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Hi everyone, my oh and have been together just under 2 years and he decided the navy was for him before last summer. Im not sure if anyone has had a similar experience but when he announced this was the master plan, I was not incredibly supportive as i had no idea what life as a navy WAG would entail (so I have joined you lovely ladies to get some insight). Unfortunately, a few days ago my bf out of the blue decided this was not the life for me, and that he loved me but that I would be better off without him......this came as a bit of a shock as despite me being a tad grumpy about the prospect of him being away months on end, I was slowly coming round, as we were meant for each other and get on so well...It was worth the leap in faith in my eyes! It wasnt what I had planned but always knew we would get through anything thrown our way. Has anyone else experienced similar?Any ideas what goes on in a navy mans head?? :confused: x
heya hun,
firstly welcome to wags! and secondly sorry to hear to hear of your situation :( do you think theres any chance you two can sort it out?
ill fully admit that i wasnt as supportive as i could have been when my boyfriend found out he was definately going into the army, but you do get used to the situation as you have found :)
i think that if you sit down with your man and assure him that you know what you are letting yourself in for then he will be willing to give it a proper go :) none of us in this situation know for sure if its going to work out, but all you can do is give it your best shot and be as understanding and supportive as humaly possible and this will hopefully go in your favour.
good luck hun, and i hope that you two manage to work this out. having a relationship with someone in the forces isnt easy but it is do-able! and the times that you do see each other make all the distance worthwhile xxxxxxxxxxxx
Hi everyone, my name is Lou, I am 25 and my bf (or recent ex-bf :( ) has just passed his initial assessment for the submariners. We have been together just under 2 years and he decided the navy was for him before last summer. Im not sure if anyone has had a similar experience but when he announced this was the master plan, I was not incredibly supportive as i had no idea what life as a navy WAG would entail (so I have joined you lovely ladies to get some insight). Unfortunately, a few days ago my bf out of the blue decided this was not the life for me, and that he loved me but that I would be better off without him......this came as a bit of a shock as despite me being a tad grumpy about the prospect of him being away months on end, I was slowly coming round, as we were meant for each other and get on so well...It was worth the leap in faith in my eyes! It wasnt what I had planned but always knew we would get through anything thrown our way. Has anyone else experienced their OH getting all heroic and making grand gestures of 'you would be better off without me and Im doing this because I love you'? He has completely alienated himself from everybody and is determined to do this with noones support. Any ideas what goes on in a navy mans head?? :confused: x
Hi Honey
Sorry about your situation, what I will say is that the submariners are a strange bunch (my OH is one) and they tend to distance themselves from people. My advice is give it a little time, stay in touch with him and see what happens.
As for knowing what goes on in a navy mans head...I wish! I know that's not that helpful but they don't tend to be the same as men on civvie street.
It is really hard the time appart when they are on deployment or patrol (depends what type of boat they are one as to what they call it) but you do kinda get used to it and value the time when they are around.
I hope it all works out for you both and I am sure he will realise that he actually still wants you in his life when he is a little more settled with whats going on in his new navy life.
Tracey
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H i there, i think im awakening this tread after a while so not sure what has happened since. However when my oh decided he was going to go to the army, the weekend before he had selection he finished it out of the blue, he kept saying that he didnt feel the same way about me however the next day he told me that actually, didnt want to hurt me later on in the relationship after we had become even more attached. My view was that i liked him so much i was willing to take that risk. After a couple of days of him going out and having some time to think we meet up and he told me that he had been miserable without me and wanted me back as hed never felt this way before and wanted to be with me. Im not trying to get your hopes up babe but i think that weird things go through the guys head when things like that happen and its their weird way of dealing with. hope all works out xxxx
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