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Hey. I'm new to this whole army wag situation. Been with my man for just over 6 months. We've spent most of this time apart. Just seeing eachother for the odd weekends and twice had a week together seeing as he had unused leave. We're planning a future together though, we both know that this is the real thing...So was wondering what advice you can give me? How do you cope? I'm planning to move to be with him soon, I'm terrifed. He knows I'm scared to leave my family behind but I don't want to let him know how scared I am cos I know he'd tell me to stay here n we'll make it work long distance cos hes worried if he makes me move away and I'm not happy there that I'll end up resenting him and that we will fall apart. I wont let that happen though, much as I'm scared to go and scared that I wont like living away from my family, I know I'll get through it so long as I'm with him. How hard is it though? I need someone who knows what its really like to tell me that it can work.
Plus the last week or two I've been having nightmares that hes gonna get sent off to afghan and something will happen to him (he was out there before we ever got together) n when I woke up I tried to ring him but he couldnt answer cos he was working..3 hrs that were the worst of my life, I thought it had been true n I'd lost him. When I heard his voice I broke down cos I was so happy it really had just been a bad dream.
But then we talked about it and he told me that if he does have to go back that he'll just kiss me goodnight before he leaves n then go. He said that he wont say goodbye cos if he doesnt it means hes always gonna come back to me. I can see his point on this but it still felt like my heart stopped when he said it.
I dont really know what I want, I'm just hoping you can tell me its okay. or that its normal or well anything really.
Thanks Ladies. xxx
Hey hun and welcome to wags!
Whilst I can't help with the Afghan side of things as my OH is in training, I recently got married and moved 3 hours away from my family to be with him. :)
I'm not going to lie, the first couple of weeks are AWFUL.. I mean, the amount of crying I did was just ridiculous. But you soon get used to it and now I wouldn't change it for the world!
However you said you've been with your OH for just over 6 months and in that time you haven't seen each other that much -- do you think you're ready for full time living with him? I'm not trying to patronize or anything like that because people preach about it all the time, but it IS different living with someone and oh my god my OH drives me nuts sometimes.
I think you're pretty normal though. :) It's very strange suddenly being in a military relationship and your emotions go nuts!! I reckon it's because we don't get to be around them long enough to get irritated :D
Hey Hun, welcome to WAGS. It is a great place to get advice and a laugh, support night and day.
I moved 3 hours away to be with my OH, it was a big change, plus changed my job and now he is away on 6 month deployment. It's not easy but I wouldn't change being with him for anything.
But DO think carefully as you stated you haven't been together that long and not much time spent together. You don't need to rush, things can work long distance if you both want it!
xx
Hey hun,
Welcome to the site! :) You've definitely come to the right place for support, advice or just a chin wag.
What Reg is your OH in?
xxx
hello hun and welcome to wags. this site is the place to be xxx
hey hun welcome and get stuck in xxx
hey hun welcome to wags. me and my hubbi were together for just 4 months before he proposed :) we just knew it was meant to be. it wasnt until a couple of years later we actually got married and moved into married quarters but now we've been married and living together for about a year and a half. i've moved a few hours away from home and i found is very tough at first and me and hubbi have had our ups and downs. but it's been so worth it.
we're still very much in love and after a bit of a difficult spell things seem to be better than ever atm. oh and we now have our first baby on the way. :)
i defo think you know when you meet the 'one'. i wished i could have moved to be closer to hubbi but he was based out in Germany before we got married and i didnt really want to move out there i'd have been lost!! lol.
i do find it hard not having my family around, luckily hubbi hasnt really been away anywhere since we've been living together but i know if he did go i'd find it quite hard without my family on my doorstep. but it's worth it being able to be with him pretty much everyday. :) x
Thanks ladies. Its made me feel a little better knowing that I'm not the only one. Will be easier to get used to it knowing there are people I can turn to for advice.
Thanks for the honesty Whigfield. I'm sure I'll be a wreck when I leave here. I'm not used to being away from my family. I even found it difficult when I left home n moved about 10 mins away. I'm dreading it for that reason but at the same time I'm excited. Cant help but feel worried I'll be alone when hes in work and I wont make friends.
I know what you mean about us only being together for a short time. I've considered that. I've been married before (I'm still in the process of getting a divorce) and after that there's no way I'd go into this with closed eyes. I wouldn't let myself get involved if I didnt think it would last, not just for my sake but for my sons. I know that we'll work though, we love eachother and we know it will be hard but we're willing to work at it and do what it takes to be together.
Manuiti - He's in 1 RSME, I think thats right....(still trying to get used to all that stuff. It confuses me, slowly getting him to teach me all the different terms.
Emzy - Congratulations on your pregnancy, how far gone are you?
I know what you mean about finding the one. Its different when your with them, everything just sorta makes sense like never before. Yeah I'm sure it will be hard when they go away. I'm likely to fall to pieces. but your right its worth it to be with him. I hate not waking up next to him and moving away from home is a sacrifice I'm willing to make to be with him properly.
Thanks so much everyone. xxx
welcome my lovely :)
this site is fab and will give you lots of support xx
Hey,
I have only been on this site three days and i love it.
I hope everything works out for you and your man and deep in your gut you will know what is right for you. Trust yourself and your love for your man. You will know.. and if not im sure us army wags will help the best we can :) I have a situation at the moment which is difficult too ( Look in the general chat section hello anyone out there post if you wanna know) and i understand how you feel.
Anytime you wanna chat - i'm around just give us a bell xx
Welcome to the site hun :D xxx
welcome to wags lovely :) xxxx
Thanks Mjs soldier girl, Same to you if you ever need a chat or advice then I'm here n I'll do my best to help or just to listen n understand.
Thanks to you all, feel alot better since joining this site. xxx
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