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Hi everyone.
My boyfriend is flying to Afghan today and I am a mess. I don't know what to do. He left home yesterday and I have hardly stopped crying since. I miss him so much already. We still speak often as he is stuck waiting to fly and the flights have been delayed. I am worried that if I am feeling this bad while I can still talk to him, what am i going to be like when he has properly gone?
I'm so upset, I don't know what to do
Gemma
mate its hard i know i have done it 8 times now recently a week ago. My DH is in afghan now. it will get easier as time go on and before you no it he be back again, write to him every day via ebluey or normal blueys and also send him a request at bfbs radio as they get that station out in afghan. sundays is access where its on for everywhere in the world where guys are stationed. my H heard his request sunday which made him happy. And you have us on here to keep you going to.
Hey huni try not to be too upset 1 thing I have learned is there is only you who can stop yourself being upset!! My husband of 5 weeks well 8 now flew out to afghan 3 weeks ago today, and in the beginning I was an absolute mess, all I wanted to do was lock myself away!! But I then decided that I didnt want to spend six months like that, (I dont feel myself all be it) I mean god I miss him so much (its martyns first full tour) but you have to get on with things for you.... I am back up north staying with my mum and have gone bk 2 college to complete a hairdressing nvq level 3- I think you need to find a focus such as college, work or a hobby its something to keep you busy!! You will get to speak to him hun just not all the time and I promise you do adjust to it, you get used to it. The hardest part is out the way now- think of it as your climbing a mountain and your on the way to the top (half way through) and your coming back down!! There are letters and e-blueys so once they start flowing its another means of contact!! Try not to be to down huni and if you are come on here the girls are great and have shown me real support and before you know it, it will be his rnr!! How long is he out there for? If there is anything you need feel free to private message me and I'll try and help!!
Love Kate x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x
thank you for your messages
I can't seem to come to terms with the fact that I won't see him now for another 16 weeks. His RnR is not until February. I am trying to think of things to keep me busy but I feel like I can't do them yet. I wish I could be strong like you girls :o(
Hi Gemma,
We havent met I'm Rach one of the Super Moderators on this site and alot of the girls are currently going through what your experiencing now which feels like a bereavement and a sense of loss.....I know I've been there and I felt like my whole world was caving in the day Rob went and cried for about 3-4 days until I had my first phonecall and then cried again on the phone to him :(
Your going to feel like this until you start to adjust because you will eventually unless you turn into a hermit and dont go out anywhere.....this is something you shouldnt do take it from me...see your friends and go out even if to walk around the shops for a coffee...otherwise your get depressed....you will start to feel better hun as soon as you get your phonecalls and the eblueys start flowing...makesure you write as often as you can because that helps them as much as it helps you...after a while your get into a routine and start looking forward to R&R....
My guy came back last weds...so theres light at the end of the tunnel ;)
Hey huni you will gain stregnth as time goes by it is always hard when they first leave but just remember hes doing a job and hes doing it well, you have to focus on being strong for him and keeping things going while he is away!! Time will pass hun and when he comes home you will think god where did the time go!! Its extremely hard at first but I may have all ready said before cant remember lol but it does get easier- keep your chin up hun x x x x xx
bless you honey I know how you're feeling and I know that it must feel like the worst feeling in the world right now but gradually you will start to feel better,i promise.You just need to remember that the way your feeling now won't last forever and the more people you have around you to talk to,the easier it will get. I'm always cursing the army I hate it when my man has to go away but u have to remember its his job and u should be so proud of him for what he does.Try to stay strong and be positive,he loves you and he will come home but right now he needs you to be strong for him because he has a job to do.Try to keep yourself busy honey think of all the things that you can send him to keep him smiling and remember that every day that goes by is a day closer to him coming home to you xxx :) private message me anytime if you need a chat xx
Hi Gem
My OH went out on the 26th Sep so its still fresh too! dont worry I didnt stop crying either but im fine now. good days bad days.............just have to get on. ive been sending loads of blueys and sent a parcel yesterday. he has called three times but I did go in for an op over the weekend so he was worried but not expecting to hear anything for at least a week now. If you dont expect to hear from them then its great when you do.take each day at a time but pop on here and everyone is very helpful and understanding. Chin up chick. xxx
Hi hun,
I know just how you feel sweety, i'm new to this too. My hubby got posted away today and I'm sat here in floods of tears. Ive had everyone ringing me and coming round to see how I am which is great but that just makes it worse cause when they ask how I am etc I just start crying again! My hubby wont be home until April and his rnr should be in Jan but that hasnt been confirmed yet. Really want him to call but then again I dont want to cry on the phone when he does call, does this make sense?
We have got to help each other through these hard times and hopefully things will get alot easier.
Nicola xx
thank you for your messages
I can't seem to come to terms with the fact that I won't see him now for another 16 weeks. His RnR is not until February. I am trying to think of things to keep me busy but I feel like I can't do them yet. I wish I could be strong like you girls :o(
Hi there! I'm new here and my boyfriend just flew out to the Falklands (not that far away), but he is missing christmas, new year & our anniversay. I'm really upset & I can't wait to see him again. I'm not strong at all about this, but reading the comments from other members made me feel a whole lot better. I know that there are people going through the same thing.
Hiya Gem,
It's been quite a while now, are you coping much better? My OH went out the same time as yours. I hate him being there and the letters and phone calls aren't the best but i'm getting through and just looking forward to him coming back. Let me know how you're getting on :-)
Warly xxx
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