break-up's and friends?

[aftershockqueen]

do you think break-up's make you discover who your real friends are?

and

do you still keep in touch with your x's friends?? ......and is it ok to do this??

[Lyndsey_998]

I have been talking to my mum about this tonight - my brother has split up with his long term girlfriend and all their mutual mates have chosen to ignore jamie (my brother) and stay mates with her. This is what I'm use to happening. Friends get kinda made to pick as otherwise it gets messy. is there a reason you ask?
xx

[aftershockqueen]

well i have discovered who my true/real mates are......i found out that my best mate knew what he had done to me and who with yet didn't tell me, yet she is a joint friend and was put in a difficult posistion by x! we havent fallen out about it, i'm just careful and distanced her a bit!

i think friends do kinda choose between you and a x and it kinda depends on the circumstances surrounding the split!

i am very close friends to my x's best friend.......well his x best friend..... they haven't spoken since i split with x......my x also did the dirty on his then best friend! its complicated! lol! im also friends with a few wives of x's mates, although i do try to keep conversation away from x, so its a healthy friendship!

[Andrea897]

yer i think it does show u who ur real friends r like i foud out bout afriend of mine and a few friends i got a bad 1 ifound out bout and the few that i see everyday are the 1s who have been there and gettin me throught and u lot of course. I think talkin to the friends i dont know i still spoke to agirl my ex works with up untill a few weeks ago but non of andys mates have tried to speek to me so i dont know hun

[tangobrown]

Mmmm.. difficult situation, you do find out who your 'real' friends are, when my marriage broke up, I was really close with a wife of one of my ex's best buddies, initially she was OK, but gradually the friendship diminised to the point where I just felt really awkward in her company - it didn't help that she was quite an outspoken person too.

However, my best mate was absolutely brilliant, and I don't know what I would have done without her.

Also, sometimes, no matter how you try, when you are mixing with ex's friends, the subject of your break up seems to rear its ugly head and then depending on the circumstances, it can be harder to move on.

Amanda xx