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Just a quick query as we went out for dinner with my parents last night as an engagement celebration and I mentioned about how OH has to ask for permission to marry. My mum asked when we have to do that as we're hoping to book the church and hotel in the next week and OH had no idea.
He'll probably forget to ask next week when he goes back to work on Monday so thought I'd ask those in the know! We're not planning on getting married to late summer 2010 so do we go ahead and book it and ask closer to the time or do we ask before we book anywhere?
Thanks.
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Your oh has to send a letter to the co asking for permission to marry. If he goes into welfare or to see his clerk they should be able to help out xxxxx
and i would do it once u book your venues so then u know he is going to have the time off and i have also been told by the girls that you have to send the co a invite aswell closer to the time but andy has said most of the time they dont go and if they do they just sit there and drink lmao
Oh is thinking :rolleyes:
Obv they don't refuse you anymore, it's now just a tradition :)
You can do it anytime you want but the sooner you do it the sooner it's out the way.
He will need to write to his CO and it's also a tradition to send an invite to the wedding. (Oh can't remember if it's to the whole thing or just the reception.) I would recommend that you do this as I know one CO did take up the invite offered by one of the wives on here!! Lol :D
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You don't have to get permission it's just common courtesy that you do it. So all he does is to write to C/O stating the date of the wedding. Then if he has no other commitments on that date then he will be allowed the day off. I would also get him to put in his leave if he can. I would of thought he would of put in his leave though.
They won't say no you cannot get married but if there is other commitments on that date the Army would always come first. You would have to change the date. This is why he has to put in a leave pass as soon as possible.
Oh and you don't have to invite the C/O hehe That was years ago you did all that! it's your wedding
Thanks for the replies - OHs got a rubbish memory and I know if I'd asked him to find out he'd forget to and I'd probably still be waiting for a reply from him in 6months time!
He's going to try to put in for his leave tomorrow as we got some dates from the church this morning and are going to try to provisionally agree one tonight with the hotel. Just keeping my fingers crossed that they won't be planning on sending him off somewhere around that time!
And I'll get him to send a letter as soon as we've agreed the dates - just so it can be ticked off the list.
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You dont have to ask for it any more, Lew wrote a letter as curtasy, but they never even responded! lol
oh said its if you want a guard of honor or something like that so you dont have to write for permission but i think sometimes if your unsure about if he can get the dates off then its probably a good idea to i know i will you cant really rely on the army to keep dates clear lol.
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when we got married Lee just verbally told his C/O and then booked the days leave we needed for wedding and honeymoon!
He didnt write a letter, but this maybe cause his unit is very small!!
my oh never asked 4 permission, luckly it fall on a weekend that he wasnt away or on guard. he was also told he didnt need 2. the best news he had 4 me was that he has managed 2 get a week off as well after the wedding :) xx
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