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Hello - my name is Suzanne and my husband left to do his basic training at Halton this morning !! :(
I am wondering how I am going to cope without him till I can see him again!!
God help me if he gets posted away when he is finally in :confused:
We have been married 4 years - together for 6 and so far have never really spent any time apart :eek:
Will he definately have to do a tour ?
Also how likely is it he will end up on a base that allows us to contine living where we are (South Wales)?
I feel like my World has been turned upside down !!
I hope some one out there has some answers for me - ultimate respect to you ladies for coping with this !!
Heya hun and welcome to wags :) What's he training to do?
I'd say it's just about definite that at some point he wil have to go on tour, not sure about postings depends on what hes joining.
xxx
Hi hun
you have certainly come to the right place for some answers, support, and definitely some fun and laughs along the way!!
im an army wag but there are quite a few raf wags who come on regularly, im sure they will be able to better answer ur questions!!!
Im sure you will cope just fine with it all though, as long as you keep an open mind and be prepared for some changes, both in ur relationship, in him, and also in yourself, as this is a process you will need to adapt to!!! But it will make ur relationship stronger and make you appreciate the time you do get together- makes seeing each other again so much more special.
As long as you try to see the good sides to it all hun, some of the not so great stuff really doesnt matter x
Hi Suzanne! I'm an army wag, but we all tend to cross over anyway, so welcome to the world of Wags!!! You have def come to the right place to ask all your questions, rant, or talk about anything at all :)
It is most likely that your OH (other half) will have to do a tour, but it depends where he ends up once he has finished his training as to when that tour will be. I dont know anything about RAF postings, but im sure one of the other girls can help with that. It is all part of the parcel of being a forces wife, choosing whether to move around with your husband to where-ever he is posted, or alot of the girls decide to stay where they are, and then their OH's just come home whenever they get the chance, as they feel more comfortable being in familiar surroundings rather than moving somewhere where they dont know anyone.
You will find that as time passes it will get easier him being away, and the time will start to fly by. Also a good tip is to set yourself countdowns of when you will see him next, or when he completes certain parts of his training because then you have something to look forward too :)
Zoe Luvs Her SoldierBoi x
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Hi hun welcome to armywags :D
You remind me of me when i first joined, my OH is soon to pass out and finish training after starting in November. I know exactly how your feeling coz i was just like you when i joined. I can honestly say that for the first few weeks you will feel lost, empty and really upset but after a few weeks u wil begin to toughen up and get into a routine. Coming on here will certainly help you i can assure you !! ive just been looking back today at the threads i did when my OH first started and i was sooo shocked coz 8 months down the line i feel stronger than ever, im used to it now and it feels like my relationship has always been this way. Our relationship now is stronger than ever and my OH proposed to me on Saturday :D
Trust me hun all the girls will help you and give as much as advice as possible, when i first joined here i was constantly on here (stil am) haha more so now my new job allows me on internet :D old work didnt lol. Anything you want to know or ask just speak to us, we wil help ya get through it. x x x x x x
Zoe Luvs Her SoldierBoi x
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oh and ps i can imagine your feel like your whole world has come crashing down but honestly hun give it time and you will get through it. This is coming from someone who was really really really down in the dumps when my OH started :) x x x x x
He just rang me now - and says he should be able to ring me later :)
Thanks for the messages - it is somehow comforting to know I am not alone in the way I am feeling!!
23 days till I see him and counting x x
Hey Suzie,
Welcome to Wags!!!
Right I will see if I can answer some of your questions....
Well he will be doing his Basic Training at Halton and then depending on what trade he decides he will then have to go to that base to do his trade training. My OH did his trade training at Cosford which was 11 months.
He will have to go on tour unfortunatley but at the end of the day that is what they rain for :) At the moment most RAF tours are 4 months not 6 but they are looking at changing this. They usually go away every 3 years but they dont only just go to Afghanistan, they go to Bahrain,Falklands,Cyprus etc too.
The only base I know of in South Wales is St Athans which is South Glamorgan, What trade is your OH looking to do? I dont think St Athans is actually a permanant base but rather a training base so he probably wont get posted there. My OH lives in South Wales and the closet posting he could get nearest his home in his trade was Brize Norton.
I hope this helps and if you have any more questions feel free to ask x x x
Welcome Suzie! And I'm liking the countdown you've started! :) We've got a countdown club which is a sticky post at the start of the General Chat section. Come and join us counting down in there too.
xxx
Zoe Luvs Her SoldierBoi x
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He just rang me now - and says he should be able to ring me later :)
Thanks for the messages - it is somehow comforting to know I am not alone in the way I am feeling!!
23 days till I see him and counting x x
aww bet ur wel made up :D hehe. I hope it flies 4 u, am sure it wil jus keep busy and pamper urself :) im sooo glad uve cheered up x x x x
welcome to wags hun, u've defo come to the right place. i'm an army wag. i think the girls have pretty much answered everything for you. try not to worry too much, if he is based somewhere away from home because you're married you can always move with him. i know its a bit daunting. i've been married just over a year and living in MQ's for a year and it's not so bad. just all depends on whether you want to stay where you are and have the support of your family and friends around you, or move with him so you can live with him. it's hard coz either way you're gonna be missing someone. but fingers crossed he can get a posting close to home ay xxx
Hi hun,
Welcome to wags! :)
First of all, don't panic!! It sounds daft, but its a natural reaction and you really don't need to worry for now.
His basic training will be tough, and alot of lads don't stick at it for one reason or another, you just need to be there for him to support him and tell him you love him and you're proud of him no matter what :)
The army do offer housing but i don't know how flexible they are about where you get to go. I know my partner doesn't get much say about his postings, but then again, we aren't married and we don't have kids (yet!).
If he stays in, i imagine he will have to go on tour. But they don't just send them out there. They have a "build up" to them, where they go out on exercises to places like Canada and Belize, normally ranging from a few weeks to a few months.
Don't panic about tours, its so easy to panic when you see so many lads getting killed at the moment. Its a small proportion considering how large our army are, and depending on what they do in the army has a big impact on how much danger they are in over there. Tours are difficult i won't lie, but the girls are here day and night, and will talk over any worries you have. I come on here all the time whinging about total crap so don't be embarassed or shy, i don't imagine it will be anything we've not heard before.
Lots of us girls have to look on the bright side, especially when our lads are away for long periods of time...for me, i make the most of having the bed to myself, what i want on the tv, i get to watch total junk that russ would never watch, i don't shave my legs...its awesome! Yes, i'd much rather him be home, but hey, i can't have that, so i take advantage of the perks while i can...because when he's home, he takes over everything lol
Nice to meet you hun, don't be a stranger now you've said hello xxx
He has managed to text me saying that he is thinking of me every second. He also said he felt like crying every time he thinks of me at home alone. I hate to think of him sad :(
22 days and counting !!!
At least I will never take him for granted ever again !!
I guess we are all lucky to have guys we miss so much :D
He has managed to text me saying that he is thinking of me every second. He also said he felt like crying every time he thinks of me at home alone. I hate to think of him sad :(
22 days and counting !!!
At least I will never take him for granted ever again !!
I guess we are all lucky to have guys we miss so much :D
Awww poor thing! It will take him a wee bit to adjust to the lifestyle, but as long as you let him know you are fine, then that will make him happy :) It is hard when they are away and all they want to do is be with you, but just be there for him hun, and you both will get through it together. It is amazing how things like this can make your relationship so much stronger, and you learn to not take things for granted and appreciate the little things xxx
Hay suziethom, welcome to wags first of all and i hope you enjoy the site. The girls on here are amazing, they are very helpful!
Your OH will have to go on tour at some point.
Also seems you married you can apply for married quaters so you will be living with him on base.
What is your OH going to be training in once he has finished basic training?
xxx
Hiya hun and welcome to wags!! :) xx
I know exactly what you're feeling because back in November I went through it too, it's really hard! Even though it's not anywhere near tour-length, it's still a toughie because you've never been apart from them before :(
However once Halton is out of the way everything gets easier, believe me! He's going to be stressed and really tired these next few weeks so you have to make sure you keep him boosted and help get him through it! He's going to have his off days too but don't take it to heart :) They really make it tough for them!
What will your OH be doing once he's finished basic? What's his trade going to be?
He will 100% have to go on tour at one point but like the others have said, don't panic!! It's not always going to be dreaded Afghanistan and he'll need lots of preperation before he goes anywhere first anyway! (It costs them A LOT to train just one person, they want to make sure they get them 100% knowledgeable in what they're required to do before they ship them off anywhere!) He'll probably need to finish all his training first too.
As regards where you live now.. As you're married, you'll be entitled to married quarters so you'll be able to live on base with him and go with him where he's posted. I think the average is about a move every 3-6 years but I know someone who's been posted to the same base for about 8 years now. I guess it really just depends on where your hubby is needed.
Either way, welcome to wags! It's a very exciting life that you and OH are entering into now, and even though it seems really horrible you'll both grow to really quite like it! Promise! :) xxxxxx
Hey hun, firstly welcome to wags.
I know exactly how you feel cos ive recently had to go through basic training with my oh at Halton. It is tough and you have to be strong for your oh as it can be abit draining and he'll be missing you as much as you miss him. Does he get his weekends eventually hun? Cos i heard something about them stopping the weekends as of may?
Either way once you've got basic out of the way its sooo much better.. and as the girls have said once he's done his basic you can apply for married quarters and you can live with him on base :)
Any questions.. we're all here to answer!
Hope your okay hun xxx
Hi, I realise this is an oldish thread but wanted to join in.
Hubby is in RAF, at Odiham. They deploy every 10 months for 10 weeks to Afghanistan currently. This pattern is not likely to change for his unit, so it depends where you fella ends up. Obviously in between there are exercises to Morocco/USA/Wales..but you get used to it.
Hope you're well and I guess he should be back with you now.
Mrs C
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