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My man is in the army, we have recently got a flat together as he moved away from where he was to Edinburgh, but now he is transferring to EOD and is moving down to england and leaving me up here, being only engaged there's no way i can move down with him. i am dreading him going as i am going to miss him heaps, i no this isn't going to affect our relationship but it doesn't stop it hurting, i joined this to get advice from people in the same situation. EOD isn't just a normal job in the army it is probably one of the most dangerous jobs which is why i am scared to let him go. I don't have any friends who are in the army or who have a partner in the army, so any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for any replies in advance, Louise
Hiya hun!
First of all, welcome to the site!
I can't really give much advice as my hubby is RAF, but I didn't want to read and run!
Why can't you move down to be with him hun? Plenty of people rent in the area close to where their OH is based as they're not married. Or maybe bring the wedding forward??? ;)
I can understand why you are worried though.
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hey hun - like Claire said couldn't you move down with him? Excuse my ignorance but what is EOD? otherwise you will have to give it a go and you will get used to it and it will make it all the better when you do get to see each other x
hey hun - like Claire said couldn't you move down with him? Excuse my ignorance but what is EOD? otherwise you will have to give it a go and you will get used to it and it will make it all the better when you do get to see each other x
I had to ask hubby :o heehee. He couldn't remember the exact words, but it starts with explosive and has to do with bomb disposal....he thinks!
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I had to ask hubby :o heehee. He couldn't remember the exact words, but it starts with explosive and has to do with bomb disposal....he thinks!
xxx
i thought i would have to google it :D thanks hun x
OH used to be EOD i think its Explosive Ordinance Detachment.
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My man is in the army, we have recently got a flat together as he moved away from where he was to Edinburgh, but now he is transferring to EOD and is moving down to england and leaving me up here, being only engaged there's no way i can move down with him. i am dreading him going as i am going to miss him heaps, i no this isn't going to affect our relationship but it doesn't stop it hurting, i joined this to get advice from people in the same situation. EOD isn't just a normal job in the army it is probably one of the most dangerous jobs which is why i am scared to let him go. I don't have any friends who are in the army or who have a partner in the army, so any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for any replies in advance, Louise
Do you know where he is going to be based yet hun? OH used to be with them in Chester. xx
OH used to be EOD i think its Explosive Ordinance Detachment.
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Explosive Ordinance Disposal
Welcome to wags hun! You'll find loads of support here, the girls are all fab. :)
I agree with the others, can you not move to be closer to him? Or have you already got commitments where you are?
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Hey hun welcome to wags. My OH is EOD but depending on the role your man has defines the level of danger. Unless he's an AT, AMT or a High threat operator then theres no real cause for concern. There's lots of Rad Op's, signallers and drivers which make up the EOD in support of the AT, AMT & High Threat Operators. I know its hard with the distance but try not to worry, especially if hes not one of the first three roles mentioned. Where is he going to be based? x
Hellooo! Well our situations are similar but reversed, im in england and hes based in scotland, we are engaged and see each other every weekend. Youre in the right place, always here if you are feeling down :) xxxxx
Hi hun and firstly welcome to the site :D You will get plenty of advice and banter on here from all the lovely girlies :D
A lot of the girls on here either have or do live apart from their men. When OH and I were engaged, I used to live in Edinburgh and he was based down in Colchester, so we did the long distance thing for awhile, but I still got to see him every time he had a weekend off or some sort of leave, so it isnt that bad hun. You do adjust and get used to it, and with technology these days, you can skype, call, text, facebook every night, so its not that bad. But if you really dont think you can survive the distant, have you thought about moving closer to where he will be based to make it easier on you both???
Thanks for all your kind words, so glad i joined this, i cant move closer, we have just bought a flat in falkirkso are comitted to it, until we get married that is us apart, we will survive i no we are strong enough just dosnt make it easy as you all no :) glad i no i have a my own place where i can talk to people in the same situation its made me feel alot better about his move :) xx
Thanks for all your kind words, so glad i joined this, i cant move closer, we have just bought a flat in falkirkso are comitted to it, until we get married that is us apart, we will survive i no we are strong enough just dosnt make it easy as you all no :) glad i no i have a my own place where i can talk to people in the same situation its made me feel alot better about his move :) xx
You've no doubt considered this but what about renting out your flat and renting close to your OH???? xxx
yeah we thought about it, but we cant rent our flat until we have had it at least 2 years :) distence will just make us stronger, 3 years apart isnt long considering we are going to spend the rest of our lives together thats what i keep thinking, and now i can go on here and i know this isnt the type of forum that you post something and no one replys, i can come on here when i am having a down day which is a great comfort :)
Hey
When me and my OH first got together he was based in Germany and I lived in England. It was hard, but you do get use to it in the end. He tried to use his leave so he had long weekends as he would drive back, and usually I'd see him once or twice a month.He then moved to a unit really close to where we were living so he could come home every night, but then he got sent to Cyprus for 7weeks. That took the mick a bit. lol. But basically I find that having some sort of routine helps, lots of phonecalls and countdowns til when you're next going to see them x
yeah it is something that will get easier, i think it will hurt each time to say goodbye but it will get easier :) i just have to stay strong and keep myself occupied and make the most of the time i do spend with him
Hiya hun,
Have you thought of selling your house to move? What will you do when you're married?
The base I'm at has an Army EOD attachment, the lads are sound and they really supported me when my oh (my oh isn't EOD) was on tour last year.
Lauren xx
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