View Full Version : RM recruit gf, very new to this!! info please : )
Hi everyone...my oh is starting RM training on the 2nd of november, we have been together for 4 and a half years since high school so this is all very new to me!! Just looking for people to talk to about it all as I don't know anybody else with partners in the military! So I guess my first question would be what's it like to have your oh in the military? particularly if he wasn't when you started going out...also how is it if you can't live near them, he is obviously in Exmouth but I'm working in Aberystwyth until at least end of July next year.....thanks!
Welcome to WAGs hun x x x
hey stacey, new on here too. My partner passed out in february this year and we are currently in Arbroath at RM Condor, but being moved to RNAS Yeovilton in feb 2010. Its a great life to have with an RM, its just as hard a job being their partner....
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Hya bbe welcome to wags :)
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Hiya hun. A fellow marine wag, hurrah! Well I'd imagine it's harder for you because you've been together a while. My OH was already in the marines when I met him so I've never known any different.
He's based in Plymouth and I'm in Merseyside so we're pretty bloody far from each other! It's tough but he manages to get home every other weekend and I've been down to his base to stay with him. Send me a message if you want to know anything hun :)
Hey hun!
I can understand pretty much what you'll be feeling right now...... I was with my OH for 15 months before he joined the Navy and he's now been in for 6 months. It was really tough when he first went into basic training because we'd been used to spending so much time together. Honestly though, it does get easier. I found that the first couple of weeks were the hardest but after that I just settled into my own routine. I had some really supportive family and friends around me so that also made things easier.
Since my OH joined the navy I have to admit that I haven't seen him much ....... 2 days for his passing out parade and 3 weeks for summer leave. We get married next April though so i'm not dwelling too much as we'll get to live together then.
Are you and you OH planning on getting married?
Always remember ....... keep smiling, keep your chin held high and when he does get to come home, make the most of every single second you spend with him!!!!
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Hi everyone thanks very much for your kind messages it's nice to know I'm not alone! It's going to be strange, but tbh separation isn't completely new to us as I went to university over 3 hours away (and studied in america for 4 months of that!) which is why i have no right to moan at him for being away! I'm so glad he's figured out what he wants to do (just a shame he had to wait until I graduate and come home!..not taking it personally lol!) I have been not-so-subtley discussing marriage with him...constantly lol! But I think he still feels too young at the moment, we're 22 end of the year and this is the first time he's actually going and doing what he wants so I guess he's concentrating more on passing out right now so engagement rings aren't quite on the agenda just now...yet...but he has said he does want to marry me, he just has to do this first. I'm just worried that being a girlfriend I obviously don't have the same credibility as a wife/fiance in the eyes of his 'bosses', I finish my work contract here in July next year and would love to move in with him after he's passed out (we lived together last year until jan this year) but I don't want to rush a wedding for that! also he doesn't get on with his family so I want to be his next of kin (he wants me to aswel!) so it's just all a bit confusing at the moment with me not having much 'status' I guess I'm just going to have to be patient.
We have just 2 days of work left, then we have a week off to spend time together probably for the last time in a while!
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Awww thanks hun! Yeah i'm really excited for April ..... although really stressed at the same time!
Not sure if you already know this but............ As a girlfriend/fiance, you are very right in thinking that we don't have the same credibility as wives however, your OH can still have you as his next of kin if thats what he wants. I'm down as my OH's next of kin ...... it doesn't give you any more status and prob doesn't mean much in the eyes of the "bosses", but what it does mean is that while they are in basic training, any info packs about what they're up to, dates of passing out parade etc is sent to you rather than their mum/dad/other family member.
I hope you have a really lovely week together before he goes! If you ever fancy a chat or a rant feel free to message me.
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Aw thanks that's really helpful, is that something he can sort during the first week or would he have put down his next of kin on his application? I can't remember it was so long ago.
Thanks very much I appreciate that...will probs be in touch once he's left!
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My OH originally had his mum down as his next of kin because he thought it had to be a family member as we weren't married, but he changed it after starting basic training as he prefered that I received any correspondence.
Hope that helps xxxx
Great, thanks so much : ) xxxx
They do put a next of kin down on their application. Im OH's second next of Kin, they can state if they want someone else on, His mum is there first and if they cant get his mum its me.OH's mum would be straight on the phone to me anyway, and id rather she told me than me telling her :( its not good to think about, but if the worst happens they need to know whats happening.
Does your OH know where he would like to be based after RMT?
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ah right it's cool they can have two...he really doesn't get on with his mum, she has no interest in the marines and she probably wouldn't contact me so I think he'd be happier if it was me first and her second (I hope!) she's not even going to the family day.......
I think he would like Plymouth, but he wouldn't mind Taunton either, he's not too fussed but I think he would rather not go to Arbroath (as would I!) as it's that much further away, but guessin he only gets a limited choice in the matter! How is arbroath? do you live in marital quarters or do u rent privately? xx
ah right it's cool they can have two...he really doesn't get on with his mum, she has no interest in the marines and she probably wouldn't contact me so I think he'd be happier if it was me first and her second (I hope!) she's not even going to the family day.......
I think he would like Plymouth, but he wouldn't mind Taunton either, he's not too fussed but I think he would rather not go to Arbroath (as would I!) as it's that much further away, but guessin he only gets a limited choice in the matter! How is arbroath? do you live in marital quarters or do u rent privately? xx
Hey. Arbroaths not too bad i guess, but i will be glad to get down south in feb thats for sure! We rent privatly as we are not married and as the forces are soooo old fashioned we cant get an MQ.xx
Ooh if he goes to Plymouth he'll be with my bloke wooohoo! Lol keep us posted on how you're both getting on hun x
he got his posting through for bovington and then based on rnas yeovilton, but ASG are supposed to be moving to plymouth....id rather be in plymouth than back in yeovil!
Well he's left for training....so the life of a military wag has begun for me...!
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