My 2011 summer wedding is now in Dec 2010 abroad!!

[Lozy28]

Hi all you wifes to be!!!!

Im all panicked, i knew this might happen, but my OH has been told he's prob going away April next year for 6 months. They wont know exactly when till next year, but its more than likely will take up the whole summer. I know that is great to get notice like that, but our wedding day was planned for 2nd July!!!! Cos we wont know details for ages, we have decided not to take our chances and get married this year. The big problem is we havent saved enough money to have the English wedding that I hoped for and my ohs mother wants. My ohs mother was (not sure if she still be yet)giving us money towards it, but because of that she wanted alot of her friends there, but to move it forward with the amount of people she wants inviting makes the whole thing unaffordable right now. My oh will not get a loan out either as we already have debts. So we could wait until 2012, which we dont want. Weve been engaged since july 2008 and just want to get on with it now! Or, go abroad and it be just the two of us. Which secretly I know my oh has always wanted. We still need to save up so we think Dec is best. I know that getting married is whats important, but I am gutted about a few things. Ive always wanted my Dad to walk me down the aisle and my niece is soooo excited about being a bridesmaid.
I hope I dont seem silly for getting upset. Want to be happy about it, but its not what I wanted. Also have loads of weight to lose, so big big diet starts today.
What do you think and is there any other ladies going abroad to wed?
Thanks x x

[manuiti]

Awwww hun, yeah it's the getting married bit that's important but I can totally understand why you're upset. But hey, there's nothing from stopping you from renewing your vows when you guys do have the time and money and then you can do it all just how you wanted. I got married the first time :eek: abroad but it was a huge wedding still. OH and I are planning on a small wedding abroad when we get married, either just the two of us or only parents and siblings as well. But then again, that's 2nd weddings for both of us so probably not much help to you.

xxx

[Lozy28]

Thanks babe,

Congrats on your forthcoming wedding. x x
Yes I do feel a bit sad about it, so Im trying to get excited about it. I didnt want a big expensive do, but my family is quite big and id like them to be there as I was for them, but I know they wont go abroad with me, so it would only be us. Lets hope I can persuade my oh to have a party here to celebrate afterwards. I know a few people who would be annoyed though as it would be too near Christmas.

[soldiers_bbygirl]

awww hunni try think positive about it all. It's your big day chick...x. X

[xxEmilyxx]

Hey hun

Firstly congrats on bringing it forward, its so exiting!!!

Dont let anyone make the decision for you or make you feel bad about it, its about you and oh, and as much as im sure you would love to share it with everyone, they have to understand that the army is a law unto itself and we just have to fit around it.

On the plus side of getting married abroad, you are going to have an amazing, romantic and intimate wedding with the man you love, you know he is going to be happy if its what he wanted, and enjoy it!! Its just what you need if hes going away for 6 months!!

Theres nothing to say that you cant have a reception back home when he gets back! (Plus you get to buy a whole new outfit for the reception, or wear your wedding dress again!! Either way its win-win!!)

Chin-up hun, ya gunna marry your man!! Whoop!!

Em
xxx

[Lozy28]

Thanks Emily, you are being really positive about it and thats how im trying to think about it. I want to be really happy. I know i dont have much choice. If I leave it any later he may go away straight away and I want a couple of months together if possible, to have fun as man and wife and so we can start trying for a baby - yikes, now thats scary!
Ive said to him about havinf a reception and hes not too keen, but If Im going to do this, then I feel he should let me have a little party for the families when we get back. It doesnt have to be big.
Thanks for the encouragement. x

[xxEmilyxx]

No probs hun, its what we're here for.

Just speak to oh about it, does he know how much it means to you? He might needed reminding that you end up giving up plenty for the army, and your reception is non-negotiable!!

You could just have an evening party rather than a full day thing. Lots of people hire venues for parties like anniversary or birthday parties, it doesnt have to be somewhere big n expensive. Just like a pub or restaurant that has an upstairs you can hire or something. As long as you have the people you want there, thats the most important thing. Have a look at places near you and price them up, when he realises it isnt too expensive he might change his mind. When you ring places dont mention wedding though, the price might double!! Just say for a party lol.

Em
xxx

[Lozy28]

Your right there Emily. My oh has been gobsmacked at the price of everything to do with weddings. Im thinking of perhaps having a blessig in our local church where we were going to get married. I need to find out the cost. Then in the local pub opposite we know the owner and he has an upstairs reception room, so Im going to ask him too. I need to get all the prices and then talk to OH. Money is the only language he knows really. Prob is he hates parties like that, but I feel i do need to stress how important it is to me. Hes only home one weekend in 3 at the moment and hes awful on the phone. Ill have to get all the stuff together and talk when he gets back. x x