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hey!
i wasnt really sure where to post this, but i thought here would be a good idea!
ive just been thinking alot, about futurey things, and i wondered if anyone could give there two pennies worth, a problem shared is a problem halved and all that!
my boyfriend is currently training with the Royal Signals, at Blandford. and im at college, planning to go to uni next year.
so yeah, ive just been thinking how things are going to work, and it really scares me, the thought of things being even harder to work out. i mean, i know it wouldnt be half as hard as it could be, but it still worries me, and wizzes round my head alot! i really really miss him when hes gone, and feel ever so lonely. and as lovely as my other friends are, none of them are in the same boat, so sometimes its hard to expect them to understand.
thats my ramble over for now, i hope to hear from someone soon
thankyou, sophie
things with the army will feel easier hun as time goes by, you get used to working your life around the army.
if you want to be closer to him, when he is finished his training and knows where he is going to be based can you not go to the uni in his city. alot of my friends have just finished college and they are at unis all over the place.
he will get weekends and holidays off too, so you will still get to see him if you stay where you are, you may not see him as much as you like but am sure the time you do spend with him will be amazing.
hey!
my boyfriend is currently training with the Royal Signals, at Blandford. and im at college, planning to go to uni next year.
so yeah, ive just been thinking how things are going to work, and it really scares me, the thought of things being even harder to work out. i mean, i know it wouldnt be half as hard as it could be, but it still worries me, and wizzes round my head alot
Hey sophie, i just started uni just over a week ago, and for months before hand i was thinkin it was gona make everything so hard, especially as my OH is due to go out of afghan at the end of the year. but only a week in and im perfectly settled and actually feel like things are easier! i only see my boyfriend on weekends anyway (well, the last few months its been one weekend a fortnight...) and so nothing has really changed - we coped with the time apart for a year and half before i came to uni, so we can cope wiv it now! its also good becoz it keeps u busy and gives u a whole new social scene - which is better than sitting around at home missing him all the time (which is pretty mch wot i was doin before i came here!). ive joined some of the societies too so hav pretty much filled up most of my time! i was worried tht everyone here would b single and trying to pressure me into goin out ALL the time and getting mega drunk - which i new wud make my OH paranoid if i do it all the time! but there are loads of others in relationships, so its not tht scary! i would say definately go to uni and enjoy it! afterall, our men get to do what they want, and hav their chosen career - even tho its mega hard for us! so y shouldnt we take the path that we want? xx
Hey sophie, i just started uni just over a week ago, and for months before hand i was thinkin it was gona make everything so hard, especially as my OH is due to go out of afghan at the end of the year. but only a week in and im perfectly settled and actually feel like things are easier! i only see my boyfriend on weekends anyway (well, the last few months its been one weekend a fortnight...) and so nothing has really changed - we coped with the time apart for a year and half before i came to uni, so we can cope wiv it now! its also good becoz it keeps u busy and gives u a whole new social scene - which is better than sitting around at home missing him all the time (which is pretty mch wot i was doin before i came here!). ive joined some of the societies too so hav pretty much filled up most of my time! i was worried tht everyone here would b single and trying to pressure me into goin out ALL the time and getting mega drunk - which i new wud make my OH paranoid if i do it all the time! but there are loads of others in relationships, so its not tht scary! i would say definately go to uni and enjoy it! afterall, our men get to do what they want, and hav their chosen career - even tho its mega hard for us! so y shouldnt we take the path that we want? xx
Completely agree with this post hun hope you figure something out xx
Hey hun :)
I'm in exactly the same position as you right now. My boyf and I have been together over a yr and the whole time we've lived apart (I was in Ireland and he was over here), we only saw each other every other weekend or sometimes every weekend if we were lucky, so I moved over here for the Summer to be closer to him. Now I'm going back to Ireland for uni in January and he's moving off to his posting which is harder as regards access to airports etc.
Like yourself, it's all I think about and I just want to be with my baby properly :( Some of the girls have said to me that the most important thing is to communicate and to make the most of the time you do actually spend together.
But hey! We managed it for almost a year and it can work, it's just tough to get used to. I'm struggling with the thought of going back to that situation at the minute but it can work - you just need to appreciate each other, the fact you have separate lives and give it your all! :D
Mel, you mentioned in your post that you get used to working your life around the army. I don't know about you, but between my family, uni and my own work commitments I can't do that and I never will. My oh has chosen to be in the army - not me. Don't get me wrong, I support him all the way! Maybe it's just me being stubborn... But I refuse to let his work dictate where I live or study as my career is just as important to me as his is to him. This may make us struggle. Any opinions on this?? It probably seems like I'm being selfish - but I have my own goals too xox
Hey hun, this is my 2nd year at uni now and if anything going to uni and moving out gave myself and my oh more time together. I only saw him on weekends when I was at sixth form anyway soo it wasn't a huge difference. He lives with me in my flat at weekends and its great because we have our own space a lot more. Also you have a lot more holidays and days off than in college. My oh's camp is a two hour train journey so if I have a few days off in the week I often go up there and hide out in his room lol. Being in uni means you can focus on other things instead of moping around just waiting all week. xxx
hey =) thanks for the replies.
i hadnt thought about the whole being at uni making things easier tbh, id been pretty stuck on worrying about it. its been crazy helpful to hear how it is working for other people, obviously i know alot of other girls are in the same situation, its just all my friends seem so far removed from the situation.
as for being able to move to a uni near him, i dont think that will be possible, im applying to Oxford, so if i get in there (we can but hope :P), i think thats where il be set to go.
Nita, i do agree with what you're saying. its so hard to balance these things, and know if youre balancing them right. everything is new to me at the moment, and all very scary if im honest, and i know things might be dictated by the army to some degree (when we get chance to spend time together and stuff) but really i dont think your own goals should be put on hold. i dont think its being stubborn or selfish at all, just balancing things out, or attempting to!
sophie x
Thanks Sophie :)
I can completely relate to what you mean when you say your friends seem so detached from the situation. It's difficult to understand how it feels unless you're going through it yourself.
Best of luck with Oxford! I hope you get on the course you want!!! I'm going into my 4th year myself. You'll love uni, there'll be loads to do and plenty of new things to try!! :D If it's your thing, get involved in the student union - great way to meet people, keep busy and make the days fly by!! :D xox
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