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My OH and i recently got back together. Everything was perfect. We hardly argue and everyone who saw us could see we was madly in love. Then one night i went out with him and got drunk and i got a little bit jealous of another girl which when im sober wouldn't have happened. i didnt kick off i just told him quietly to lay off it. Then he got really mardy with me and said he couldnt cope with me when i get drunk (which that was the 1st time id been drunk around him). I dont usually get drunk but he was moaning saying i needed to let myself go a bit so i did and now hes broke it off and im here heart broken. I believe he still loves me and so does everyone else but i know theres nothing i can say or do to change the situation. Any advice???
honey he seems to have taken it abit to seriously, he should respect your wishes if you felt uncomfortable with that other girl, he should have understood you. if you really want this to work with him and you want him back, then try explaining to him how it made you feel. if not by text then write to him, sometimes letters are really good for getting your feelings out and they are more personal. good luck hun ((hugs))
Im not sure if he took it too seriously or whether it just triggered something bigger. im just going to leave it to fate and destiny on this one
Hey Hun,
Have you managed to sort it out?? i hope that u work it out and he understands where ur coming from, I went out with my girly mates once nigh and James (my now ex :( ) was out with his mates and some girl started coming on to him and we had a big arguement over it as he didnt see where i was coming from!! Men can be so stupid sometimes and take sometime to realise what they have done, Maybe u shuld do the same to him and see hw he likes it!! xx
im just going to deal with the heart break and try and move on and if anything pops up in the mean time then deal with it then.
i like your attitude lisa, good for you! keep your chin up sweetie, and we're all here if you ever need a hug. xxx
We broke up for 5 months when he was in germany because the distance was ridiculous and it really started effecting us but that broke my heart so i just kind of picked up where i left off. Im being ignorant to the heart break its there i just refuse to feel it
Aw Lisa sounds like this has affected you quite a bit. Hope you can move on soon hun, we're all wishing the best for you!
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Turns out i wasnt being paranoid he really did like that lass and now might be dating her!!! Never mind i got friends to help me through.
sorry to hear that hun- you're too good for him if thats how he's treated you!
keep smiling :)
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Really sorry to hear that hun, hope things get better for you!
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Your instincts were right then... sorry to hear your news it is never easy, stay strong hun and make the most of singledom when you are ready x
im sorry hun, i know its hard hun but hold your head up high. its his lose, you'll find someone really gd one day hun. ((hugs))
Thanks girls im coping pretty well considering. Just keeping myself busy. If im going on experience then he will back when i have begun moving on. He doesnt want me but nobody else can have me. The minute i find someone else he will get jealous and try and worm his way back in lol. Army guys eh wat we going to do with them lol
He has gone with the girl he was flirting with. Good instincts eh? What he doesn't know is that i think i might be pregnant. Any advice? I dont really want to tell him
hi hun I think you should find out for definate if you are pregnant or not, if you are then I believe he needs to know. xx
Big Hugs hun!! Before you tell him find out if you defo are or not as this is something you will both need to sit down and talk about as the situation your in with eachother. You need to prepare yourself for the fact he might not belive you too as he is with someone else he might think that your just doing it too get him back. But once you find out and if you are your really need to think bout weather u want to carry the pregancy on
Sorry if thats sounds really harsh hun its not ment to! :confused:
What has made you think u might be preggers?? xx
Hello babe, so sorry to hear that, he isnt the one if that is how he will treat you, thats disgusting! Keep your chin up hun you are worth more, i garanteed if he doesnt get what he wants with this lass then he will be making his way back to you. Have you done a preg test babe? Best to, and then do some thinking, It will be a shock hunni. I cant believe he could do that to you... all the best hun and if you need to chat then just pm me and ill give you my addie ect.. okay..Keep strong hun, once a wag always a wag and we are here for you! love Hannah xxx
I am but i dont think im going to keep it. I tried getting him to talk to me but he wont even listen to me for a mintue so hes not going to know
Omg hun im so sorry that this hasnt all come at the right time. Although as much as he's treating you terribly I think you should tell him hun, its not going to be easy but I would say its the right thing to do before you make any decisions.
Hope you're ok!
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**** hun...U really really need to tell him, this is something u both need to talk about...If he wont answer ur calls maybe write him a note go to his camp how ever u tell him babe i really think he needs to know about the baby xx
He wont let me near him so hes not going to know and i cant keep it because i just got into university
Hun u really need to tell him even if the only way is through email text or letter, even if u have decided that u cannot keep the buba he still needs to know babe!!
Things will work out for the best babe they always do in the long run! Hope ur ok hun pm if u need or want to chat xxx
I don't want to sound rude, but how hard are you trying to tell him?
If he won't meet up with you then send him a text or call him (witheld number if he won't answer) and when he answers just say "I'm pregnant, and we need to talk about this" make it so he CAN'T avoid you.
We only broke up two weeks ago so when he throws insult after insult at me saying how he doesnt want to see me, hear from me or have anything to do with me then it kind of puts me off wanting to tell him. I already know what im doing about it because if im going to have a future i cant have a child. I am in no financial position to have a child and im going to university. Now if he wont bother to talk to me then hes not mature enough to deal with knowing that his ex girlfriend is having an abortion.
Sorry to sound harsh but he told me he didnt care if i died so i doubt hes going to care about his child
Hun as harrsh as this is going to sound im just going to come oout and say it.
Your ex may be being nasty and horrible to you but thats no excuse not to tell him...He has a right to know and you will feel much better for it...Trust me im going through it all.
I WAS talking to my ex everyday wen we brokee up but i didnt tell him i was having n abortion and now he wont talk to me as he is angry with me and im even more angry that he wasnt there becuase i didnt tell him....If he is any kind of a man yur ex will be there to support you through it trust me!! It does not matter that you know that ur not keeping it but ur ex still has rights to know bout the baby its takes two to tango and all that jazz!!!
Im not saying him to tell him to his face over the phone on email on text or letter msn anything but your in the wrong if you dont tell him!!
awww hun, i hope u both sort things out very soon, he seems to of taken this very seriously but on the other hand shud understand, its only the first time u got drunk with him aint as tho its all the time.
chin up gurly xx
you have to tell him asap.
how far gone are you?
7 weeks now. i caught it pretty early. my instincts told me something wasnt right so the minute my period was late i did a test and found i was so got it confirmed at doctors. he has now changed his number so i have no number for him. no address for his new posting (he got a new posting before we broke up) and hes blocked my emails so he obviously doesnt want to know that i have something to tell him so hes not being told. i got good friends around me and thats all i need. x
Oh hun,
things always happen at once! Stay strong and things will work out.
However much we believe we can never sort out a mess we manage it and move on to the next problem! :o
keep chatting to the girls!
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I was out last night and i saw him with his new girlfriend. It made me feel sick. I just wanted to walk in there and say hes going to hurt you because its what he does and by the way im pregnant. I hate him so much right now. I know i could never trust him again but i just miss him so much.
Just needed to let it out.
u need 2 tell him hunni, and he myt grow up abit , i hope everythin works out for you and your ok xxxx
omg sorry to here your going through soo much all at once hun... like the other girls have said you MUST tell him about the baby, yes hes treated you badly but if the role was reversed wouldnt you want to know?? its only fair hun, stay strong we r all here for you xxxxxxxx
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