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Hi girls,
Im a bit annoyed with other half as hes told me that i wont see him for a month, then next month i will only see him for 4 days...and when he is next on leave (july i think) he is going to thailand for 2 weeks with some of his squaddie mates.
Feel a bit pushed out and think that he is acting as if he is single.
Not sure what to say or think. We are barely talking at the moment as we fell out on sunday, he told me he thinks we should split up and then changed his mind saying he cant stop thinking about me
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I would talk to him hun and tell him how you feel. Could you not go away with him. Its not fair that he messes you around. I would kind of understand if it was work that ment he couldnt see you. x
yer i agree with emi-lou try and speak to him as it isnt fair that he is jsut pushing u to the side and its out of order huge hugs
I would talk to him hun and tell him how you feel. Could you not go away with him. Its not fair that he messes you around. I would kind of understand if it was work that ment he couldnt see you. x
No i cant go with him, 1) im not invited, and 2) i have to work. He text he this morning saying
'' I am going to thailand on my next leave if ok with that we can go back to how it was'' (meaning he will get back with me as we had split up)
Now i dont want to be the horrible clingy girlfiend who doesnt let her man do anything independantly, but i think its a bit bad considering im hardly going to see him at all. He lives with these blokes and decides to go on holiday with them aswell!
Its making me wonder if we should be together at all. Whats the point if im not going to see him? Hes already said he doesnt want to get married anymore so what sort of a relationship can we have when he is based in germany for 2 years?
So if your ok with him going to thailand and not seeing you at all on his leave, then he will get back together with you??! Hmmm... i think if i were i'd tell him to bugger off! It sounds as if he's playing games, and you need to have a chat with him about your future.
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No i cant go with him, 1) im not invited, and 2) i have to work. He text he this morning saying
'' I am going to thailand on my next leave if ok with that we can go back to how it was'' (meaning he will get back with me as we had split up)
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Hmmm.... the quote above sounds like an ultimatum to me and that isnt fair on you at all!!! You are right, it does sound like he is acting single. I wouldnt have my OH say that to me I must say...
Is your relationship ok before this??
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So if your ok with him going to thailand and not seeing you at all on his leave, then he will get back together with you??! Hmmm... i think if i were i'd tell him to bugger off! It sounds as if he's playing games, and you need to have a chat with him about your future.
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I second this hun!!! I would not stand for my oh giving me ultimatums like that....agree to be bottom of my list of priorities or we cant get back together WTF!!!!
I would probably tell him to bugger off too! Depends on whether you have had a good relationship other than this issue really and whether he is likely to sit down sensibly to discuss things and be prepared to compromise...coz it sounds like he just wants you hovering in the background in case he's ever at a loose end xx
Hmmm.... the quote above sounds liek an ultimatum to me and that isnt fair on you at all!!! You are right, it does sound like he is acting single. I wouldnt have my OH say that to me I must say...
Is your relationship ok before this??
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It was fine up until last saturday. Hes been on leave for 4 weeks and that was the last weekend while he was home. He kept telling me i was ''doing his head in'' even though i was only talking to him like a normal person :confused:
Then on sunday we fell out because i went round my sisters and then he wouldnt answer his phone to me when i tried calling him. So he went back to camp without saying bye to me. In his eyes I was the one in the wrong for going round my sisters and im my eyes he was the one in the wrong as he ignored my call when i tried to arrange meeting up with him before he left.
So thats the reason we fell out....
It was fine up until last saturday. Hes been on leave for 4 weeks and that was the last weekend while he was home. He kept telling me i was ''doing his head in'' even though i was only talking to him like a normal person :confused:
Then on sunday we fell out because i went round my sisters and then he wouldnt answer his phone to me when i tried calling him. So he went back to camp without saying bye to me. In his eyes I was the one in the wrong for going round my sisters and im my eyes he was the one in the wrong as he ignored my call when i tried to arrange meeting up with him before he left.
So thats the reason we fell out....
sounds like he wants it all tbh....and by the way, how old is he....12? x
sounds like he wants it all tbh....and by the way, how old is he....12? x
LOL! i know, he is very selfish. I wish i didnt love him so much. I know i should have more balls and stand up for myself. I just wanted some second opinions on his behaviour.
It was fine up until last saturday. Hes been on leave for 4 weeks and that was the last weekend while he was home. He kept telling me i was ''doing his head in'' even though i was only talking to him like a normal person :confused:
Then on sunday we fell out because i went round my sisters and then he wouldnt answer his phone to me when i tried calling him. So he went back to camp without saying bye to me. In his eyes I was the one in the wrong for going round my sisters and im my eyes he was the one in the wrong as he ignored my call when i tried to arrange meeting up with him before he left.
So thats the reason we fell out....
You fell out because you went to your sisters? He sounds really immature!
I agree hunni dont let him take advantage ov u! He might not even end up going away, just act kool about it and worry when it happends until then dont let him think he can give u options...x x x
You fell out because you went to your sisters? He sounds really immature!
yup. and then he sent me a text saying ''i cant believe you didnt even see your boyfriend off, shows what i mean to you'' The Cheek!! He knows damn well i love him to pieces, and he uses that against me!
yup. and then he sent me a text saying ''i cant believe you didnt even see your boyfriend off, shows what i mean to you'' The Cheek!! He knows damn well i love him to pieces, and he uses that against me!
That sounds about right hun. Do you really wanna be with someone who knows how much you love them, so messes you around and doesnt treat you properly?x
aarrghhh dont know what to do!!
He says hes gonna call me tonight, (we havent spoke all week - only by texts)
Part of me wants to tell him to get lost, another part of me wants to say ill do anything for you to stay with me!! :(
Aww hun. This sucks. Bloody men! He sounds like he wants his cake and eat it... I think you need to have a serious talk with him, if he said he didnt want to be with you, but then said he does because he cant stop thinking about you then obviously something is there.
Btw, where in Walsall are you from hun? x
Please tell me to bugger off if you want to but this guy sounds like immature child.
He fell out with you because you went to your sisters and 'didnt see him off'??
And now he basically wont spend any time with you what so ever and wants to go on a holiday without you and tells you that when he gets back things will go back to normal??
In the words of CC.... dump him and burn his stuff!!!
Honestly hun though.... you dont need to take that crap. You are worth far more than that, sounds like he is doing exactly what he wants and doesnt even consider you.... You deserve better x
Btw, where in Walsall are you from hun? x
Im from pelsall chick, do you know it? Where are you from?
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Please tell me to bugger off if you want to but this guy sounds like immature child.
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Lol, i would never be offended by any comment, i posted on here because i am looking for reassurance/advice and any thoughts are more than appreciated :D
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Im from pelsall chick, do you know it? Where are you from?
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Yeah I know it, thats where my dads side of the family is from. Im from willenhall :)
Yeah I know it, thats where my dads side of the family is from. Im from willenhall :)
What a small world eh!! wouldnt it be hilarious if we knew each other!! :p
Lol, i would never be offended by any comment, i posted on here because i am looking for reassurance/advice and any thoughts are more than appreciated :D
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Well for more advice, please dont tell him you would do anything for him to stay with you.... Dont be a doormat honey, you have a life and your family and you should not be made to feel guilty for seeing them. And you also shouldnt be punished for it either.... your OH sounds selfish and wants things exactly his way... if not he throws his toys out the pram and dumps you.
Sounds like he needs to realise what an idiot he is acting and noone deserves to be treated that way... especially someone that is supposed to love you.
What a small world eh!! wouldnt it be hilarious if we knew each other!! :p
Very small world :P It would be funny, but I dont know a Loren with the spelling of your name, its quiet unusual!!
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