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This is kind of a rant but then again it isnt.
Since me and my OH have got married our sex life has gone down hill. Before we got married we used to have it at least once a day when we saw each other. We normally used to see each other friday evening till sunday evening, so we used to have sex all the time, but now we hardly ever have it. Its as though he doesnt find me attractive and as though i dont turn him on.
We have talked about it and bascially his answer was that he doesnt feel the need to have sex all the time, which i find annoying but i was used to have it quite a lot and now we hardly have it.
To me it feels as though he isnt interested in have sex and that he doesnt find me attractive. He keeps calling me sexy and things like that but i now dont think i am i have kind of lost a bit of my self-esteem. If that makes sense.
jenny xxx
If you only saw eachother Friday, Saturday & Sunday out of the week beforehand, that only means you had sex three days out of seven!
So as long as you are still having sex three out of seven days a week, it's just the same......or is it that you are having less than that?
Maybe because you only saw him on weekends that he thought he'd have to make the most of it but now that you see eachother practically every day, that urge to make the most has gone because he can take his pic of any day!
I wouldn't worry too much about it. Normal couples can go through dry spells where sex is practically none existent. If you're genuinely doubting he fancies you anymore, i'd just come out and tell him exactly how you feel because you're doing yourself no favours by making assumptions
It could possibly be that he doesn't feel the need to have sex all the time, it could be that he's stressed at work or it could be that because you've flagged it up to him, he feels as if he's under pressure to do it.....but whatever it is, you're not going to find out by worrying yourself!!
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This is similar with us. In fact we were talking about it the other day. Before we moved in together last August we would only see each other at the weekend as lived so far apart so were cramming a weeks worth into a weekend! lol! Still prob have the same amount of sex its now just spread out over the week so it does feel like it's less often to us. At first it bothered me until I realised that this was prob the reason.
If he's still calling you sexy hun you should take it as it means and he does find you attractive still. Please don't let it affect your self esteem. xx
We had sex on satuday but it had probably been a week before that. We just hardly have sex i think the longest it has been is about 2.5 weeks.
Thanks girls for you replys. I will try not to let it get me down but im a bit of a worrier so i worry about little things like that.
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Well why dont you spice it up a bit,
Do you usually take the lead or him?
Maybe buy some nice udnerwear, or suggest having a bath or shower together, things to get intimate again
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I prefer him takeing the lead and likes it when i take the lead but i dont like taking the lead that often but i guess im going to have to seem im kind of moaning about it.
We have taken showers and baths together loads of times before and to me it seems a bit same old same if you get me.
I cant really buy any new underwear because i have no money but i hinted to him to buy me some but he didnt seem that interested
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Massages are a great foreplay, have you tried them too?
Or taking food to the bedroom!
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My Oh isnt really into taking food to the bedroom, we tried it once and he didnt enjoy it.
Yeh we have done massages before and we have both enjoyed them i guess i could give some more massages. We have some massage oil from ann summers thinking about it, could use that...
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