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Hi all,
My name is Hannah, i have been with my other half for two and a half years he is currently in this his senior term at Sandhurst and has just been accepted into the RLC. He has just put in his options for his jobs after he finishes Sandhurst!
I have always known that my other half was going into the army and i thought it would be a lot easier than it actually has been. Mark went to Sandhurst in September and should commission on August 4th, fingers crossed!
Now I am having a dilemma of what to do next, should i go with him where he gets his post? There are so many questions i need to know and i don't really know where to turn! We have been talking about moving in together for a while and the future but everything is so uncertain!
A little bit of background I have M.E. making my life more difficult as I am currently trying to get better, my other half is brilliant with the M.E is very understanding. I am not allowed to work at the moment, I have so many questions that I really don’t know who to ask!! I really hope you can help! Would I be allowed to go with him to his first posting although we are not married? Are we eligible for quarters? Are army wives as accepting as I have been lead to believe?
hello hun im lorraine and my OH is in the RLC. i have 2 children and i don't actually live on camp. he is based up in gloucester and im in surrey. tbh army life is like a rollercoaster, it has its ups and downs. obviously the downs are them going on tour and exercises. the ups, makes ur relationship more special. it does test ur relationship in many ways though. i think it comes down to how u are as a couple anyway. this site is great for advice and for forming friendships where others know exactly wat ur feeling. hope to chat soon! xx
Hey Hunni,
Welcome to WAGS! I'm Elz and my hubby is in the RLC too, i live on the patch (but it aint behind the wire) and were near Oxofrd. Lo is right army life is a rollercoaster.
Looking forward to getting to know you, and ask away with your questions xxx
Welcome to WAGS Hannah!!
Hope you enjoy the site!
xxx
hey hun and welcome to wags i'm hannah too :D feel free to ask away on any questions in general forum or anywhere you like really lol. but dont think you'd be allowed on your OH's posting if your not married, there are few and far between civil accom's but these usually go to very high up senior ranks. if your not married and want to live together or at least close then your best way is to rent out some place close by which i've heard alot of girls on here do. i dont live on base but i think its like your average civvy street community its not without its gossip and scandel :rolleyes: but for the most part nice and freindly. how you finding army life so far hun? xxx
Hi Hannah, Welcome to wags xxxx
welcome to wags hannah, im hannah to my oh is in the welshguards currently on tour in afgan.
your best option is to if rent out a place near where hes going to be posted as your not allowed mqs when your not married.
Army life is a rollercoster but its a great expeirence at times it really takes you on a path of self discovery and it really shows how strong your relationship.
You've come to the right place for advice and to ask questions the girls on here are great very friendly and you'll make wonderful friends.
xxxx
Hey hun and welcome to WAGS.
Unfortunately you can only get a marry quarter together if you are married. You could rent a place off camp but i imagine it could be expensive. I would wait til you know where he's being posted before thinking about living arrangements.
xx
Thank you for the really warm welcome to the site, it is so nice that there is somewhere for wives and girlfriends can come and get to know other wags! Our relationship is very strong and i am very hopeful that things will work out!
Army life at the moment is ok, I have known since the start of the relationship that he was going to Sandhurst. It was a bit of a shock going from spending all our free time together to seeing each other at weekends sometimes and at holidays. He is finally in his final term so we are both looking forward to getting to see each other a little more.
Hi Elz and Lorraine have your husbands always been in the army? Is it hard having children while your husband is in the forces?
Thank you all for the advice about married quarters, it was what I suspected that we would not be eligible until we are married!
What is it really like having your OH on tour? Is there any support from the army other than from other army wives? How do you cope with the press coverage of the war?
What is the RLC like, I don’t really know very much about the core to be honest other than what my OH has said. Sorry for all the questions. Thank you again for all your help so far it can feel really isolating sometimes!
hello hun, my OH has been in for nearly 5 yrs. we aren't married but engaged. he is actually leaving this september as he will be going to uni. the RLC is a good reg. my OH hasn't done a tour since he has been in, i don't know how he has got away with it so long tbh! he did go to canada for 4 months and thats been it. oh as well as exercises, but he has had it easy!
wat will urs be doing in the RLC again?
hiya hun welcome 2 wags! this is a great site & u definitly not alone here! xx
sometimes its hard with children i had my son a week before he left for afgan and i first i found it hard and even still at times as i feel guilty as hes not seeing his son growing he changes and does something new everyday.
support is usually limited to imediate family but then sometimes it depends on the reg some regs have groups for the girlfriends as well even treat them like they treat the wives. but to most unless your married you mean nothing to them
the key to coping with tours is keeping busy try not to think about how long and just keep your self distracted.
xxxx
My OH has just submitted his choices he wants either: 12 LSR (Abington), 9 Sup Regt (Hullavington) or ARRC Sp Bn (Rhenindahlen). There is a real possibility he may end up in Germany! We will work it out when we get there; there is a lot to work out!
Lorraine what is your OH going to do at uni. Are you looking forward to him being a civilian? Have you got a plan to get married? Have you both got a plan now? My OH really wants to go on tour ☹
Laura 88 wow the wedding is pretty soon, are you getting excited? What does your OH do?
Hannah I’m not surprised it’s really hard with children, I would love children in the future. It’s a shame that there isn’t much support but guess I will find that out when we get there. I guess I am trying to plan a lot a head but I need some sort of control with the army I don’t feel like I have any! How many tours has your OH been on? Is he leaving the forces?
xxx
hey welcome to wags!
you dont really get much control with the army im afraid. its taken me a long time to come to terms with the fact that the army will always come first, and that if he could, he would make me a priority. but, you will adapt to it
xx
I am beginning to adapt, the lack of control and not being able to make plans drives me crazy some times but it could be worse i guess!
Welcome to wags hun there's loads of help and support here for when you're feeling unsure about anything xxx
gettin very excited, jus have a chest infection at the mo so jus trying 2 get better! my oh is in the household cav in windsor x
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