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Devon

My boyfriend is going ito the RAF in August.

I just basically need to have some idea of what I am letting myself into. I love him I want to be with him and I shall wait for him. I need to talk to someone who has been or who is in this situation?

I know it is going to be hard, i think i just need to talk about it with people who know what i am going to be going through. None of m,y family understand.

Can anyone help?

Vickyx

Firstly welcome to WAGS hun.
You will find all the friendly advice you could need here.
Everyone handles the situation in their own way hun, girls will give you advice on the best ways to get through the time that your oh is away but the best way is be strong and support your oh, although it will be hard to get used to at first you'll find it gets easier.
Hope you're ok.
xxx

(Wont let me use my font hmpf! Lol.)

Devon

staceyleanne88

hey hun welcome to wags, it is a hard life but worth it all the same! the girls on here are brilliant, and this site has actually helped me through this tour, im already half way there! come on here for support when you're feeling down, and try and keep busy

xx

Claireyh

Hiya!
I'm very new to all this too, just joined last week. Got married to my OH a month ago and am moving to Lyneham in July, changing job etc. all very exciting but scary too. I've only been with OH for 7 months and to be honest, he has been away for a huge part of that and it is hard, but it just makes the time you have together so much better!! It will be difficult for the people around you to understand, but we all do so if you're feeling rubbish come for a rant on here!!
xxx

Vickyx

If you get on with your family then you could perhaps explain to them your worries, they might understand how you feel if you explain to them :)

A nice reassuring chat with your oh will help hun. You'll be ok hun as long as you and your oh support each other then you'll be ok.

Theres always us aswell :D

xxx

Marker

Why'd you do a poll:confused:

This is a forces wives and girlfriends forum, so here is the place to find people are going through what you are going through. Many of us, myself included were with our OHs before they joined so have gone through the initial training together.

We all have had our highs and lows and experienced so much while being and OH to someone in the forces.

Missus Of A Marine

First of all Devon, welcome to WaG's.

If you want to get an idea of what you'll be going through then you've come to the right place. By browsing our threads you'll get a better understanding of what you'll be up against being in a forces relationship. If not that different from a 'normal' relationship, you just have to be a lot more independant and sure of your relationship with your partner.

You think it's going to be hard but i can tell you, it's not as hard as what you're setting yourself up for. You'll still speak to your guy most days and i'm sure he'll get weekend leave after the initial first weeks. Plus this separation will be the first of many so my best advice is to accept it, don't drag your heels and keep your head up through the tears. Just think, if you think it's hard imagine how your guy will be feeling and the very last thing he will need is you back home having a tough time of it. Understand it from his persepctive and i'm sure you'll accept this new turn in your relationship.

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mel w.a.lv craig x

hey hun, welcome to the site.
when i first got with my oh he wasnt in the army yet, he joined 3 months after so i understand your worries and confussion of what is to come.
if you love this guy that is why you will do this and get through this hun, it is not all bad. you will have regular contact and you will see him at xmas, summer and easter holidays and after his first phase training you will get him most wkends too. it is hard at first being away from them when you are used to seeing them when ever you like, but it will make your relationship better in so many ways, you will appreciate eachother so much for one.
this forum helps, i know family and friends are not always the most useful for help for we understand. also talk to your oh dont make a barrier as this will make it all harder on him, you need to communicate let him know you are there for him.
good luck hun ((hugs))

jennykins90

hey im going through the same as you hun, my oh is going in the RAF in august and half of me wants him to go the other doesnt.

what day in august is he do you know?

anytime you need a chat just send me a message

jenny xx

Devon

I know what i want im just sacred of what going to come ahead of us!! :(

We are both quite young,

what if im waiting for nothing..?

i love him so much.. he says he loves me to i know he does but we are both only 18?

was anyone else this young?

i no it sounds like im being really negative but i just have so many questions..

... x

Vickyx

If you love him then the waiting should only seem like a delay in being together again and not as a divide.

If you're both sure that you want to be together and that you love each other then nothing should get in the way. All of us girls have got through times of having to wait til we see our oh's again but its all worth it when we get them back again!

I met my oh when I was 16 and we have been together ever since!

Army or no army wherever he is i'll be waiting for him when he gets home.

You have to decide whether you love him enough to wait for him hun.

xxx

jennykins90

im 19 and my oh is 21 and i still feel young i dont feel like an adult!

if you love him then you will support him though it all be there for him when he needs you. yeh it will be tough but just think how tough it will be for your oh. he will also be going through a tough time. but it will be worth it all, the waiting, all those tears you are going to cry it will all be worth it.

jennyx