View Full Version : Why are men SO confusing?!
Hello strangers :o
Been reading through some of these posts, really nice to see some people have found happieness again and others where Men are acting like complete douchebags! :rolleyes: why do us girls put up with it haha.
Anyway, I put a thread on here or the general chat agggges ago that I was dating a guy but couldnt work him out for shiz - turned out that he had been in prison for a yr and a half when he was 23 (he's now 29) - he killed a lady in a car crash where he was speeding so that left him pretty fcuked up - I soon left him alone!!
Anyway, I recently met this other guy and we had been talking for about a month before we met last week. Through what he was saying he was only up for some 'fun' and as I was single and thinking lifes too short I decided to go with the flow, anyway we met up last week, he came round, watched films and he stayed the night (yes we did sleep together, maybe this was wrong but hey ho it was a bit of fun) & he was really sweet and loving at times, lots of cuddles and stuff like you would find in a relationship so I got dead confused cos he seemed the type to only want fun and he had said to me couple weeks ago he split up from his ex in April as he wanted to be single. Fair enough, I didnt really expect anything from it but I do like him (i get attached too easy but thats my own fault) - but we were talking the other day on fb and I told him he confused the hell outta me and he said
"I dont want a girlfriend, but I do like you - thats why you deserve more than sex, you deserve loving and cuddles"
WHAT is this supposed to mean?!! What is he thinking of me?
Anyway if anyone can answer that I would love to know cos im sat here just thinking about what the hell is going through his head.
In the mean time my ex (THE SOLIDER :rolleyes:) has contacted me after 4 months of not speaking (he got another gf soon after we spilt and shes also in the army) and he says he wants to end it with her, trys to avoid her, she is too clingy and he thinks about me everyday and night !! I dont want him back but it's nice to know im wanted lol :D but he is too scared to end it with her as he feels sorry for her?!?
MEN ARE TOOOOO CONFUSING?! I thought we were supposed to be the confusing ones?!
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Hey hun- in answer to your other thread I don't look in the individual forums I only look at new posts so I see all new threads that have popped up since I last logged in lol :) so I saw this!
I'm not great with the whole 'men' thing, I have spent the last 5 years trying to figure out my fella and he's still a mystery to me lol. I don't have much experience with men......but what I would say, if he was keen he would drop his whole "wanting to have fun and be single thing" and chase after you. I think by saying "you deserve better" he's trying to be nice but really he's not after a relationship with you or in general. Hope this doesn't sound harsh....I'm sure he really likes you and all, but if he isn't keen enough to drop this whole attitude thing for a relationship he's probs not worth your time. Unless you only want a bit of fun in which case go for that, but I think as girls we tend to get much more attached and can't do the whole 'no strings' thing like men, well I couldn't anyways. So tread carefully. That's what I think anyways.....xxx
Hiya!
Don't think we've ever spoke but hello anyway! lol.
"I dont want a girlfriend, but I do like you - thats why you deserve more than sex, you deserve loving and cuddles"
WHAT is this supposed to mean?!! What is he thinking of me?
I think you answered that yourself hun.... it sounds like he is only out for fun :( But who knows what could happen? If you move on from him and find someone who wants a relationship, he may feel different lol :o
But you're right, men are very confusing :p xx
He probably does like you too and sees you as the type of girl that is relationship material. But he's just out of a relationship and his head is probably not in the right place to have another relationship just yet. So just keep it at face value - it is just a bit of fun and nothing more.
As for your ex - it's his own silly fault for staying in a relationship because he feels sorry for her. Considering he got into another relationship so quickly after you two split up suggests he doesn't do being alone very well so he's probably wanting to split up with her but wanting the security of knowing that he could jump back to you - thus avoiding being alone. It is nice to know that he has been thinking about you though... always good! :) I'd just leave him to it.
Enjoy your fling for now, they are great fun if you can keep your head in the right place and not fall for him.
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Some men are just more affectionate than others, and even if they dont want a serious relationship, they will be affectionate towards anyone they are with. I know it is confusing, i went through a similar thing with a guy before I was with my OH, this guy told me he didnt want anything serious, but we spent a lot of time together, held hands, he called me babe etc etc, so I got a bit confused as well! But at the end of the day we didnt stay together long, as after awhile he made it clear he didnt want anything more.
But try not to get too attached hun, if he has made it clear he doesnt want a relationship then you need to listen to him, or else you will just get hurt in the long run!
"I dont want a girlfriend, but I do like you - thats why you deserve more than sex, you deserve loving and cuddles"
WHAT is this supposed to mean?!! What is he thinking of me?
xxx
are u sure u dont live down south? as this sounds like the guy my friend was 'seeing' :rolleyes:
she met him last september as they were both just coming out of relationships, and neither wanted anything serious. after 6 months he was still coming back to hers after nights out sometimes, still coming round midweek for a cuddling night, still saying that he 'liked her' but that he wanted to stay single and didnt want a relationship.
needless to say she finally gave up on him after 7 months when she realised that all he ever wanted was to have his cake, eat it, but then be able to buggar off leaving the kitchen in a mess afterwards- so to speak.
id say thats one of those lines which says that i dont want a girlfriend, i want to be able to do what i want, when i want without having to answer to anyone, but at the same time, i dont want you to go off with other guys so im guna say some nice sweet things to keep u interested.
ps. as for the ex. tell him if he doesnt want her, to be honest, and stop messing people around.
Thanks girls, as im silly and get attached way too quickly i'm going to not contact him (though I find this so hard, im going to have to find some willpower from somewhere!) and just leave it at that otherwise as you say im going to end up getting hurt sooner or later :( xxx
are u sure u dont live down south? as this sounds like the guy my friend was 'seeing' :rolleyes:
she met him last september as they were both just coming out of relationships, and neither wanted anything serious. after 6 months he was still coming back to hers after nights out sometimes, still coming round midweek for a cuddling night, still saying that he 'liked her' but that he wanted to stay single and didnt want a relationship.
needless to say she finally gave up on him after 7 months when she realised that all he ever wanted was to have his cake, eat it, but then be able to buggar off leaving the kitchen in a mess afterwards- so to speak.
id say thats one of those lines which says that i dont want a girlfriend, i want to be able to do what i want, when i want without having to answer to anyone, but at the same time, i dont want you to go off with other guys so im guna say some nice sweet things to keep u interested.
ps. as for the ex. tell him if he doesnt want her, to be honest, and stop messing people around.
What was her name???? xxx
What was her name???? xxx
lol im joking, it wont be the same guy!!!!! but i think it fits a stereotype of a particular type of guy who behaves this way!
lol im joking, it wont be the same guy!!!!! but i think it fits a stereotype of a particular type of guy who behaves this way!
Lol maybe that would be too weird, but he is like that. Exactly like that. I know the name of his ex though, so you got me thinking...:eek: ??
Lol maybe that would be too weird, but he is like that. Exactly like that. I know the name of his ex though, so you got me thinking...:eek: ??
haha, well his initials are R.S..... just in case! lmao
haha, well his initials are R.S..... just in case! lmao
Lol don't think its the same guy....BUT I am from down South & she was from Devon also (noticed you were) but her name was Lucy I think...
Lol don't think its the same guy....BUT I am from down South & she was from Devon also (noticed you were) but her name was Lucy I think...
haha. nah she isnt a lucy. and neither was his ex. x
pheeewwwwwwwwww!! Did have my heart racing for 10 mins though! lol that would be too weird! xx
I think its best to just cut it off straight away hun, I was seeing a guy for a few months, just fun, and ended up falling for him after 9 months, big mistake as he was never going to commit... but I agreed to loadsa fun so let myself in for it!!!!
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Looks like he changed his mind cause Faye is now in a relationship according to FaceyB! :D
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Looks like he changed his mind cause Faye is now in a relationship according to FaceyB! :D
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Mwaahaaaa, well heeeelllllooooooo!! It feels weird being back here :cool:
Looks like he changed his mind cause Faye is now in a relationship according to FaceyB! :D
LOL Suzie!!!! This is a new guy....not the one that was messing me around. Believe it or not he is an EX SQUADDIE but is (re)joining and going in the MPGS (so he wont go on tour or exercises and he will STAY PUT!) so kind of in the army but kind of not. Does this make me a wag again???? :p
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