Where do i stand??

[xxlottexx]

Well as most of you will know me n my OH have been having some problems lately and have decided to give things another go, only i dnt know when i will b seeing him properly before he leaves for germany, i know hes probs all over the place atm what with being new 2 army life etc. but i need 2 know where i stand cos atm beer with the boys is far more important 2 him the seeing me, and im sick of being treated like this, i try n spk2 him about this and he just shouts n argues, he was lovely before he joined the army and it seems hes turned in2 a monster, i hate not knowing where i stand and i sick of treading on egg shells in fear of an argument!! we do have a slight love hate relationship but at the moment he's near enough ignoring me,and if i ring or txt him i get accused of hounding him :( if he wanted me wouldnt he make more of an effort 2 c me?? i agreed 2 stick around and wait for him n come 2nd to the army, but im not sure i can put up with bein 3rd, 4th, 5th etc.

what do i do???? xxxx

[**Carina**]

Well you do not want to do this by phone or text! You want to get him to meet with you first and then discuss this an have time before hand and after you have talked without anyone having to go off!

You need to no where you stand and you need to now that your not wasting your time and he loves you. Explain to him in person how you feel about this but also explain how much you love him! Ask him what he feels and if he wants to comit, if he does then work on it together say you want to try! Explain that you can deal with being 2nd to army but he needs to make sure ur not 2nd to his mates and if you are something is wrong!

Get him alone and talk hun thats all you can do and get to know once and for all!!!!

Best of Luck :)

XxX