Need some advice girls...

[sexi-lil-lisa]

right i have been single since end of may now and i met this really sweet guy from hull (which is where im living with uni). Hes dead nice and really an old fashioned sort of gentleman. Everything was going really well until last night we was chatting and swapping stories and he told me about his ex which is a really big topic because she was part of his life for 4 and a half years. I knew that he had struggled when they broke up because she proper ripped his heart out and i can see him trying so hard to get over her completely but i can see it probably never going to happen. He might like me and it might go further but im always going to be worried that if she ever decided to come back for him would he just leave me. I duno whether to step out now before i get hurt again but i like him so much he would be the perfect boyfriend to some exent.
Another thing is that hes 25 and im only just turned 20 and his usual dating rule is nobody under 23 after what happened with his ex cheating on him. He said he wants some one on his commitment level with relationships but when im in a relationship i can be the most mature person on the planet. If i want to be with that person then im in that relationship for the long run. But how do i show him this because if i lose out on this for something so stupid such as a few years in age then ill be proper gutted.
Any advice girls???
Sorry for the rant just needed to get it off my chest
Lisa x

[mustntgrumble!]

Hi Lisa,
Hmm ... when did he break up with his ex, is it recent? If it was a while ago then you should be okay. I would think he'd get over her, at 25 to consign himself to an entire lifetime of never getting over her seems a pretty grim prospect. Just take things slowly - it seems like this is what he wants and in time he'll see that you're not his ex and you're not going to treat him like she did. I must say that I've not met a 25 year old guy yet who would know commitment if it hit him in the face with a frying pan, I'm sure they exist, just not round here :D Even though there is a difference between 25 and 20, if it's meant to be in the long run there's not really a difference between 35 and 30. Just don't rush anything, go with the flow and see what happens.

[sexi-lil-lisa]

thanks hun. he is a very genuine guy it scares me how perfect he is for the first time ever im actually hoping for at least a tiny fault or for someone to pinch me really hard lol. They broke up at new year so its nearly been a year but he was really in love with her and it hit him very hard but i hope he comes round to the idea cos hes fanastic xx

[Sarah12051986]

Hi Lisa,

I met my OH very soon after i split uo with my ex (a 7.5yr relationship)...both my ex and my OH are 25.....my ex used to play army's in the garden lol my OH is sooo sensible, saves, got his own place....

I was in a pretty bad way when i met my OH. My ex cheated on me (joined the army after 7 years together, prompty cheated on me with a girl in Newcastle), ended up having to sell the house we bought together. I found out last night that he'd cheated on me with other girls too...my OH rang me about 2am this morning and i had a good cry and a moan.

My point is, he was probably really hurt, he may never got over it. It doesn't mean he will want to get back with her. Age is a number and one 25yr old may be the most immature w@nker, the other might be the most sensible man you've ever met.

I hope it all works out for you xxx