put you're worries to the back of your mind. As if there is one thing that will prove to him that you can't cope, it will be expressing your difficulty of seeing him going away. Be stong for his sake and show him that you're going to be fine once he's gone. Even if it means bottling everything up until the second after he's left, thats what i did back in May and my fiance' was so suprised that i held it together, whilst really i was breaking up inside.......I know you'll be brilliant, you have this site for support and i can't tell you enough of how its helped me through the past 6 weeks and will continue to help.
Just enjoy being with eachother until Sept and after then, we'll all be here to pick up the pieces.....I'm more or less on here most days so if you fancy chatting to a fellow Marines wag, just let me know!! Welcome to the site anyway Elisa, i'm sure we'll have you smiling in no time!
X x X x X
Said everything that needed to be said- u do have a way with words :)
Welcome to WAGs Elisa xxxxx
hi all, i met a great guy a couple of months ago, and fell completely head over heels!! woops!! he's a marine and we he told me straight away he wud be going away for 5 months at the beginning of july, we both saw it as a bit o a fling before he left, and decided t spend as much time witv each other as possible before he went and draw a line underneath it then.......however we ended up falling for each other and now my heart is breaking now that he is gone!! its th weirdest feeling iv ever had, and i had no idea wat t expect emotionally wen he left....all i kno is i cant wait 4 him t get back...and think about him all th time.....much respect to you all for being strong enough to cope wiv this all th time, i pray that it gets easier, and that he comes back to me safe and sound, i have never so much looked forward to the winter!!!!
hey hun, welcome to wags, where has he gone?
My OH in Afghan at the min, he went in May but still waiting on dates for him to come back! It is hard, esp when you havnt been together that long, but hang on in there, get a calender to count off the days on, it helps seeing them going down!
xx
he went to iraq this weekend -still havent heard anything from him :-( am busying myself wiv friends and family, and have just moved house so have lots on my mind to distract me (well thats the theory anyway!!)
xx
at least ur keeping busy hun. thats the best thing to do. i hope you hear from him soon. i'll be in ur shoes later this yr when my oh goes to Iraq!! he normally looks forward to tours but i dont think he wants to do this one, he seems to just want to be at home with me!! i'm sure it'll go fast for ya, have u got rnr dates yet?? xx
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