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Hey Girls
Right ive known this guy for ages now even before i dated my ex OH. Ive always liked him but everytime we planned a date i had to work or something came up on his end and then me and the OH got together. But now we are both single again and are seeing where things go but his recent ex is still living at his house because she hasnt found anywhere else to live yet. Now i trust everything he says because hes never given me any reason to doubt it but i cant help but think that while shes there she might try and worm her way back in. I met up with him the other night and i asked that if she knew he was seeing someone else would sher freak out and he said probably not but hes not sure but he would never let anything happen to me. What do you girls think???
Hmmmmmmmm if you have no reason not to trust this guy then I dont see why you wouldn't, but, I can see why you feel the way you do. Just be careful he isn't playing you both off against each other. Also why don't you just suggest the two of you sit down with her and explain. That way you can see her reaction (not that that should bother you, and also you know he has told her. Only help I can think of. Wish you all the luck with him x x
I am the worst person to talk to about this as my Ex did the wohle playing me off with his new grilfriend and was sleeping with me and her.... Long story. Basicaly he didn't tell me he was with anyone and anyways lets just say he took advantage of the whole situation....
But then again I lived in my house with my 1st partner and i left him. Yes I did meet someone else and we used to go out, but I never let him stay at mine and when he used to come and pick me up he would always toot his horn when he was outside and never ever came in.
Its not like we are dating. We are just casually hanging out and seeing where things go because neither of us want to dive straight back into anything serious so we are just spending time together seeing if we still feel the same as before. I want to trust him but ive been lied to so much by men it makes me wonder if they are all the same eventhough nick as an individual hasnt done anything to betray my trust. Its a very complicated situation. I know him and his ex really did love each other but she did alot of stuff that betrayed his trust and he realised he didnt know her aswell as he thought he did. But hes not being a twat to her because thats not the sort of person he is which makes it difficult to read.
I think you have answered your own question honey, you have both been hurt and probs both feel the same. Just take things slow, learn to trust again I know it's hard I am sure we have all been there at some point. Just take it easy and you never know what might happen :D I hope it all goes the way you want it too
Thanks girls. The main bit that bugs me is that shes still living there and i just dont want to be played off against her but i cant not trust him because i have no reason to doubt him. Wow my heads a mess lol Tis what men do to you xx
i think take it steady hunni and jsut be careful thats all i can say and if he says he wont let anything happen to you then dont worry if u trust him then believe that . big hugs i hope everything sorts its self out and that its ok
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