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Hey girls!
I'm new here so be gentle!lol!
My other half has been in the raf since April and is due to be based at raf Kinloss, at least he is back in scotland.Oh yea we're scottish and he's been down south since he started.He hasn't been home and i've only been down to see him twice.We usually text or phone each other every night but he has been ill the past 2 weeks with stress.This has meant he hasn't been in touch as much.However the dreaded paranoia has started to come into play with me.
We have been together 2 years but split up at the start of the year for a couple of months until he asked me back. A month or so later he was away.We both saw different people in this time we were appart and the paranoia of him continuing talking to this girl has begun to cross my mind.
I know i might be being silly but the thoughts cross my mind.
I was wondering how you girls cope with this and how i can stop the thoughts emerging.
Thank you
luthien
Hello welcome to wags!! I think when your with someone in the forces you have to trust one another 100% or you will go mad thinking about what one another could be doing!! Im sure if he has been ill he wont have been seeing anyone else, maybe the next time you see him you should have a chat about how your relationship is going to go with him been away and in the RAF!
I think your just going to have to trust what he says or less you get evidence he has been cheating!!
Hi,
go with your instinct !!! :cool:
Hi and welcome.
If he's going to talk to women then he's gona do it, even if you are worrying yourself over it. And the chances are, if you are worrying about it, you'll be irritable and question his every move. Then the chance of him getting fed up and going elsewhere will be greater than if you are fairly calm and chilled about it!
Just forget about it. He got back with you didn't he, why would he do that if he was happy with the other woman?????
Its easy for me to type this and it will be easy for you to read it and think "Yeah that makes sense," but the hard part will be to do it. Don't forget we've probably all been there at some stage and if you have your doubts just log on here and let off some steam with us girlies instead of ranting at your OH.
Speak soon. I promise I'm not usually this dull.
Thank you Girls.
I know i should trust him fully.I was told before he went away by some other raf wags that this could happen.i just want to find different ways to stop it going through my mind.i'm a worrier so i have the ability to over think if you know what i mean.
i try not to show him this as i don't want it to be more difficult for him.It's already difficult enough.
All I would say to you is- are you still in touch with the guy you were seeing? If not, what's stopping you?
If it's because you love your oh and don't want to jeopardise it- that's probably the same as him, he wouldn't have asked you back if he wanted to stay with this other girl.
If you were only broken up 2 months, he wouldn't have had time to get over you OR get serious with her.
He's probably just as worried, don't forget that he is away from you too.
Hi un, welcome to wags.... where are you living hun??? im an army wag.... but my sister and her husband are RAF she is at lossie and he is in Kinloss xx
Hey i live in stirling.its like an hour and a half by car.Which is a hell of a lot better than having 2 get a plane then a bus etc 2 where he is now!lol!
4 weeks til he's home tho!Ahh!!!
hey im currently living in kinloss, my OH is on the Nimrods.
I think we have all had our doubts, my oh was in hawaii for the whole of july and regularly goes away on crew visits or training etc., and its hard to get used to but in the end you just have to trust them.
if you fancy chatting further message me :) xx
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