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Arrrgh oh my god I though I had everything planned as to how I wanted the wedding to go. Now I am just, well, confused. I have so many different options to go for. Would you serve drinks? I was going to but it is really making our budget tight. We have have an extra £250 to pay on our reception for security :mad:. I wouldnt be so mad if had been made clear before I paid a deposit. Also we were told we would get flowers for free to suit our colour scheme but this is only if you have the wedding breakfast. Which we werent planning on doing. Well I am going to give you guys a few options and ask which you think would be best pleeeeeeeeeease.
Option 1
Luxury Buffet and drinks (30 guests) £761.65
Option 2
Hot fork buffet and drinks £871.00
Option 3
Wedding breakfast (15) then standard buffet evening (20) £817.50
Option 4
Hot fork buffet (22) then Standard buffet (20) £739.00
We were going to do option 1 and have a late ceremony (that would apply for option 2 as well). But I think if we done option 3 we could invite more guests but then couldnt have friends at the wedding breakfast and I dont know if seating would look right. Then doing option 4 we would still get a sit down meal get to invite friends then have some additional guests on the evening. I am a bit lost as to what to do. Arrrgh I wasnt stressing till I found out about the extra costs. What do you guys think is best? I have NO idea. I know when you have a buffet too not to cater for everyone. You always nd up with loads left thats why for the evening buffet I have only catered for 20 even though there will be 30-35. The kids go free too so I can add them on without paying for them :p haha. Hope you guys can help me.
Do you have to pay for security if you serve alcoholic drinks? Thats awful, I've never seen security at any wedding I've been to and they never mentioned that at mine! Take it you're just having a small wedding? xx
Do you have to pay for security if you serve alcoholic drinks? Thats awful, I've never seen security at any wedding I've been to and they never mentioned that at mine! Take it you're just having a small wedding? xx
The security is because it is a museum and open after opening times. I can kinda understand. Yeah just a small wedding with the people that matter around.
I personally would go for option 1, pick your top 30 people and enjoy, that way everyone is there for the ceremony and the food. I have looked into flowers and they aren't very much money so might be easier just to order them yourself.
Can you talk (or email) your oh and see what he thinks? It might be easier to make a decision then.
Good luck!
Wedding venues are a nightmare for hidden extras, we had to pay £300 for chair covers and then they wanted an extra £5 per person if we wanted to give the guests a choice of food - crazy!
is it all drinks or just one drink per guest hun?
is it all drinks or just one drink per guest hun?
The Drinks are three per guest. Bucks Fizz on Arrival, House wine with the meal and Sparkling wine with toast.
hmmmmm i think i would be tempted to go for option 2 or option 4 i think hunni. do you know what type of things they serve on the different types of buffets. i was at a wedding the other month and the hot buffet was chips and sausages and bacon and stuff very yummy but not what i expected from a wedding better than cold soggy sausage rolls though
I think we have decided on option 2. Well I have with little help from mummy lol. Got to tell oh now :rolleyes: lol. They serve lasange, hot pot, cumberland pie and summt else cant think what though lol. I am going to ask if they could maybe do a cottage pie of something. So its classic British food but cheaper. They will probs only give us two or three options with the number of guests. Although that is another issue now :rolleyes: arrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh. My dad is wanting my Auntie and Uncle to come with then means we have to invite my cousins and there oh's then I have to invite my mums sisters who I actually see more (huge issues with my dad sister, she doesnt like me because my mum didnt throw me out when I fell pregnant :eek:) Then if my extra family are coming then my ohs will have to. AARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGHHHHHHHHHH
the food sounds nice, its always nice to have summit "proper" instead of fancy meals which cost a fortune and then you get fussy people who wont eat them but with food like that i'm sure everyone will be happy. family situation doesn't sound too good, at the end of the day it's YOUR day, if you don't want them there then don't invite them, they'll hopefully understand that you only want a small wedding and can't afford to have everyone there. any improvement on the friend front? you haven't mentioned them for a while, just wondering if you've got things sorted :) xx
sounds lovely sheryl! i think you've decided on a good option there i think its probably the one i would have gone with! bad that your parents are tryin to push for more guests, think they may need reminding its just a small get together! remember in the end its your big day so dont let anyone railroad you into anything you dont want. sorry to hear about teh friction in your family, i think those who may cause trouble would probably be best left out as you dont want anyone makin a scene on your big day! i will be going through all this soon as my mum and dads divorce was messy and left a lot of family friction (thats why im going abroad that way i doubt a lot of them will come).
sounds lovely sheryl! i think you've decided on a good option there i think its probably the one i would have gone with! bad that your parents are tryin to push for more guests, think they may need reminding its just a small get together! remember in the end its your big day so dont let anyone railroad you into anything you dont want. sorry to hear about teh friction in your family, i think those who may cause trouble would probably be best left out as you dont want anyone makin a scene on your big day! i will be going through all this soon as my mum and dads divorce was messy and left a lot of family friction (thats why im going abroad that way i doubt a lot of them will come).
It is my dad mainly. Just to stop arguements and he wants to show off his little girl. I can understand why. My mum is all for me not inviting them and doing it how I want it. But if I do invite them I have to invite others then my oh's family. I think there is problems in every family isnt there lol. I dont think they will make a scene. It just wont be their cup of tea. I doubt they will even come and if they do it will be to say how much bigger and better their sons weding will be because he will be marrying a daughter with rich parents, so it will be a huge wedding :rolleyes:. I have no interest in that at all. It is not about showing off and money. It is about getting married and commiting to spend the rest of your lives together. sorry went off on one there lol.
I think I have decided on a way to keep everyone happy. Will cost more but well. Hopefully my parents and his can help out. I am going to get married at 1 have hot fork buffet for 30 at 4ish then have about 20 extra coming for buffet at 7.30ish. I will ask if we can just have Bucks Fizz on arrival and cut out the drinks. Everyone can buy their own. That way I get the two rooms I like too.
that sounds good hun, they might try and make you have drinks for the toast too tho - which isnt a bad idea, and you're still saving money by cutting out the drink with the meal x
that sounds good hun, they might try and make you have drinks for the toast too tho - which isnt a bad idea, and you're still saving money by cutting out the drink with the meal x
The drinks aint too bad it would be 223 for three drinks each. We just cant afford that extra :rolleyes:
sounds like your gettin there hunni. just dont let the venue tell you what they want you to have, tell them what you want! hotels are terrible for it (i work in one) at the end of the day your their customer and if you pull out cos they wont give you what you want then they loose out!
This is a museum. I think they will be fine the woman was really nice when I met her. I also asked if they charge corkage. If I could bring my own wine. Just an idea. Oh my oh laughs coz I tell him I take no crap lol. He knows I wont either. I will have it how I want it no other way haha
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