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Just being nosey
Originally we were paying for everything but my Dad has paid for my Horse Drawn Carriage, Mother sorting the wedding cake, one of my bridemaids aunties is making a fairy cake fountain for us, and my MIL has just offered to pay for the catering!!
my mum bought my dress, my dad bought the bridesmaid dresses and him and my brothers suits and our transport. my mums friend decorated the cake and my nan decorated the tables. also my nans partner did the photos. so we has quite a bit of help but we paid for everything else (i say we, but i put most of the money forward and some went on my credit card lol) xx
Crikey, I feel really guilty... my Dad paid for everything 'cept the b'maids dresses and flowers... and I was only married 6 months!
my mum bought my dress, my dad bought the bridesmaid dresses and him and my brothers suits and our transport. my mums friend decorated the cake and my nan decorated the tables. also my nans partner did the photos. so we has quite a bit of help but we paid for everything else (i say we, but i put most of the money forward and some went on my credit card lol) xx
Awww thats great hun, i just didn't like the thought of people trying to overtake but everyone who is helping has been great and aren't sticking their beaks in lol. I'm the same with putting most the money forward or i was until all the extras like the DJ, Piper and hotel got added on cos those things need to be paid on the day by OH hahahaha.
Crikey, I feel really guilty... my Dad paid for everything 'cept the b'maids dresses and flowers... and I was only married 6 months!
I have been married before lol fortunately it only lasted 3 months but we had been together 7 years! and have a child together, i hate him now tho lol
He paid for that wedding he got a bank loan out haha and was still paying it off when we split up and when he got with his now new wife - shame!!
I do worry tho that with OH mother paying for the catering it makes me feel like i NEED to make our marriage work no matter what, sort of in the sense that if we end up not having the happy marriage we hope to have i will feel like i have to stick around just because she paid a large amount out for the wedding - that probably makes no sense lol
Awww thats great hun, i just didn't like the thought of people trying to overtake but everyone who is helping has been great and aren't sticking their beaks in lol. I'm the same with putting most the money forward or i was until all the extras like the DJ, Piper and hotel got added on cos those things need to be paid on the day by OH hahahaha.
yeah i know what you mean. i arranged EVERYTHING and got everything i wanted (except the young ones b/maid dresses, i couldnt find ones i wanted and my step mum found some that she liked so i went with them). but everyone who helped was great. no one even gave me anyn suggestions (except my step mum, see above lol) but it was great. it would have been nice not to have spent so much money but i wanted it to be special. xxx
I have been married before lol fortunately it only lasted 3 months but we had been together 7 years! and have a child together, i hate him now tho lol
He paid for that wedding he got a bank loan out haha and was still paying it off when we split up and when he got with his now new wife - shame!!
I do worry tho that with OH mother paying for the catering it makes me feel like i NEED to make our marriage work no matter what, sort of in the sense that if we end up not having the happy marriage we hope to have i will feel like i have to stick around just because she paid a large amount out for the wedding - that probably makes no sense lol
Glad I'm not the only one who's found true happiness the second time around!
Somedays, I feel like I'm a failure for making such a huge error in judgement.
I was lucky that circumstances of my marriage breakdown meant my Dad fully supported me because he could see it was killing me (almost literally :() to stay...
But I did feel terrible for years after seeing family/friends because I knew how much they had put into beautiful wedding gifts and expense of coming and I know a lot of people (who didn't know the full situation) thought I should've stayed and "made it work".
My bridesmaids (and Dad) proved to be the people who were the least critical, My Dad has even broken contact with some people over their disapproval of my break up!
Don't feel and don't let anyone make you feel like a failure hun. I listen to the song Up the Juction and it reminds me of my life with my sons Dad, he was a bastard! and thats being nice.
I only went through with it because it was all paid for, and even on the day i didn't want to do it, my Dad said i didn't have to so i thought this time round people would have been wary about bothering to come to the wedding etc but no ones been like that and they can now see the ex for what he really is!!
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we're paying about half, and my folks have generously offered to pay the rest. thing is, im fine trying to stick to our budget, but my mum seems to want to splash out on everything so i can see it getting waaaay out of hand if i dont try and keep the costs down on a few things xxx
Lmao! Rachel that really made me giggle at the last part of your post hehe. I could imagine my Mum being the same lol.
I would love to say I have a wonderful Dad who has given me an unlimited budget however I haven't spoken to him in 11 years and have no wish to do so at all.
So OH and I are working on the premise that we will be on a strict budget and are paying for all of it outright ourselves.
If family or friends would like to help and chip in then they will be more than welcome to do so :p :)
I'm holding out for us to win the lottery.....!!
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My bridesmaid has loaned us £2000 for the wedding - of which I'm paying her back £400 a month. I just wanted the money in one lump sum so I wouldn't have to be like, "oh I can't pay you this week, maybe next week if I can save enough.." but I know I can save £2000 in time for the wedding so paying her back isn't an issue. :)
OH is paying for the honeymoon (£1400) out of his savings, so that's that covered.
My mum and his mum are paying for the catering together. My mum is also paying for the car (£300 - she insisted though, wasnt really fussed about a car!) and flowers (£80 including boquet, bridesmaids boquet, some minor decorations and button holes), while his mum is covering the cake and DJ (£200 and £170).
So all in all the wedding is probably going to come to about £4000 max but I'm paying for £2000 of it (half), our parents are covering the other half and OH is covering the honeymoon. (£5400 including honeymoon.. phew!)
my dads been very sly with getting out of paying for any future wedding i may want to have!!
i needed some help paying for my uni fees and seeing as my mum has helped me with as much as she can throughout the years (even though she hasnt been well enough to work for ages), my dad very rarely puts his hands in his pockets...
so after mum had a word with him he agreed to lend me the money i needed for my fees, just over 2 grand. and then told me it had come out of my 'secret wedding fund' he had been saving up for me, so if i wanted him to help me with a wedding i would need to make sure ive paid him all that money back, including a little bit extra that i borrowed from him for something else.
i dont begrudge him doing that as his pensions have been hit hard by the recession so hes going to be struggling a lot when he retires, and i would never expect a complete handout from him.
but my mums pissed off coz she reckons he should have done more to help me thru my education instead of letting me struggle along badly without helping, and thinks hes completely lying about the wedding fund- that he never did plan to save up for something as specific as that for me, and hes just using as an excuse to make sure he gets his money back from me!!!
ah well, parents ey! who'd have them!
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