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Hi everyone.
I'm 27 and have been with my fiancee for 10 years. He passed his selection in Nov and goes in the army in March. Im supprting him 110% but sometimes i have the odd thought about been away from each other for so long and it kinda upsets me. How do people cope with been away from there husbands/boyfriends...?
Im telling u now hun, u will find away. Im not saying its easy, but u soon realise the love u have for them soon over shadows the doubt u have about them being away. U will find ur own way of coping, but a key word that comes up repeatedly is routine.......wen they are way get urself in to a routine and time will fly by!
O didnt realise its ur first post! Welcome to WAGS hunni! tell us a bit more about urself! wot is ur OH hoping to being doing? do you have dates for phase 1 yet?
hi bexey welcome to wags! is never easy being apart but it will either make u stronger as a couple or the opposite. keeping yourself very busy is a good trick to coping with the distance!
its hard goin being wiv a fella in the army. don't think any1 will say else. being apart is draining emotionally and you need a strong love to see you thru. but u have bin 2geva 10yrs already so r obv meant 4 each other :)
think it will be hard from seeing each other all time to then seeing each other every other wkend and thru basic u will see him for long wkend after 7wks. u can keep in contact with mobiles/e-mails & letters tho- in a way letters is good cos u write stuff u would not say, and its quite old fashioned writing love letters it may even add new sparkle to ur love life lol as u can write wat u can't wait to do to each other when u r nx togeva etc lol
on plus point u become stronger cos u r supporting each other thru tough times. Trust is imperative as he will be meetin new people going out on the lash. for me this has bin hardest not knowin wat they r up to & wondering if they r thinkin bout u as much as u r them. BUt they usually r just ur mind plays tricks! in the end every difficulty make s u stronger than u were b4.
If u love each other u will get thru it no matter wat is thrown at u. so be strong, there will be hard times but this site is gr8 to get advice & support wen u need it most. there will also be excitin times it is a new phase for both of you. plus if u bin 2geva 10yrs - eva considered marriage as u can then live with ur partner on camp lol hope it all goes ok xxxxx
hi hun welcome to wags!! xxxx
Hey and welcome to Wags chick. My OH has been away for 6 weeks just at base in Germany then Cyprus and ill admit it's been the toughest 6 weeks of my life. For the first 2 weeks i cried all the time, cried in the morning when i woke and realised he wasnt there, cried when i went to bed. But trust me it doesnt seem like it, but it DOES get easier. Like Hayley said the key is routine, keep yourself busy all the time and it flies back and soon he will be home again. My OH is back in 6 days and i already feel on top of the world, its so exiting when they come home, it makes you love them so much more.
Don't worry chick, even the least strong of us manage it. Come on here all the time, well trust me you will its addictive lol
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Hiya hun welcome to wags like the girls have said its not easy but you will find a way to cope we have to and it does get easier as time goes and now you have us to help too :D my oh is currently in afghan he is due back at the beginning of feb and I cant wait to see and it all honesty the time has flown by
Its not easy but its not undoable. Loads of people do it Iwas with my other half before he joined and we also had a young hild. Going from seeing them everyday to weeks and weeks followed by months on end onot seeing them is hard. But you adapt, you have noother choice toadapt. As Ijust sad to someone else look forward tohis passing out parade -it truely is anamazing day. Try not tolook tofar into thedistance either. Take each day as it omes.
You'll never be bored either, cos you will always have something to look forward to, usually its them coming home, but still, being able tohave those butterflies inyour stomach every time they ome home is great, wouldnt have that if the were in a civvy 9 to5 job.
My OHs cousin is joining up again - another one for the reme - he andhis wife have 2kids, shes going tohave to play single mother while he goes learn how tobeasoldier lol
hey! welcome to wags!
we do it cos we have to, its not easy but it can be done! It might be harder for you to start with as you are used to seeing your OH all the time whereas I am used to not seeing him as its the norm to only seeing him every now & then!
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Welcome to wagdom hun. You will get loads of support on here whenever you need it xxx
Hi hun welcome to wags!!
Been away from them isnt too bad even when they go away for long periods you just kinda get use to it and enjoy the time you have together X
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