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Hello everyone.
This little corner thing is great and i have been reading all the things.
I am having such a rough time at the moment i cant even write it yet, i need to get my head round it. It takes me all my time to function and come to work. I feel like my whole world has fallen in bits.
I will be on soon with the details just cant face it at the mo and dont know where to start.
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Awww hun, hope ur alrite, not spoke to u before i dnt think but come bk wen ur ready bbe am sure we can all help!!!
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Hi hun, we haven't spoken before, but you know we are all here for you when you're ready xxxx
Hi Wendy
Let us know when you're ready to talk hun, don't keep it bottled up x x
***HUGS***
We are all here for you!! You will go through good days and bad days hun, that's normal. But a trouble shared is a trouble halved. You will feel better when you talk about it, and sometimes getting it out will help you think about it more clearly.
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hey hun,
(((huge hugs)))
hope your ok :)
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Hello everyone.
This little corner thing is great and i have been reading all the things.
I am having such a rough time at the moment i cant even write it yet, i need to get my head round it. It takes me all my time to function and come to work. I feel like my whole world has fallen in bits.
I will be on soon with the details just cant face it at the mo and dont know where to start.
Love to you all x x x
Hope everything is ok honey. I know by your thread it wont be but I am hoping things get better for you. I dont know what has gone on but big hugs xxx
Oh Wendy :( ))big hugs(( to you, when you're ready you know we'll be here x x x x
Oh Wendy :( ))big hugs(( to you, when you're ready you know we'll be here x x x x
Absolutely Wendy I 2nd what Stacey has said.... I am sending massive hugs x x x x
Oh wendy i agree with the other girls when your ready come and talk to us it might make you feel better after talking about it.
*Big hugs anyway* xxx
we are all here for your huni when you need to talk
big hugs xxxx
hey hun i hope u will be ok and we are all ears or eyes in this case for wen u need to talk xx
aww wendy hunni, hope ur ok. as the girls said we're all here whenever you wanna talk xxx
I'm relatively new on here, and havent spoken to you before - but i hope i can offer sum support wen ur ready to talk! big hugs xx
Awww wendy, havent seen you on here for a while and things were looking good for you then. U know we're here whenever you're ready tho hun and will pm you my number in case you wanna chat.
Big hugz huni xxxxxx
Well sorry for posting then not coming back on but just couldnt face it.
About two weeks ago i found out my other half who i am engaged to and live with has been cheating on me. Hes says its an ex girlfriend and he has only texted not met her or anything.
As you can imagine i went bonkers and feel so hurt and like my heart had been ripped out. After a few days of talking etc and thinking about it i decided to give it another go. He seemed pleased as he said he was sorry, been an idiot etc so i took that chance.
Things are very awkward between us and i feel totally insecure and still unsure how i feel or what to do. He seems to be weird aswell not overly friendly etc.
I just hope he isnt still texting her he says he isnt but i dont know, so i told his mum and shes going to open his next phone bill and tell me so as you can imagine my stomach is in knots waiting to here the outcome
Just feel so let down as hes the love of my life. I supported him through tours etc. He even came out of the army (his choice) and we have a house and a life together..............
awww wendy im sorry to hear this hun x
did he tell you or did you find out off someone else? either way, he's realised that you're the one for him coz he's said sorry and he's staying with you (even though it was up to you to stay too, if he didn't want to stay, that would've been the time to leave).
i think you have to try and trust him for the next few weeks, or things wont get back to normal. i agree with the phone bill thing, everyone needs a bit of proof but if thats clear, then you have to let it go, for your sanity mainly. you don't want to be thinking about all the time. i hope you understand what i mean there, it was a bit jumbled! jus try and remember that everyone deserves a second chance x
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Hi Rachel, Thanks for reply i do want to give him a second chance more than anything in the world i love him to bits i am just scared he will hurt me again and until i get know whats on the bill i am scare to drop my guard. I read his phone as he was acting funny and found some texts x
aw wendy,
(((hugs))) hunni.
things maybe awkward for sometime babe, thats only natural & may take a while for you to even slightly trust him again.
he says he only text her & nothing else, but i totally understand how you must feel & i agree that you need to make sure he isnt still in contact with her.
it will take time to heal, so give yourself time & space
take care :)
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Aww hun i no how u feel..something similar has happend to me with my oh in the past and im still not quite over it.
It takes time and its true wen they say "times a healer" honestly it CAN work if u let it. You wont be able to trust him again for a long time and u will be constantly be checking through his fone and dont let him tell u thats not helping because it does. My oh leaves his fone about 4 any 1 too look at and now i dont look through it as hes earnt my trust bk now.
Thats wots he has to do hun, and dont give up until ur fully over it because u will just get hurt all over again.
It may only be a txt but its still unfaithful hun,
hope things work out 4 u both
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Hi hun not spoke to you before just wanted to say im sorry to hear whats going on you might be feeling awful I know what it feels like to be betrayed its one of the worst feelings in the world and unfortunately with me I have carried it into other relationships including my current one.
I can understand that you want to be sure that he isnt still texting her and what his mom is doing is good, if he is being honest with you then you can both move on and enjoy your future together.
I also understand what its like when your already feeling insecure to have a bloke around you that is unpredictably moody as you automatically blame yourself.
I have my fingers crossed hunni that everything will work out for you.
PM me if you need to talk, I dont come on Wags all the time and when I do it tends to be when I want a moan about O/H lol but im always at the end of an email
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Aw thanks everyone. I really hope things work out we where even planning our wedding.
Just feel like my brain will explode soon as so much has gone on....
Hunni i know that feeling my head is bubbling away to the point of explosion as we speak xx
Well i will get to see my ohs phone bill tomorrow or Thursday then i will know for sure if this horrible issue is dealt with or still going on. I feel sick at the thought of it and he wont know i have access to it as his mums going to open it and tell me so i will know 100% if his telling the truth.
Wish me luck i will let you all know x
Like i said before hun i was in this posistion...
Does he have an itemized bill..were u can see all the numbers hes rang and txt?
I can access my oh's phone bill online, he set this up for me as he wanted to prove that he wouldnt do it again. Now i no i can check wen i want so i trust him alot more now...if u feel like u dnt trust him hun spk to him about this and see wot he says about it.
keep us informed hun..
Good luck
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Yes it is an itemised bill that his mum will open and tell me. Its the first bill since all this happened so i know if this ones clear then i can trust him again. If ifs not then it over.
So as you can imagine i feel sick at the thought but trying to stay positive and what will be will be x
Aww hun...
Wen will it arrive do u no?
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Its due on the 21st so either tom or thur depending on the post i think. We live together but it still goes to his mums as never swapped it over to our address when we moved so his mum will open it x
Ahh rite i see wot u mean..
So what happends now? Are u going to go through every number and ring it lol thats wot i used too do. it does take a while hehe.
wot u going to do if its bad news, or good news?
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I know the girls number he has been texting and hes told me he has told her not to contact him again and they havent spoken since. So if its on there then thats it as i have given him the chance now so if he hasnt taken that then i dont want him in my life.
Its hard as hes my fiance and we have been together almost 4 years it will break my heart x
(((hugs))) wendy
hope you get the result you want, ill be thinking bout ya :)
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Wendy, I hope you're as good as can be. I hope your oh has realised what a bloody good woman he has and that this gives him the kick up the arse he needs. I think you've dealt with this really well and have kept your chin up when al you probably wanted to do was just break down and cry.
I hope that everything works out for you, either way you know we're here to help support you xxxx
Aw thanks everyone its been so hard this past 2 weeks and still dont think its fully sunk in properly but theres worst off than me.
I still not heard about his bill yet as the post not been yet and his mums gone out now. So just keeping my fingers crossed and keeping busy at work x
Good luck hun...
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I Had my mouth open with shock reading ur thread ... oh Wendy :(:( .... cant believe hes done this to you now :eek: .... he now needs to earn your trust back again ... sending you huuuuuuuuuuuuuuge huggles ... here to talk if you need me darls
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hey wendy, just been catching up with this thread as i haven't been on wags much recently. i hope it was just a stupid moment and that nothing will come of it. i totally understand how u feel as it happened to me a few years back. if u need to talk, please pm me or any of us. xxxxxxx
Hey Claire and lolo it was defo a shock to say the least as you all know i he is my world. I now feel very insecure and like things are false between us and everything he said and promised was a load of ****.
I just keep thinking about it and what to do, hopefully his phone bill will arrive any day (bloody post strikes) then tha might give me the answer x
that is the key to it all i guess. just one bill will give u an idea of exactly wats happened. i hope nothing has gone on for a while. its the whole trust thing though. once someone does something like that its very hard to forgive and forget. even 3 yrs later i will sit here and feel anger for wat he did. but we have moved on from that stage, just hope the future remains good. u always seem to doubt them, i even hate it wen some girls from his old work txt to say hello. they might be lesbians but it brings out that horrible feeling inside, and i was never like that before he cheated! but u will get through it hun and i hope he finds ways to make it up to u xxxxx
I hope so i hate feeling like this i am usually so happy and go lucky, and now just feel nervous all the time. Think i may try and speak to him again tonight and see if that helps x
Has his bill not came yet bbe?
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No stupid post strikes......AAARRRRR
yeah have a word. u need to deal with this and its better than keeping it bottled up. thats the worst thing to do as it makes u feel more anger towards them. my OH used to say why did i always bring it up!!! like it was no big deal! men just think its nothing to care about! now if the shoe was on the other foot......
I know think he drew a line under the day after but i keep thinking about it and relaying conversation we have had. I know i am not helping myself.
I have just text him saying i want to talk so theres no getting out of it now. x
They probebly just feel guilty, my oh just used 2 put the fone down everytime i tried to talk to him about it, i used to tell him to man up and face up too wot he did. We have came along way since then and im sure u both can aswell...
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Aw i hope so just want things to go back to normal now and to forget this and be my bright bubbly self again x
I no how u feel bbe, i promise it does get better :)
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Well the bloody phone bill not arrived still but i am kind of past that now.
We had a very very long talk on yesterday and he told me what an idiot hes been and he cant believe he was so silly etc. so we are going away this weekend as a fresh start to try and work things out. I do feel better now even though my guard is up. so we will see what the weekend brings x
It's always good to keep ur guard up hun, nothing wrong with that.
Mabey it mite be best to forget the whole fone bill thing then bbe, if u have decided to have a fresh start and ur getting along fine then look towards the future, looking at his fone bill and seeing something u dont like mite bring it all back again.
That dosent me u cant look at them for the future, or check them online when ur feeling a little bit insecure. Do u no how to do that?x
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Its something hes going to set up and hes changed his number. Think he really does know what a ***** hes been and the air is clear now and i dont feel as nervous. I am hoping we have a great weekend and put all this behind us now x
Thanks for all your support. I appreciate it so much x x x x x
Awww glad to hear it hunni...
Looks like hes trying to prove to u!!!
good luck hun and dont dissapear :)
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Aw thanks. I defo wont disappear lol x
aww im sooo pleased for you wendy, and a weekend away from things might just be what you need! :)
it does like he's trying really hard, and changing his number is a good start!
good luck with things
have a fabbie time! :D
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p.s. do you know where your going?
hey wendy just catching up. im glad things have been sorted and changing his number is a start. hope ur ok chick, we are all here for ya xx
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