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Hello...ive just found this site and been reading over some posts. I'm very confused at the minute and would appreciate any advice anyone can give me.
My OH was out in Iraq and as you all know it's hard being at home, waiting for a call or letter to know they r ok. He was amazing whilst he was out there and he kept me strong, altho still had sleepless nights with worry etc. We had planned so much for when he got home and we love each other.
Thing is, he's got back and been so very distant. He lost a number of friends whilst on tour, having alot of nightmares and near death experiences. But he wouldn't talk about it. He'd been drinking from the minute he left Iraq and 5 weeks on, he's stil drinking every night. He came bk and couldn't tell me enough how much he loved me. But i had a holiday which was booked over a year ago, before i was with him.. so within 4days of him being home i was away for 10 days. Whilst on holiday he text me to say he'd cheated. I then realised after coming bk, he hadn't... but he thought that was a way for me to leave him. He's been hurt in the past and im the only person hes trusted as much as he trusts his family. I love this guy and would do anything for him.
Problem is, he is now blocking my exsistance...he told me he'd moved on...which meant.....as long as he had a pint he was fine........he needs to talk to someone but through male pride he wont...but getting drunk everynight isn't helping. I can't tell him enough how much i love him and i'm here for him........... ive give him space, he spoke to me last week on the phone for the first time in 3wks...but he won't see me. I know, he does love me and he knows if he sees me...he'll remember how he felt. But what do i do??
I dont wanna push him away, i don't wanna harrass him. I'm stuck.
If i walk away then i won't prove nothing to him.
If anyone has been through something similar or has any advice at all.......i'd appreciate it. I'm going out of my mind here!!
Thank you
Hello...ive just found this site and been reading over some posts. I'm very confused at the minute and would appreciate any advice anyone can give me.
My OH was out in Iraq and as you all know it's hard being at home, waiting for a call or letter to know they r ok. He was amazing whilst he was out there and he kept me strong, altho still had sleepless nights with worry etc. We had planned so much for when he got home and we love each other.
Thing is, he's got back and been so very distant. He lost a number of friends whilst on tour, having alot of nightmares and near death experiences. But he wouldn't talk about it. He'd been drinking from the minute he left Iraq and 5 weeks on, he's stil drinking every night. He came bk and couldn't tell me enough how much he loved me. But i had a holiday which was booked over a year ago, before i was with him.. so within 4days of him being home i was away for 10 days. Whilst on holiday he text me to say he'd cheated. I then realised after coming bk, he hadn't... but he thought that was a way for me to leave him. He's been hurt in the past and im the only person hes trusted as much as he trusts his family. I love this guy and would do anything for him.
Problem is, he is now blocking my exsistance...he told me he'd moved on...which meant.....as long as he had a pint he was fine........he needs to talk to someone but through male pride he wont...but getting drunk everynight isn't helping. I can't tell him enough how much i love him and i'm here for him........... ive give him space, he spoke to me last week on the phone for the first time in 3wks...but he won't see me. I know, he does love me and he knows if he sees me...he'll remember how he felt. But what do i do??
I dont wanna push him away, i don't wanna harrass him. I'm stuck.
If i walk away then i won't prove nothing to him.
If anyone has been through something similar or has any advice at all.......i'd appreciate it. I'm going out of my mind here!!
Thank you