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people dont take your relationship seriously cauz your so young??
with me its both his parents and mine and its really annoying! his family are starting to get it since hes been on tour cauz they can sort of see how much bein apart is hard for us, but mine just dont seem to get it and its doing my fruit in!!
i dont even know why it bothers me but it really really does!!!
I cant really relate as I'm an oldie :rolleyes: but i dont think people realise how different millitary relationships are. They are way more intense because of the time apart i think. me n my hubbi were very serious very quickly and I know a lot of others on here have had the same experience.
the only thing I can say is screw them, time will show them how serious you are and prove them all wrong and you can sit there very smugly in time saying I told you so :D not very constructive advice but time will tell hun ad i have to say you seem very mature for your age xxxx
haha thankyou :-)
yeah we was the same it all happens very fast i think being in this type of relationship cauz you sort of learn straight away you have to give it your all or its not going to work, like we used to only see eachother on saturdays (that lasted about two weekends) and from then on we wud see eachother as soon as he got back till pretty much when he left!
we became massive parts of eachothers lives so fast and in the almost two yrs we've been together we've gone through more than some married couples, i mean him being on tour is probably the hardest thing weve both (and all of us on here) had to deal with and i dont think its about age i think its about how much we love eachother
dont get me wrong sometimes we do have our times when we act like complete immature morons with eachother like we both used to be really badly jealous and we both wud check eachothers fones and FBs all the time, sadly i used to find things on his :/ but now i dont even bother checking anything any more it began to drive me mad so i figured i had to stop looking!
but as much as sometimes we can be a bit immature with eachother i love him as much as i wud if we was 50 odd xx
Thats all that matters hun, dont worry bout what other people think....pity them for not being able to understand what we go through and how great your relationship is :D
As another oldie , I dont have that so much.
But I do understand where your coming from as in everything is speeded up relationship wise.
One of the guys I work with asked me for relationship advice today I gave my opinion and said at the end of it I am not in a normal relationship so if it goes wrong dont blame me.
I think as long as you love each other thats all that matters xxxx
i guess youre both right, its just that kyle asked me to marry him before he left, hes not mentioned it since so im kind of unsure of the seriousness of it
and id love to be engaged to him, when weve spk about it we both said we wudnt get married for a few yrs, but being engaged wud be ace :-)
i am worried people would just laugh at us though, we know were young and that its not the typical age for marriage etc, but we do love eachother alot! and i think this tours made me realise id be lost without him! i rely on him sooooo much!! hes my best friend more than anything and i cant imagine like going through a bad time without him being there or him having a hard time and me not being there!!
suppose i just gotta ignore it havent i :/ xx
I havent been in that sort of situation so i cant relate so it myself but I wouldnt worry about it hun, as long as you and your OH love each other then what other people think doesnt matter.
It is you and your OH who are in the relationship not your parents.
I'm 18 engaged and pregnant hun and yes people do think it's ridiculous! I get treated like I'm stupid for having a baby with a man I'm madly in love with and for agreeing to marry at 19.
My parents are really supportive as my mum married my dad at 19 and they've been together 35 years now. Still happily married!
My mates are the worst for it. They say things like, yeah but you should be out clubbing now not waiting for your man to come home and doing ironing and being a mum!
I WANT TO DO THAT YOU THICK IDIOTS! I LOVE THIS MAN I'VE HAD A FULL TIME JOB FOR TWO YEARS I KNOW I'M YOUNG BUT I DO UNDERSTAND THE WORLD A LITTLE BETTER THAN YOU LOT WHO HAVE BEEN SITTING AT SCHOOL DESKS FOR THE PAST TWO YEARS AND ARE NOW GETTING DRUNK AT UNI! I'M HAPPY!
Mike's mates at camp give him a lot of stick for being a young engaged dad. You're right though hun, it's how you feel. Not anyone else. Mike and I have to put up with a lot of sh!t and it hurts when it comes from your mates. Still he is my best friend at the end of the day and he's so mature. He wants to be married and have a family. As do I. I did my partying, rebelling when I was too young to be doing it. Got into bad situations and grew up because of them. I'm happy being a mother and a wife. It's going to be hard I know but we're happy together with the life we chose so the rest of um can get f*cked with what they think.
At the end of the day some people will never totally support a youthful relationship, but as long as you two are truly happy, that's all that matters.
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Ignore everyone else! I don't know at what point people took James and I seriously, we got together at 17. I think it was when we got a place together when we were 20/21. We've had a baby this year and are getting married in December, but I still have my aunt telling us "people don't know what they want until they're 25" um ok lol....random age! I think it's more people our own age (we're 22 now) that think we're too young, just because they haven't found someone they can see being with for the long term they can't comprehend other people their age doing it. Older generations (40s+ !) don't seem too phased coz it wasn't thant long ago that it was the norm to be married etc in your early 20s. People didn't bat an eyelid then, times are different.xxx
yeah i agree with you both tbh!! yeah we are young and who knows what the future holds but right now he feels like my forever and i really can see us staying together forever :)
yeah alot of my friends say were too serious and i agree its cauz they dont know how it feels
SOD EM :) so long as were happy who cares xxxxxx
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