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Hi all,
Well I'm Sarah, i'm 23. My OH is in the REME and has just gone out to Canada (our first real time apart since we started going out). OMG its soooooo hard!!! He's supposed to be going to Afghan next year but i'm dreading getting through the next couple of weeks. I've spent all weekend in the house not knowing what to do with myself?? terrible i know! I'm terrified if i go out, i'll miss his call and then kick myself because i really miss him and can't wait to hear his voice :(
Sorry for the moan girls.... xxx
Hey hun, the first time being away from each other for any length is always hard. But you will get used to it and it gets easier, just think of it as training for Afghan!
As for not wanting to miss his call, I know exactly what you mean but staying indoors on your own wont make you feel any better. I'm sure he wouldn't want you to put your life on hold for his phone call?
Nice to meet you anyway, welcome to this fantastic site, look forward to getting to know you xxx
oooo another reme wag :) mines meant to be going to afghan too next year!!
and he did canada last year (even thou i wasnt with him!)
oh and welcome :) xxxxxx
Thanks girls :) ... Afghan is going to be a toughie!! I'm already trying to convince myself that i'll stay busy by writing, doing parcels for him and throwing myself into work...heres hoping!! :) xxx
Hi Sarah!
Im another REME wag & my hubby is over in Canada at the mo!
I know what you mean about waiting for calls etc & the time difference is just pants lol
How long is your oh over there for?
Dawn.
Hi Dawn, I'm not sure to be honest, only found out 2 days ago that he was going!! Originally it was 2 weeks, but he phoned me this morning to say its going to be 3 weeks?
How long is your OH over there for?
xxx
Yay my OH is reme too! He's in Kenya atm but going to Canada next year I believe. Where is yours normally based Sarah?
As far as Afghan goes; my depressing-but-true advice is, you'll get used to it. You will probably find you are stronger than you realised - I certainly did!
He's just been posted to Catterick (within the last couple of weeks anyway)...he hated it when he first got there, but he's a happy bunny now he's busy and his room is sorted.
Where is your OH posted?
I'm really not looking forward to Afghan, i keep trying to brush it under the carpet but every so often, it rears its ugly head and i feel sick! I worry that he will forget me after such a long time apart... :(
xxx
welcome to wags hun hope you enjoy the site xxxxxx
Welcome to wags Sarah ....... :D
Moaning is our speciality on wags LOL
x x x
I like the sound of that.... :o
xxx
Hiya again Sarah!
My hubby is over there for 2 months - only 3wks left now till he comes home tho!!
He is a tiffy sergeant and is based in Tidworth when in the uk, we have been really lucky for the last 3 yrs as he has been uk based - so this has been our first proper seperation for a while :-( but to be honest hun its going pretty quick! just keep busy, get your xmas shopping done lol & prep for what you are going to do when he gets back! Before you no it he will be back & you will suprise yourself how strong you have been - altho afgan will be longer you will be more prepped mentally for the separation. Try not to think too much about him going to afgan yet - it will always pray on your mind but you dont want to waste away the time you do have with him.
Stay strong hun
Dxx.
What alot of the WAGS do on here is worry about their OH's forgetting them when they are away....you are probably the only thing that will keep him going whilst he is away! He will probably think of you more than you think of him and no doubt he'll think your forgetting him.
Stay strong, don't argue and remember you are both together for a reason, distance shouldn't change that in any way :D x
Where is your OH posted?
I'm really not looking forward to Afghan, I worry that he will forget me after such a long time apart... :(
xxx
He won't forget you, don't worry!!
Mine is based in Fallingbostel, so even when he's at home he's not with me! Rubbish! *brave smile*
What alot of the WAGS do on here is worry about their OH's forgetting them when they are away....you are probably the only thing that will keep him going whilst he is away! He will probably think of you more than you think of him and no doubt he'll think your forgetting him.
Stay strong, don't argue and remember you are both together for a reason, distance shouldn't change that in any way :D x
i completely agree with this!! my Oh tells me that sometimes i get him thru the day when hes just on base, if you didnt mean so much to him you wouldnt still be his :) xxxxx
aww girlies, thank you!!! :D
Its so nice to be able to talk to girls who are going through the same things and knowing that i'm not completely abnormal to be feeling the way i do.
:D xxx
Hey Sarah huge welcome to WAGS!
Nice to see another REME wag! My oh is posted in Hampshire, has just got back from Kenya and did 7 months in Canada last year.
How long have you been together?
Look forward to chatting to you!
xxx
Hi Vicky,
I can't believe how many REME wags are on here :)
We've only been together about 4 months...so we're still very much in the nice, getting to know each other phase....i love it :)
How long have you been with your OH? wow, can't believe i'm moaning about 3 weeks in Canada!!
xxx
Dont be silly you can moan all you like, we're allowed ;)
Aww that's a lovely stage in your relationship, the 3 weeks away will be a good thing in some ways though, he'll miss you loads and it'll be twice as exciting when you see each other again next :D
Yeah there are a few of us REME girls!
I've been with my oh for 4 years in January lol, Canada was a hard one for me but that's because he didnt get any leave for 7 months but we managed :D and are stronger for it!
Get looking forward to his return!!! :)
xxx
I am looking forward to his return. He rang me at work today, he got up at 6am, threw on shorts and trainers, braved the cold and everything just to make sure i was ok :D He's sooooo lovely bless him!!
He keeps telling me that the time apart makes us stronger as a couple...and i know he's right...its just so hard!! Friday was a killer....i normally finish work and then run round like a nutter, getting shopping and stuff for him so he doesn't have to worry about it, getting dinner on so when he gets home, its all done for him. I finished work and didn't know what to do with myself, i just felt so empty.
I've got through 1 weekend though, only 2 more to go!! whoop whoop! :D
xxx
Yeah its the weekends mainly isnt it...
I was like that when my oh went to Kenya recently, on Friday I go straight to his and stay til Sunday and while he was away on a Friday I was like, err now what lol?
I get that Sunday nights as well, i drive him to camp which is 2 hours away every Sunday and the journey back is so horrible with the empty passenger seat.
Haha we did that, my oh bought a massive coat and would sit chatting to me in rediculous - figures in a phone booth for hours bless him!
xxx
Yeah its the weekends mainly isnt it...
I was like that when my oh went to Kenya recently, on Friday I go straight to his and stay til Sunday and while he was away on a Friday I was like, err now what lol?
I get that Sunday nights as well, i drive him to camp which is 2 hours away every Sunday and the journey back is so horrible with the empty passenger seat.
Haha we did that, my oh bought a massive coat and would sit chatting to me in rediculous - figures in a phone booth for hours bless him!
xxx
awwww thats so lovely!! bless him!! :) xxx
Hi sarah,
another REME wag theres quite a little group of us on here!
And what better place to moan to people then on here? Its basically why this site was invented :D.
I know its difficult thinking about afghan but you must never worry about him forgetting about you - my OH is out there at the moment and sometimes i work myself up thinking he's got far better or more important things to be doing then thinking about me. But then you'll get that phone call where he tells you that you're all he's thought about all day and if it wasn't for him knowing youre at home waiting, he wouldn't know what he'd do. Moments like that make it all worthwhile.
One thing i would say is if you are worried about afghan - just tell him. Its so much better to have everything out in the open between you both and he would rather know how you really feel otherwise he will only worry about you just as much as you will about him. With me and my OH it brought us so much closer to know that all we were worrying about was each other lol.
But like you said, 1 weekend done now, 2 more and he'll be back with you :)
Keep smiling hun xxxxxxxxx
awww thats so nice! :)
I did tell him i was worried about Afghan but he keeps telling me its ages away...but its not, we are only a couple of months away now :(
We both went out (and got slightly plastered) the other night and he told me he's scared to go out there, he's been to Iraq but not Afghan yet. Knowing he is worried is making me sick with worry :(
He also added that if i felt the need to break up with him, leave it till he gets back because he's saw how girls doing that to the lads can destroy them when they are away...i was in tears at this point! I don't know why he would feel the need to say that? i'm not going anywhere now, i'm part of the furniture!!! :)
xxx
Zoe Luvs Her SoldierBoi x
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I am looking forward to his return. He rang me at work today, he got up at 6am, threw on shorts and trainers, braved the cold and everything just to make sure i was ok :D He's sooooo lovely bless him!!
He keeps telling me that the time apart makes us stronger as a couple...and i know he's right...its just so hard!! Friday was a killer....i normally finish work and then run round like a nutter, getting shopping and stuff for him so he doesn't have to worry about it, getting dinner on so when he gets home, its all done for him. I finished work and didn't know what to do with myself, i just felt so empty.
I've got through 1 weekend though, only 2 more to go!! whoop whoop! :D
xxx
Thats exactly how i feel, when my boyfriend came home after work before he joined the army i would start makin tea for him, we will settle down and watch tele together but when i come home from work now i feel so empty inside, its awful. Ive got another 6 weeks left :( x x x
Thats exactly how i feel, when my boyfriend came home after work before he joined the army i would start makin tea for him, we will settle down and watch tele together but when i come home from work now i feel so empty inside, its awful. Ive got another 6 weeks left :( x x x
awww *big hugs*
I'm on a mission to keep myself as busy as possible at the moment....and the girls on here are fantastic :)
xxx
I know im not really replying to your post but, im gonna be a REME wag too :) my oh is training for it
Hi Steph :)
What is your OH going in as?
xxx
awww thats so nice! :)
I did tell him i was worried about Afghan but he keeps telling me its ages away...but its not, we are only a couple of months away now :(
We both went out (and got slightly plastered) the other night and he told me he's scared to go out there, he's been to Iraq but not Afghan yet. Knowing he is worried is making me sick with worry :(
He also added that if i felt the need to break up with him, leave it till he gets back because he's saw how girls doing that to the lads can destroy them when they are away...i was in tears at this point! I don't know why he would feel the need to say that? i'm not going anywhere now, i'm part of the furniture!!! :)
xxx
Hiya, My bf has just gone back to Germany, he spends a year away now and then goes to Afgan for the first time at the beggining of next year. He's been in the army now for 9 years but is still really worried about going, i cant even explain how I feel about it. Its good to find people who are going through the same thing cause although my mates here are brilliant, its not the same X
Hiya,
my oh is REME too and is also out in Canada. He went on Sunday and is out there for 3 months. It is hard him being away even for me and my oh is based in Germany so i only get to see him every couple of weeks anyway so i should imagine going from what you've gone to to not seeing him at all will be hard but you'll get use to it hun (probably just in time for him coming home in 3 weeks lol) chin up hun, i'm sure you'll be fine xx
Awww thank you for the support girlies :) xxx
hello
Im reme too well a wag not actually in
OH also in Canada..
welcome :)
welcome to wags i am also reme wag lol loads of us on here mine is currently in canada as well he not sure how long at the mo but think its 3 months :( he is based in paderborn otherwise how about your oh hope you enjoy the site the girls are great on here and you will soon become addicited lol x
My OH is back from Canada now, he was over their for exercise, so he's back to the lovely Catterick now :)
xxx
Was just wondering if anyone had any advice on how to deal with my boy going to Afghan in about 12months?? :( Hes also going to Cyprus/Canada in next few months too... I'm finding it really hard to deal with the thought of him going out there... especially seeing as a lad he started his training with died on Friday!!
Any advice would be great :)
xx
Awww hunni, its hard when they leave and no girl on here doesn't have a day go by when they aren't worried sick!! :(
We are all here for you though. Come on, have a moan, have a cry, get it all of your chest and we'll all do our best to help you through it (((((mahoosive hugs))))) xxx
Was just wondering if anyone had any advice on how to deal with my boy going to Afghan in about 12months?? :( Hes also going to Cyprus/Canada in next few months too... I'm finding it really hard to deal with the thought of him going out there... especially seeing as a lad he started his training with died on Friday!!
Any advice would be great :)
xx
can you tell us a bit more about you? and what does your oh do too?
theres many girls on here with guys in afghan and canda and cyprus too!
you just need a routine and keep urself busy, try not to think of the horrible thigns too xxxx
Me... erm I dont know what to say about me... Been wi my OH 9months.. Gettin married sometime in the next 12 months... well definately before he goes on tour..
I was at Uni.. but not anymore and I dont have a job... Live with his parents at the mo..
OH is a REME Tech based in Bordon at the moment... which is 300mile from the rest of us...
Just love the fact I can get on ere n talk t other women whose OH's are away...
(main reason for my moan is because he's on exercise this week... so cant tlk t him for the week - got no signal really)
Abi xxx
hey hun,
my OH is reme too (there really is loads of us on here) and he's also based at bordon, but he's currently on tour in afghan.
Just would really say what the other girls have said, it is hard but youv just got to be strong and get yourself through it, get into a routine etc and the weeks soon start flying by. dont worry about it too much at the moment as you still have a while together. just enjoy the time you have now :D
xxx
Cheers... I think its just the first time we've spent any time not being able to talk t each other...
The thing that has worried me the most is that a lad they knew at Harrogate 3 years ago was killed on Friday .. made the reality of it come home!!
Is it pathetic that I refuse to let him talk about going on tour??
Cheers for the support girls xxxxx :rolleyes:
Hes finally home for the weekend :D
Im so happy to see him... making the most of it though - dont know when am seeing him next
Hope all ur OH's are ok n well
Abi xxxx
Is it pathetic that I refuse to let him talk about going on tour??
Cheers for the support girls xxxxx :rolleyes:
Hiya,
to be honest with you whenever my oh is going away whether its on tour or just on exercise if he mentions it i tell him i don't want to talk about it and can get snappy about it sometimes too but you''ve gotta remember that maybe he feels the need to discuss these things with you!?! i really don't know what else to say to you but it's certainly not pathetic. Maybe not talking about it keeps its "not real" for a while because you don't feel you have to face up to it x
Is it pathetic that I refuse to let him talk about going on tour??
Cheers for the support girls xxxxx :rolleyes:
its not pathetic but he may want to make sure that your gonna be ok and support you too, plus it might be his way of coping too xx
He does make sure i'm ok and he does try not to mention it... but he does tell me i'm gonna have to face up to it one day.... which i know is right...
Least I dont feel so pathetic now - cheers girls :)
xx
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