What do you think

[Amanda10]

Hey girls, well as you will know me and oh split up in between christmas and new year. We have been arguing non stop for the past few weeks and then again on sunday but huge this time, i told him i never loved him and i wanted to never see him again and to me he doesnt exist. The next day I got a facebook message saying something random and i messaged back, within the conversation he said he still loved me but at the same time hates me for pushing him so far that he had to finish it. He asked me to drive up to camp and see him, i went up and we had a meal, we got on really well and we talked about everything i see it alot better from his side and think my insecurities were what pushed him away. Anyway after telling me that he tried to move on with this other girl but didnt end up doing anything with her cause it didnt feel right and wasnt me. He said we should remain friends atm and meet up now and again and see what happens. We are going paintballing next week which im really looking forward to but obviously I am getting my hopes up. There is another issue which is a bit embarassing that is getting in the way of us.....
This weekend tho he went out with camp mateslast night and meet some girl said nothing happened but sent me a text tht was supose to her think he did it on purpose to make me jealous and hes off to plymouth this weekend. I love him so much and im stupid enough to wait around, do u think hes just playing me? He said he can imagine us getting back together and having kids etc so y is he still getting to know other people? xx

[rak-attack]

hi hun,

it sounds a wee bit like he is trying to have his cake and eat it - keep you interested and hoping that you will get back together, but he is going out and actively chatting up other girls?...

I remember a bit what things were like for you when he was jsut coming back from afghan, and wasnt he quite horrible a few times? So I wouldnt lay the blame entirely on your insecurities, it takes two to cause a breakup. but if you did get back together, how would you cope with your insecurities? how would things be different? What things are you both willing to do to make things work?

i would spend some time thinking about what you actually want, are you prepared to wait for this man? and if you still love each other, why arent you both just working things out? if you love each other, you should be together :)

I've never been one to get back together with someone, i always feel that when a relationship is over you should just move on as too many things have been said or done to make it work. However i do know plenty of people who have worked out their relationship, got back together and been incredibly happy ever since....

I hope things turn out the way you want hun, if this man want you tho he should just be honest about it and you guys should work on your relationship instead of just being friends and wasting time.

big hugs hun xxxxx

[RM_gf_stacey]

I agree with Rachel it sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it. The whole 'stay friends and see what happens' thing sounds to me like he wants to stay single to see what else is out there but have a back up plan in case....sorry if that sounds harsh it might not be anything like that, but that's just how I see scenerios like that. If you trully loved each other and were meant to be with eachother he wouldnt be asking to be friends and seeing other girls on the side. Maybe he just needs space to realise what he wants I don't know, but what I know is I would not be happy to be kept in the sidelines while he's dating around. just my opinion hun obviously i dont know what's going through his head!!!!xxx

[Amanda10]

Hey girls thanks for your replys, well this weekend, he decided to come back after only spending 1 night in plymouth and spend the weekend with me. We just chilled out for a few days and it was really nice, we got on so well and had a laugh. We are going paintballing next week and last night he asked whether i would like to go out with him on valentines day. He text me this morning saying morning babe which was quite unexpected. I dont know what any of this means but im trying not to read much into it just incase but I havnt been able to stop smiling for the last few days. thought i would just share tht sorry xxxx

[emi-lou]

Hun, what you saying sorry for? Glad you had a nice time with him and really hope he isn't dangelling you on a shoe string because that really isn't fair at all.... It sounds to me that he has a few issues that he needs to sort out and if you are happy to wait then you come join me on my waiting shelf hehe :D Things seem to be going well for you though so keep smiling hun xx