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my fella was in the raf for three years and had to leave before i met him,
he is just about to rejoin, im scared as i dont know waht its like being with someone in the services and dont really know what to expect , how much do you see your men , can you go with them to where they are posted if you are not married.
im 22 i would marry him tomorrow if i had the chance .
i hope some of you would give some much needed advice thanks in advance ladies. xx
Hi Amy
Welcome to wags. Its hard being an army wag. You have to be strong and put up with all the **** that comes with it unfortunately.
I think you can only live with them if you are married hun. Army are crap :(
Where abouts are you from? What regiment is ur oh in?
xx
Hi Amy
I have not long been dating a Marine who is away at sea at the moment. i have never been in a relationship with anybody in the forces and its not easy. I find that none of my friends are much support because they dont know whats it like to be with somebody you dont hear off much and a few have told me im mad.
I have found the girls on here great and my spirits are lifting already knowing there are loads of us ladies out there going through the same thing and that you can get through it.
I havent heard off Michael in two weeks now and at first it was really hard but talking helps alot and im finding now im getting more excited to hearing off him again and seeing him and im getting through it better and you will to.
x
Hey girls welcome to wags.
It is hard going out with someone in the forces, and we dont always get to see them alot... But believe me it is very much worth it. The love i have for my other half is so much greater because i appreciate him more. I have my days when i hate what he does... but i love him and i love the fact (occasionally i dont) that he is so passionate about his job.
Girls who love someone in the forces are stronger than any other woman. we know how precious life is and what true love is..
Hope this helps in some way. xx
Hi girls thanks for the words at the moment he has to get hold of his discharge papers then can process his app.
he was at RAF Cosford.
He will be joining the Flight ops but dont have a date as yet, will kepp you all posted as when he does go im gonna need your help sooooo much mwahxx
Hiya honey don't b put off by this...
Ok, like everyone says its really really hard but its soooo worth it. Ur gona go thru so much, ur gona get so angry, loney, scared, he could miss bdays etc but everyone here will help u with that cos we're all going through the same or have done so before. Just think it will make you being together so much stronger, u'l appreciate eachother so much more. I get to see my marine every weekend when hes not on exercise etc n talk most nights.
So proud to have my man in the forces to keep us safe. I'd never ask him to change his job. (not that he'd listen) Plus they look so fwoor in their uniform.
I've now been with my OH 5yrs & I think the only reason we're still together is cos of his job (oh n love of course hehe). Keep your chin up hun n when its tough every1s here to listen, help and advise.x
thanks Annie, i will keep strong and see what happens xx
Hi Amy....
I have just been in your situation and believe me its hard and only gets harder but if your like me you'd do anything for your man... And like the other lovely ladies have said its make you so much stronger and Love them even more if thats possible.
My fella Guy had been in the army since he was 16 but left after 9 years so met when he was out (Its sounds like prison doesn't it) After a year and a half of us being together he decided to go back as it would help for a better future for us...
This came as a total shock to me.. All the questions ran round my head, When, Why, Where etc.. And to be honest i'm still asking them questions.
He's been back in since June and it the last few months he's been down south for a months moved to Germany and I've just saod bye to him as he's off to Iraq on the 18th...
I was planning to move over to Germany with him when he got posted, we are not married but a couple of his friends over there were renting with there girlfriends so felt it was possible.. But then we found out about Iraq so its on hold for now :(
If there is anything you want to know anything at all how small, just let me know coz i've just been there and still am so confused.. XXX
thanks so much laura, you guys are very strong and you are right i will do anything for my man tooo so im gonna have to be too xxx:o
hey hey amy welcome on board!
like the others say it can be really sucky having a fella in the forces but i`m pretty sure for every rubbish bit there is a good bit too. My oh is in cyprus for the next two years,,,, sometimes its really hard and you feel really lonely but then they come home and you realise it was all worth it. its a cheesy thing to say but i truely believe that it makes you stronger as a couple, you learn to appreciate the time you spend together and you dont take things for granted. You might find things a little hard a first but then you`ll find your own way of dealing with it and it wont seem so bad. and when times are really tough you can always come on here and have a ching wag with someone who you can guarantee is feeling the same way.
well i do hope to be speaking soon! chin up x x x
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