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Charliegirl
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Hi all, I guess I need to get a little off my chest, and maybe chat with some people who have already been there and understand a little more about the NavyWag life!

I have been dating my fella for a year, it was a year today in fact that we had our first date! He's a Lt Cdr - something to do with Engineering - I don't completely understand the whole terminology thing yet, it sometimes sounds like a new language, which doesn’t help matters!

He is going to Iraq in January for 10 weeks and I am starting to get a little nervous about how I am going to deal with him not being around as I know how iky I feel when I leave him for a day! We live 30 miles apart and so only see each other once or twice a week if we are lucky, as he has been home on a sponsored MBA programme so has been really busy with study and a hectic work schedule. As soon as I get him back from that - he goes away. I'm feeling a little blue!

He won’t speak to me about it, and when I try he just tells me that I knew about this before we started dating and that’s the way it’s going to be. He wont tell me how he feels about it all, and I don't know if he is going to miss me as much when he is away - he won’t talk to me.

He was talking about buying a house and us moving in together, and he wants to do it before he goes, but we can’t make the moving thing work with my job and where to buy so it all seems to have gone on the back burner, he is still going to buy but I’m not going to move in yet. I just feel that everything is always going to have to wait. I don’t do patience very well!

I know I’ll get used to it, and it is good we have this short run before he joins his ship at the end of next year. I’m definitely looking forward to making some new NavyWag friends to keep me sane!

Charlie x

aftershockqueen
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hey charlie!!!
welcome to wags!!!
i'm a navy wag too.....i have been with my oh for just over a year, and he was the same with me! you knew what you were getting yourself into when we started dating etc!! he is currently away in afghan till dec.....ooooo i cant wait for him to come home! i found the first week or so really hard work, but it soon passes and i'm just getting more n more excited about seeing him! think i have suprised him how independent i have become n i havent cried down the phone once yet!!:eek:
i'm clueless with the technical terms too hun...dont worry im sure that we will both get there in the end....or just keep nodding in the right places for the rest of our lives!
oh is a aircraft engineer on harriers....n based with the raf in midlands! where is your oh based??
x x ;)

IgotaSexySoldier
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Hey and welcome to wags! Everyone is lovely on here, im not a NavyWag myself but there are a few on here, who can help you out babe!
Most girls on here have been thru or are going thru a tour with their fella's so we can all help you out if you need advice!
Hope to chat soon x x x

nicki822
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Hi Charlie

I am a Navy WAG to been one for just over 5 years, my hubby is currently away in afghan, it is hard with them being away and no matter what people say it gets harder but your coping mechanisms get better, even though you know what to expect as they are in the armed forces when you meet it doesnt make things any easier!

I think they just want to forget about going away as it is really hard for them, I know with my hubby he puts off getting his kit ready until the night before as he doesnt want it to be a reality. The advice I can offer is when they are away is keep yourself busy dont sit by the phone expecting it to ring as the majority of the time it doesnt (mainly because they cant due to operational circumstances)!

You will get through it keep your chin up and make the most of the time before he goes!

Nicki
xxx

mustntgrumble!
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Hi Charlie, I'm Karen, ex Navy wag but just got addicted to this place! The shutting off thing is familiar, unfortunately this is just his way of dealing with the situation. Which doesn't make it any easier for you but you have to let him get on with it, if you try and talk to him it'll probably just make it worse.

The foreign lingo, smile-and-nod thing is familiar too - I still have my "I know exactly what you're talking about" expression perfected!

Charliegirl
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I'm so happy to have replies! I think I'm going to feel at home here, so many of my friends with hubbies and bfriends at home glaze over when I start to talk about it, so it will be great to have hundreds of friends to lean on when necessary - I think in the new year that could be quite a lot!

- can I just check, may sound silly but what does oh stand for?

He is in Corsham at the moment pounding paperwork! Very exciting for him! but he usually does something with computers and navigation, GPS - NavyGeek! but I love him anyway!

I should know him by now that he does't really talk about his feelings much, but he does send me the odd love letter. I never cry in anything, my younger sister thinks I'm dead inside because I didn't cry in titanic! At the moment I'm just doing it all the time - crazy blubbing lady! I was trying to pretend it wasn't happening, but I think it has finally hit me.

Thanks again for all being so up beat, I feel better alreay!

Speak soon
Charlie x

mustntgrumble!
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OH means other half hun.

nicki822
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Hi chick OH stands for other half

XX

Charliegirl
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thanks for the translation - fairly obvious now I think about it!

x

Kate7767
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hey hun welcome hope that you enjoy the site xxxxxx

Pink Lady
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Hi Charlie,

Welcome to wags chick! :D I'm an Army wag myself but my OH is currently on tour in Afghan so im sure i'll be able to help support you when your man goes on tour. Look forward to chatting with you..enjoy the site :) xx