View Full Version : Hi i am newbie. My marine deploys to Afghan tmrw :(
Hiya all
I am new to all this and not sure how it all works. My boyfriend who i have been with for about 3 years, is deploying to Afghan tmrw with 6 months. I am in pieces and really dont know how i am goping to cope. Its is first time deploying out there and he only passed out as a commando this June so he hasnt even been in a year. I dont know when i will hear from him or how often. It feels strange that i cant get hold of him and i have to wait for him to call.
How do you get through it???
Meeky moo :(
hey welome to wags,i cant really give u any advise as my OH is not in just yet,but alot of the girls on here are going through the same thing,all i can say from what iv read is keep busy and look forward to the phone calls and write plenty of letters,the girls on here ar great and sure ull be on here all the time chatting to them,x
hey hun. welcome to wags.
i know it doesnt seem like it atm hun. but trust me you will be fine. the first week will always be the hardest, you'll start to get used to it then. i know its not nice but we'll get you through it. we've all been there and know how hard it is. as kat said keep yourself busy. write him letters, make up parcels, go out with friends, take up a hobby. you wont believe how fast the time will go. take care. speak soon x
Hey love,
You'll be amazed at how strong you can be and at how quickly this will go. Six months ago I was in your position and joined this site - it's a cruel thing that people seem to join just before their OH's leave, which means that it's at the same time as existing member's OH's are just returning. The great thing about that though is that you can see we all survived!
Personally, for me - the weeks before he left were the worst. I was nuts. When I was driving home from Colchester I felt physically relieved - like I could get on with the business of coping.
I'd recommend the following to get into from the start:
E-blueys - sign up and send away! Write your letter in word and then copy and paste it in though, so it doesn't time out
Parcels - check out the BFPO address and the guidelines on the website and send regularly
Join a group
Set some targets - mine were all fitness and weight related - I've not done too bad
Make lots and lots of weekend plans - get yourself booked up
Stick around on this site - I owe my sanity to it!
Most of all - Welcome to WAGS!
x
Hey and welcome to wags!!!! Best advice is to keep busy... you always think your not guna cope, but you do find ways of coping darlin.. the first few weeks are hard.. and once ur into a routine it gets easier! Calls and letters make you smile so encourage your fella to write u lotsa letters and call as often as he can!
Come on here and we will look after ya x x x x
welcome to wags hun, hope you enjoy the site, the girls on here are great! Look forward to chatting soon xxxx
Hi minky moo i know exactly how u feel my oh is deploying in 9 days time and i to dont know how i am going to cope:confused:.
It's a horrible thing to have to go through but with the girl's on here who truely are fantastic u and i will both cope.:)
I deffo think the key to it is keeping busy and trying to stay positive allso dont watch the news to often as i think this can only cause u to worry more.
:) SO KEEP SMILING AND BE BRAVE CHICK :)
We can get through it just look at all our fellow wags who have done the deployment's and come out the other side just imagine how proud of our little selve's we will be in 6 months time.
Iff u ever want to talk post me and i will add you to my facebook iff u r on it.
hello! im a recent newbie too. we're quite similar; i've been with my bf three years and hes just gone to afghan for the first time also! this is an amazzzingg site. lots of lovely ladies to chat to who know exactly how you feel. :o:D
hello welcome to wags hun xx
E-blueys - sign up and send away! Write your letter in word and then copy and paste it in though, so it doesn't time out
god, wish id seen this tip earlier! wrote an epic e bluey earlier, so long, and literally as i was about to send it, the internet crashed! i was nearly in tears with frustration! haha.
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Hiya chick
My hubby is currently out in afghan he has been there about 2 months and only 1 month to go, it is surprising how fast the time goes, I know mine was only 3 months compared to your 6 but it is surprising how fast it goes. Dont worry if he doesnt call you that often my hubby called me today but had to wait 2 weeks for the phone call and before that it was 2 weeks (so in 4 weeks had 2 phone calls!).
One thing I will say is try to keep yourself as busy as possible as if you dont it will drag! You know where I am if you need a chat chick just pm me.
Take care
Nicki
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Hiya hun, welcome to wags! My OH is currently serving in Afghanistan. All the advice the girls have given you in the previous posts mirrors exactly what i would have said to you. My best tip would be to keep yourself as busy as possible and sent him lots of eblueys, letters and parcels. Dont worry chick, you'll be fine, and we're all here to help xx
Hi hun, you're not on your own.....my OH went back to Afghanistan this morning after being home for 2 weeks on R&R. I've got 8 weeks or so left until he's back but i've already done 4 months so it equated to 6 months.
I promise it will go over so fast for you....i don't know where the last 16 weeks have gone. My Marine was deployed to Afghanistan at the end of May and the time has just gone so fast.....and i'm sure it will for you. Once you've got dates and things, you'll be able to count down.....which might i add, is a very good mind trick as you can physically see the days whittling down. It only feels like yesterday when i started my countdown to R&R (which was 107 days) and now we've had it, i'm counting down to the end of this deployment.
You'll be fine, keep yourself occupied and your mind ticking over and i'm sure the days will catch up with you. Send your OH parcels and letters and try to fill your days and weeks constructively, if you're thinking about your OH all the time, the days will seem to drag. Most of all, keep on here, i think the majority of the women on here have been in your position, myself included so we know what you're going through.
Big hugs
X x X x X
Hi ladies!
I'm another newbie but have also signed up to other sites/forums which are a great help! My OH has been in Afghan for a week now, and we've got another 6 months to go :(
Just wanted to say to everyone in the situation to stay strong and to keep smiling.
L XX
hey welcome.... i'm new here too & now survived a month with OH in afgan! Expect ups and downs and never expect a call coz then you are not disappointed. The thing I have found that has really helped is writing letters every night... like a diary! Bit sad but my Oh loves them.
keep coming on here , everyone has loads of advice... it gets quiet addictive!
Does anyone else find it weird that you know all sorts of info about people but don;t even know what they look like!!????
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