just a little confused...

[sexi-lil-lisa]

hey girls.

just got a little confused and wondered who i could talk to. end of last year i had a bit of a thing going with this guy. It was really nothing more then sex to be fair but i quite liked him. i gave up and then went and met my current OH. My laptop broke the other day and this guy was the only one i knew who would be able to sort it without it costing me a bomb so i gave him a call and he has sorted it. i only seen him for 5 mins when he picked it up and dropped it off but already something feels not quite right. i love my OH to bits and want to spend the rest of my life with him but me and this guy used to have really amazing sex (and i mean really amazing). he made my confidence about my body grow and basically got me to where i am now with my self esteem and seeing him again made me kind of miss that. It feels horrible because i feel like even thinkin about it is in some ways betraying my OH but im not going to act on it. Im just so confused.

xx

[manuiti]

hey hun

don't feel bad about thinking about it. the main thing is that you have no intention of acting on it. great sex is just what it is, great sex and by the sounds of things that's all it was. there's a reason you guys aren't a couple right now and that you and your OH are so just remember what that is.

our past is what makes us who we are today so don't be ashamed of it.

xxx

[Emzy]

aww hun dont worry things like that are pretty normal. i used to have a guy that was kinda like a boom boom buddy ;) he had the most amazing body and we had the best boom boom ever!!

i hadnt seen him in years and it must have been about 4 or 5 months before my wedding i bumped into him in a pub. all these feelings came flooding back, and it just reminded me of all the fun we used to have and i missed that. especially as i was starved of boom boom due to oh being in iraq and germany. of course i never acted on it but seeing him just made me remember how it all felt.

we never got together as a couple for a reason, it wouldnt have worked. he smoked weed and stuff like that and i didnt want to get dragged into all that. my oh was in a whole other league to this guy and it kinda made me realise that i was doing the right thing in marrying my Ben :)

so dont worry about it hun, just embrace the memories :) xxx

[faye_87]

This is EXACTLY the same as me. my other thread (why are men so confusing) was about this guy who I was just sleeping with but booyy was he amazing in bed aha :p but then I decided to not contact him as I felt myself getting attached and i knew he didnt want a girlfriend.

Anyway I met my current OH about a month ago and we recently got together properly. He's ace and lovely but last night I was speaking to this guy i was sleeping with on msn and it sooo makes me want him again :confused: only to sleep with pffft no way would I cheat on my current oh, definatly not but hey the way I look at it chick (cos it kept me awake thinking of it lol) and the conclusion I came up with.....

at least we had that bloody good experience and didnt miss out on the chance while we could haha :rolleyes: