BA's Baby
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I am going completely insane and making myself sick because of this bloody wedding. Dont get me wrong im over the moon to be marrying OH and really i cant wait, but with everyone trying to offer money and then other ppl trying to convince us to reduce how much we spend im stuck in the middle and i feel like just grabbing OH going to las vegas doing it there !!
Really sorry to be ranting, i know we need happy threads :o, but i need to get this all out.
My parents are divorced so we've always had problems when it comes to disscussing me and what I should be doing with my life and blah blah blah, and im always the one running bk and forth trying to get both sides to talk to one another, trying to avoid the whole "he said, " she said" situation, but somehow always getting into that situation.
So my mum said to me last night she'll give me £8000 for the wedding which is fantastic and OH was really pleased coz we can put in £7000 and then with my dads £3500 we'd have more than enough for the venue we want with everything else paid for. But now my dads saying he thinks my mum should only pay £3500 and so should we and stick at the budget of £10,000 for the whole thing, which means no wedding at the venue we both adore. :( So i said to OH mb dads right we should put the rest of our money into savings ready for a house, he ofcourse doesnt want to do this and wants to go all out, he says coz my parents are divorced they obviously feel that we're gonna go the same way but he always says he wants to be with me for life and me to him, i really dont wanna end up like my parents.
So we had a bit of a "not seeing eye to eye discussion" (we dont call it arguing :p lol) and now im utterly depressed about the whole damn situation.
OH has got his heart sset on this venue and i really dont wanna dissapoint him, so I said i'll univite my friends and only have them in the evening, seeing as my family is huge compared to his, so that we may just about be able to afford it there. But my dad says to me well if ur OH spends all that £7000 on the wedding im going to be really dissapointed. Oh ofcourse says he doesnt care lol, but im the one whos stuck in the middle.
We stared this whole thing wrong, no one sat me down to disscuss it, ive have no idea of a budget, people keep pulling me one way or another and im seriously being to see what ppl mean when they say "you spend more time trying to please other ppl than you do yourselves".
OH has got the right idea he just wants us to have the best day, something we can look back on and be really pleased with, I want that too but obviously im being told that we cant do this or we cant do that and god i feel like giving up :(
Im really really sorry for rambling on but i cant put it on facebook so i can only rant on here..
Really sorry to be ranting, i know we need happy threads :o, but i need to get this all out.
My parents are divorced so we've always had problems when it comes to disscussing me and what I should be doing with my life and blah blah blah, and im always the one running bk and forth trying to get both sides to talk to one another, trying to avoid the whole "he said, " she said" situation, but somehow always getting into that situation.
So my mum said to me last night she'll give me £8000 for the wedding which is fantastic and OH was really pleased coz we can put in £7000 and then with my dads £3500 we'd have more than enough for the venue we want with everything else paid for. But now my dads saying he thinks my mum should only pay £3500 and so should we and stick at the budget of £10,000 for the whole thing, which means no wedding at the venue we both adore. :( So i said to OH mb dads right we should put the rest of our money into savings ready for a house, he ofcourse doesnt want to do this and wants to go all out, he says coz my parents are divorced they obviously feel that we're gonna go the same way but he always says he wants to be with me for life and me to him, i really dont wanna end up like my parents.
So we had a bit of a "not seeing eye to eye discussion" (we dont call it arguing :p lol) and now im utterly depressed about the whole damn situation.
OH has got his heart sset on this venue and i really dont wanna dissapoint him, so I said i'll univite my friends and only have them in the evening, seeing as my family is huge compared to his, so that we may just about be able to afford it there. But my dad says to me well if ur OH spends all that £7000 on the wedding im going to be really dissapointed. Oh ofcourse says he doesnt care lol, but im the one whos stuck in the middle.
We stared this whole thing wrong, no one sat me down to disscuss it, ive have no idea of a budget, people keep pulling me one way or another and im seriously being to see what ppl mean when they say "you spend more time trying to please other ppl than you do yourselves".
OH has got the right idea he just wants us to have the best day, something we can look back on and be really pleased with, I want that too but obviously im being told that we cant do this or we cant do that and god i feel like giving up :(
Im really really sorry for rambling on but i cant put it on facebook so i can only rant on here..