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Hey Girls,
I'm new to the site my names Rachel and I'm 37 and live in Fareham...my Boyfriends called Rob and is a Corporal based in Chippenham but left 3 days ago bound for Afghanistan on a 7 month Tour.....so it would be nice to chat to other wives and girlsfriends in the same predicament...to be honest i would love to talk to anyone just to hear thoughts and ideas.....I'm pretty devastated and finding it tough going......We've been together a year so I knew this was coming and has hit me hard
Rachel
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Hi Rachel,
YOu have found a great site to help you through the next 7 months! Everyone here is in the same boat and all yet all have different experiences so it's a good mix of people.
My OH is Capt in RMP and currently in Iraq doing a 7 1/2 month tour - was meant to be 6, but that's the army for you! Ended up being deployed over a month earlier than everyone else! He is only weeks away from coming home now and I can't wait!!!
I know how you are feeling at the moment and believe me it does get easier. You will most certainly have ups and downs, but will be here to support you through good and bad days!
I'm 28, teacher. What do you do?
Squizza x:p
Hi Squizza,
Thankyou for your much appreciated reply.....Rob is in Logistics and is based at Buckley Barracks in Chippenham....he also had his Tour date changed about 5 times from January...he then also was one of the earliest to go out he should have gone at the end of March....but in hine sight glad he went now quicker he goes the quicker he gets back so to speak.....
I met him last year when he was on R&R from Iraq and then he went back for a further 11 weeks and that flew by.....now he's gone again and I'm in pieces.
I'm so happy that your man is coming home what a great feeling and exciting at least he'll be out of that hell hole.
I cant seem to understand why a 6 month tour is now 7 months..is it lack of manpower...I know alot of Marines are signing off apparently 250 in the last year.
I had a phone call yesterday and was so lucky to get out...he cant get a signal on his mobile so there be no texting on it so he said he would phone...stupid moo me i blubbed like a right girly which made him worry about me....his mum rang me shortly after and said he soundd very down...MY FAULT...so I'm going to smile and laugh and put a brave face on even though its killing me...
Whats the secret to getting throught it.....thoght I might go on the weight watchers diet and lose some weight....????
Rachel
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Hey Rachel,
Just thought i'd pop on after reading your thread, welcome to probably the best site that offers support!!
My OH is in Afghanistan and is due home in the next few weeks...i'm quite lucky as he's only been gone since January but have missed him like crazy!
The secret is to keep as busy as possible...i moved house the day after he went so i've basically spent the whole time re-decorating and his mates have been extremely supportive and have made sure i still go out for a few beers with them. To be honest i haven't felt like going out much, altho we all have a cracking night it's never the same cause you just want to go home with the OH!! now just resulted in taking a bucket of KFC home!!!
It's Pauls birthday (30th) when he gets back so i've been trying to arrange a weekend away to Dublin...managed to find quite a good deal, now just need to find the funds ...lol!!
Anyway, enough of me blubbing on....come and chat whenever you want..:D
Hi Kerry,
Thanks for your reply really nice to chat to people in the same boat....its nice your mans coming home really glad for you....hope you have your nice break in Dublin too.
Rob cannot text me as they cant get a signal in Bastion so we have phone calls and letters...but I count myself as lucky.
He wont be back for R&R till end of July...absolutely ages...trying to keep busy but its early days..stayed in this weekend didnt have the heart to go out and just too upset really.
Roll on July....mind you dates havent been confirmed yet...I expect that will change...
Rachel
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Paul is in Bastion 2...doesnt stop me from texting tho....he obviously cant get them...i know it sounds silly but it makes me feel better!!!
The time will fly by babe, seriously it seems like yesterday i said a tearful goodbye to Paul...The best thing is to go out even if its for an hour!! Some of the lads that didnt get deployed to afghanistan go out most weekends and i found that when i do actually get out they make me feel better...i think it because i feel close to him when im drinking to all the lads out there and i always have a good chat to them about how crap it is!! lol
I'm really sorry your feeling down but ANYTIME you wanna chat...i'll do my best to help cheer you up!!
Hi Rachel,
I don't think there is a definitive secret to getting through the times when he is away on tour - it is an odd situation when everyone is different and copes with it differently. I have just found that keeping myself as busy as I can is the best way. Make plans to do things at weekends in particular (can't remember if you said you live together?) because it can be hard being in the house on your own!! The only other tip would be to vent when you need to, even though that may nt neccessarily be to him- I am a great believer in 'it's better out than in!' Using sites like this definitely helps as there is always someone who is feeling the same as you!! I am sure you will find that he is frustrated at times or very tired because of the long hours he will be working. Don't take it to heart if he's snappy or sounds frustrated. I know that my OH is definitely getting like that now. He is so desperate to be out of there that I think the thought of lots of exciting things happening over here is making him a bit snappy. I just have to smile an remember it's not me that he is snapping at, it's the situation. Try to stay positive for your man and yourself and the time will pass quicker.
As you said the only posiive to him being deployed early is that he should get to come home early!? should being the operative word!
JUly will be here in no time am sure - the clocks go forward this coming weekend so we should start to get some lighter nights and some sunshine!! Hooray - saying that it has been blizzards all day here! English weather!!
Squizza x
Hi Rachel
My fella is of to bastion this weekend, our CO is taking their phones of them because he has men all over hellmand prov and he doesnt think its right for some to be able to get a signal and phone home and for others not to be able to so none of them will have their phones until r&r!!!!
Luckily i have been to the dependants brief so i heard it for myself otherwise i would have not believed it!! I also work in the local medical centre and get lots of info from there cos their dr and medics work with me so i usually get to know things before my fella does lol.
Pete is taking his laptop cos they are looking at installing a wireless conection for them so looks like i will have to download msn onto my work desktop! - any excuse to not work lol
look like we going to be keeping eachother company chick ;)
Hey Jennie,
Thanks for your reply greatly appreciated....you must be feeling sick with worry about Pete off this weekend...all I can say is I really do know how your feeling..I had my 1st weekend without Rob and it was a killer.....I felt low, depressed and it took all my might to wash my hair and sort mothers day out...how awful is that...I shouldnt be like this should I......
Robs out in Bastion now and said its raining all the time...so the heat hasnt struck yet by the sounds of it.....as you said theres no signal so no texts so we have phonecalls and letters he also said theres not many PC's so doubtful he'll be able to get on one to chat.....so phonecalls it is....I must try and put a brave face on well voice.
What camp are you on and where do you live???
Robs currently at Buckley Barracks and I stayed in his room with him when he had the dentist one morning.....we walked out to the cheers of loads of squaddies on the parade ground LOL LOL quite embarrassing but amusing all the same.
Its great to chat with people who are going through the same thing...I find it hard to chat with civvie friends about it as they seriously dont understand and expect me to snap out of it.....
It would be nice to chat more Jennie.......I hope you have a good day at work..mine is rubbish...forgot to mention I work for Zurich Insurance and currently at Risk of losing my job...GREAT AY...doesnt rain but it pours...ha ha
Chat Later.....I have MSN...rm_ellison@talk21.com...feel free one and all to add me....
Rachel
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Rachel,
I work at the medical centre in Larkhill on Salisbury Plain, next to stonehenge, I am the senior practice nurse there, im lucky to work in the camp that pete does cos i get loads of info lol. We live together in Amesbury and the only positive side to him going away is that there will be no green army kit all over the place lol.
We have done nothing but alternate between crying and arguing but i hear from the other girls here that that is normal - which i was glad to hear cos its been driving me mad!
have tried to download msn at work but its been barred so will do it at home. I know they get issued their free phone cards but they can buy more as well which is just as well if there arent many computers for them, looks like its waiting for the phone to ring then and i better make sure he got loads of blueys and pens in his bag lol.
why are you going to lose you job? hopfully it wont happen.
ttfn x
Hey Jenni,
My jobs at Risk as 800 jobs are about to go here at Zurich....I could do with a change so hoping it will happen...been here nearly 4yrs.
Rob said in his call that theres not many PC's for about 5,000 guys out there so it would be a great idea to makesure pete has loads of paper and pens....
Its true about the argueing and crying....on our last weekend 2wks ago we went to Bournemouth and i cried my eyes out and couldnt stop and all my mascara ran and i looked like that bloke from Kiss...LOL LOL then that evening we had a bust up over something so stupid...which I regretted but we were cool in the morning...good job though!! took him back to camp and the waterworks came on again...had his mum with me so had to try and control it as I was driving....lol...he couldnt wait to get over the NAAFI Bar ha ha blokes ay
Gonna try and drop some weight and do things i dont normally do like Hoover my car and clean my bedroom...ha ha lol just generally stay busy...talking helps seriously its a great comfort...
Rob and i dont live together as he is at camp all week and I live in Fareham 90 miles from his camp so he knocks off and as from 4pm Friday were together till Sunday night when he goes back.....he has 20 months left in the Army then were going to get somewhere and settle down...
If you fancy chewing the fat or feel down lets chat ...so glad I came on here now....
Rachel
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hi rachel
how did you 2 meet then living so far away or does his mum live close to you (just remembered you had her in the car which was prob a nightmare, my friend asked if i wanted her to come with me but i think is better to be alone so you can say what you want to or cry or get some last minute sex or whatever lol )
pete and i met while i was out on a girly night out with friends following my husband having an affair, i was oh so not in the mood to be chatted up and def not by another soldier - my ex was a soldier and i live in a garrison area so not a lot of other options lol !! but we got chatting and the rest is history really.
he is busy writing his ' just in case i die' letter to me this afternoon, he has done his will etc but i think this letter is the harder thing to write, he's been putting it of until now......hopefully i will never have to read it.
How long have you and rob been together? did i read that he was a cpl....its hard trying to remember everyones details but im sure it will get easier lol, got any kids etc etc etc..
my biggist aim is to lose weight while he is away to - 6 months of dieting and exercise yipeeeee NOT :(
Jenni,
I met while Rob while he was on R&R from Iraq...(yet another tour..ha ha) a year ago and we hit it off immediately....he went back and it wasnt so bad as he could text and write and get on MSN so it was like he wasnt away just on a long exercise..lol lol and the time flew he was gone 11 weeks...when he came back we had holidays and fun, fun , fun.....
This is a different thing though all together I really miss the texting which kills me...the texts save me sometimes makes me think he's down the road so to speak....but my mobile is cold and quiet...LOL
Robs parent live in Romsey 15 -20 miles away from me and I'm always there...well when he's around...so taking her back to camp was the only option....believe me I had thought about the last bit of bonkies BUT his mum was very upset so decided to ask her to come along...she was grateful and I was glad of the company it worked both ways.
We have no children...although we love practising...LOL and yes he's a CPL in Logistics so I'm praying he never has to go outside camp.....
What does Pete do...I take it if he's writing a last letter he's gonna be venturing outiside bastion???? still silly though tell him I said not to bother...Just too much reality all at once if there writing stuff like that....as far as I'm concerned Rob's coming home and thats that...
I have so much weight to lose its ridiculous...why do bad things taste so lush ay.....and it always goes straight to my buttox and gut...amazing ay...lol
I gotta get a new job too.....
I think you went for another solider because your addicted to the uniform and its a way of life you know and can deal with.....I used to go out alot with navy but Rob has def opened my eyes to whats going on around the world.....
BTW...I much prefer the desert kit...LOL
Rachel
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Hi Rachel, online at the same time as someone else is rare!! How are you? I'm not having a great day today and OH hasn't called, so feelin bit crap. Am teacher and have parent's evening all this week - so going to be long and quite dull for the rest of the week too! Sorry to be down in the dumps!!
Squiz x:(
Hey Squizza,
You sound hacked off girlfriend....here goes me margie proops bit...when Rob was in Iraq last year I had only just met him and used to worry when he didnt call or text..there was always a reason..either phone lines were done, he was still working or had fallen asleep because he was so tired.....dont worry honey please....wherever your man is he loves you OK..XX
Mondays are not a nice I always feel weird driving in and usually end up not doing any work till at least lunchtime....lol all I wanted to do was look at Robs pic and talk to you lot on here all day.....you've all made me feel better.....Oh and I eat alot..ate loads of rubbishy things like Crisps, chocolate I then felt guilty and had a low fat sandwich....bit late...lol
Its good to chat..it helps I just want to be help if I can......we all support each other...
Dont be down you have too much to look forward to OK..
Rachel
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Hi Rachel
I just I would say hi and introduce myself. Its nice to meet you and read about you and Rob.
Speak soon
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Hey Laura,
Thanks alot great to meet you......hope we can have a chat soon....
Take Care
Rachel
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Hi there Rachel,
Thanks for that message. Was definitely not a happy bunny yesterday! Feelin much better today - walked in after a late one at work to the phone ringing, it was the Capt! Was good to hear his voice as walked in the door - that's what I miss the most, just havin him there to say hi to as soon as I get in!! So well done him...He also said that he should be coming home the day earier than we had thought, which is also great news!! Am very excited now - my days to tick off are getting less and less.
Hope you are havin a good day?
Squiz x
Hey Squiz,
Some things are just worth waiting for arent they...like our guys to call...I had one call from Rob last Saturday and hoping i get another this weekend although he's written to me twice so far...I love getting letters especially when i see the bluey envelope...ha ha
Its worse for you lot as I dont live with Rob as he lives on camp and I see him on a Friday till Sunday...so you lot have the memories of your fella's around all the time and its more difficult emotionally....but its worse for me on a Friday and the weekend.....
I'm glad your OK and sounding VERY excited about your man coming home...chuffed for you....when's he home?? and how longs he been out there??
Rach
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