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Hi All,
I have just read the threads ans they are full of great advice. I have a question that im hoping can be answered.. My boyfriend of 3years is hoping to join the Marines and is doing his PRMC 2moro!!! Im fine with it and have been supporting him throughout his endless training etc, but my only worry is not if but when hes passed the PRMC (I have faith in him LOL) and has completed the 32 weeks RT he will be living in one of three Marines bases. I will still be living in my home town and am wondering how a relationship survives when you are living separately like that. I know it would be easier if we lived together so we could see each other more often but at this moment in time I am not willing to move near to one of the bases, maybe in the future but not anytime soon. So please help me out and give me some advice on how you are all coping or coped with this situation.
Thank you x x x x
Hi ya hun, it does get easier and thats the truth.
My boyfriend has been in the navy for 10 years, we met last October and when I found out he was in the Navy I paniced that we would not survive not seeing each other, plus the week after we got together he went to sea for almost two months and with him being a Submariner that means two months with hardly any contact.
I had only ever gone out with blokes who I see all the time and it was a big culture shock, but you get used to it and it does work out.
He will probably get weeks off etc where you can go to him or he comes to you and believe it or not you do get used to having quality time of your own and it makes you look even more forward to them coming home
xxxx
sorry meant weekends off, its this heat xxxxxx
Hey twinkle....
I have had my boyfriend at a base close to me for the past six months and he is about to change bases so we are about to go through this long distance thing.
For me i think the key is to have your own independance, keep yourself busy with your own friends, family career and stuff. Then make the most of the weekends and leave that you get to have together. In some ways it makes the time you are together much more special.
Time does make it easier. As does the support of these wonderful ladies who are all in the same boat and all understand how you are feeling.
Welcome to WAGS xxx
Hi hun welcome to wags!
Im Michelle im married to a soldier and have been together 8years now, i dont live on camp as we have our own home near our family and friends. He is based 250miles away so only get to see him at weekends it works really well as during the week im busy working! then we have weekends to spend together it also makes your relationship alot stronger. x
Shell is so right, me and my boyfriend are 200 miles apart now as im in Birmingham and he is in Plymouth when we first hooked up he was in Glasgow so that was even further but you survive the distance and as Shell says it does make your relationship stronger and you do appreciate the time you spend together more
xxxx ;)
Hi Twinkle,
My name's Amie and ive been with my OH for nearly 4 years. The long distance relationship thing can work hunni, and really well for that matter, and many if the girls and their partners on this site are proof of that, so try not to worry or panic. I know how you must be feeling though. When i met my OH and he told me he was in the army, my initial reaction was one of surprise, as i'd never really contemplated the idea of having a long distance realtionship before, and i was anxious about how it would work. However, it really is true that you become accustomed to the whole concept of being away from your OH for long periods of time. I'm not sying that it's a bed of roses, coz as im sure you know by now, being a forces WAG can be very difficult at times, but if you love your OH and want to make a life with them, then it's all worth it. My Oh is based in Germany at the moment and i stillive in England, and we're a really happy, strong couple. In fact, my OH has never been based nearby to me, and the closest place he was based was Colchester and I live in Derbyhire, so even that wasnt particularly close. I'm sure you'll cope just fine hunni, you just need time to adjust to the way of life, andyou'll get plaenty of advice and help from this website. So try not to worry, you aren't alone. If you ever need to chat, then dont hesitate to PM me :) x
Hi Hun
Welcome to Wags!! When I first met my man he was in Northern Ireland and I was in UK but we saw each other every weekend and made it work. You can make it work as you love him and you will learn to adapt as being without them is a far worse option.
Distance doesn't mean your relationship ends, it just means you have to find other ways to be close and to communicate with each other than in person. It is a new way of life but a really exciting one .
I'm sure you are more than capable of the challenge ahead and you already sound so supportive so keep up the good work!!
Love Lucy XXX
Hi Twinkle,
I'm Elizabeth, engaged to a Royal Marine who's currently deployed in Afghanistan. First of all, i wish your boyfriend many successes in his endavours to join the Marine's.....i'm sure if he's been training hard he'll do just fine.
After he's done his 32 weeks, he'll be posted to either Scotland, somewhere down south (close to where he'll be training in Lympstone) or Northwood and as he'll only be there for less then 6 months, his proper training for his role in the Marine's wont start so his weekends will be pretty much his own to travel home to see you (unless he's posted to Faslane, in that case, 6 weeks out of 10 are spent 'behind the wire' where he wont be able to leave to come home on weekends). Once he does get to his permanent camp, you'll both get into a routine and you'll notice that at certain times of the year, he'll have more time off than others.....so make the most of it!!!!
I've been with my fiance nearly 2 and a half years and we've done the long distance thing all the way through. I have no intentions of moving closer to him as we enjoy our relationship just the way it is. I have my own life and career that i couldn't give up to live with my OH and i know he wouldn't want me to. You'll find that the distance will make your relationship stronger and you'll appreciate the time spent together.
As for moving closer to him in the distant future, i'd at least wait until you were married as postings come up all the time so it wouldn't be worth living close to him unless it was on camp as you'd be moving quite a lot. In the duration of my relationship with my OH, he's had 4 different posting to 4 different areas of the country and is due another move a couple of months after he returns from Afghan. Trust me, the Marine's never keep their personnel sitting round in one area for long, they get rotated all the time!!
Welcome to Wag's anyway, i hope you get all the support and infomation you need....plus we have a great laugh here too so just join in and have fun!!
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hey hun welcome to wags
My Oh is in Afghan at the minute but is based in Cyprus, whilst me and our daughter still live in the UK, and it works, he finds it hard not seeing her grow up but it makes the time we have together as a family more special.
As they say absence makes the heart grow fonder and it does, it takes a while to get used especially if you are used tohaving them around but as long as you keep busy and make time for each other when he is around it can and will work! xx
Hi Ladies,
Just wanted to say a huge thanks for all your replies. Many wise words of which all made complete sense. Think I was a bit hasty about worrying about the whats, whens etc etc. Im just goin to support him whatever he chooses to do and take one day at a time. All your advice made me realise things can work out and i feel much more confident things will be ok now. This site is brilliant been on here for hours reading all the threads, see what you all mean that this site will help the lonely nites LOL.
Thanks again for all your advice x x x
hi and welcome to wags xxx
Hi hun welcome to wags..... my oh is usually in germany, although in iraq at the moment..... it does work..... you just have to work with it....we have been together 2 years xx
Hello and welcome ...
Wow that's quite a distance!! Where in the UK will you be settling? xxx
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