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Hi all,
I'm new to this site, my OH is at Cranwell at the moment, has been for about a year now and we've been together for 6 years. I thought I'd come on here cause I'm having one of those bad days, you know how it is. Really struggling with just being on my own really, just looking for a lil support.
Hope to meet some good friends
Charlie x
Hey Charlie and welcome to wags... im Claire and my fella is in Iraq at the mo...
Tell us about you..
You will make loadsa mates on here x x x x x x
Hi welcome im Michelle 27 married to lee wo is in canada at the mo, been together 7years married for 1year!
Hi Claire, I'm feeling a bit of b***h today if I'm totally honest with ya. I think in general I'm a tolerant person I put up with alot of rubbish this kinda life throws at ya but today I'm angry. I read some of the notes on here and all the girls seem so supportive of their men and in general I am but sometimes (like today) I get angry. I feel like I've given up alot for him to be where he is and I'm the one thats sat here alone while he's in the bar with all the lads, living the dream. I know he finds it hard too but he's not one for expressing his feelings. Please dont think me to be evil, these days are few and far between and I really do hate that I feel like this but i thought if anyone would understand it would be the people here x
hey charlie hope ur ok , im Eloise bin with my o/h 3 year in october n hes bin in army 2 year in september im here if yah wana chat xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx :D
Hi Michelle , Eloise (thats what I wanna call my lil girl, when I have one) :)
I shouldnt imagine either of you live far from me, all in Yorkshire. What a freezing place it is at the mo! Canada sounds good tho, could you not have moved with him?
Oh Charlie, we would never think u are evil....we all have these feelings.... which is why its good to come on here and share as its good to speak to ppl who know exactly how u feel... this is a place where u can moan...
Men eh, never ones for expressin feelings.. How long have u been a soldiers gf/wife? I think learnin to accept the army comes with time... we all feel angry at some point as the army has taken away our men, all depends on our moods eh!!!!!! x x x x x x x
He's been in the RAF for about a year and half now but he was at uni for 3 years previous so we've been doing the living apart business for a while now. Its just this last year that Ive got my own place, I thought I'd be ok with it but its a lil more difficult than I imagined. Your guy's in Iraq? cant be easy, I dare not think of that day at the moment. Do you have children?
no he has only gone on a short 6week tour! dont live on camp either we have our own home near doncaster
Hi Charlie, welcome to wags. xxxx
Yeah he's been there for 5 n half months now.... its a 7 month tour... the first half was quite hard at times, but now im just lookin forward to it all bein over... Tours arent nearly as bad as u think... once u sed bye and u get into a routine... it gets much easier..
You just need to take things a step at a time.... you will find it hard at times, we all do.. even tho some of us appear to be doin ok, weve all had our wobbles... but these things seem to make us all so strong, you may not see it now, but as u go along you realise ur strength of gettin thru these hard times... me and my man was apart longest ever for 18 weeks... but its made us both so strong..
Does ur oh know how u feel right now?
Oooh and i dont have any kids x x x x x
Hi Emma, you ok? cant believe how nice everyone on here is, was having a good old cry when I logged on but feeling much better already! x
Hi Charlie and Welcome to wags xxx
I'm ok, having bit of a down day, but this site helps loads. Trust me, its addictive!!! Everyone on here is so lovely and they know how to put a smile on ur face!! Glad ur feeling better already, its the miracle work of the wags, lol, xxxx
I so agree about the routine. When he was in uni he could be away for 3 months at a time and once i got in the routine I was fine but now that hes in Cranwell and only 1.5 hours away he comes home on the weekends and I'm sure they'll come a day when I wish he was home every weekend but the constant backwards and forwards just knocks you out of the routine. Its so stupid to think it was easier when I didnt see him as much, believe me tho i dont take it for granted, i know it wont last forever. I guess you just gotta make the best of the time you get.
I think he does realise Im having a hard time but when all said and done he's a man, they dont quite understand emotion i dont think. I try not to get upset when talking to him cause really theres not much ya can do to change it.
Where is a fella's base in the UK?
Ah yeah, i try not to talk too much about the situation... I go thru the whole mixed up routine wen Matt's normally here.. it kills ya eh, even tho u no u will see them in 5 days... so i know how u feel!!!!
My man is based in Catterick so the drive from Bolton is about 100 miles/1.5 hours like u n ur man. Cant wait to get back to seein him more tho.
Yeah u always make the most of your time, which is what makes our relationships more special than civvys coz it stays fresh.. thats always a bonus x x x x xx
Very true, they always say the way to keep a relationship alive is to keep falling in love, I suppose this life makes it a bit easier to do. Although it is difficult I think you do learn to appreciate them more (not that we'd tell em that ;)). Im really glad I logged on, theonly people I have close to me that may understand are friends at work, 2 gals I work with had fathers in the forces, arny and navy. I thought they would be supportive but in general I get the 'you knew how it would be, get one with it treatment'. Sometimes its good to get the boot up the backside but sometimes ya really dont need it!
It is handy having the bases not too far away, a guy thats with the OH at the mo lives in Scotland. Pain for him and Mrs at the mo but will be easier when they get based a Kinloss. You not planning to move closer to base?
Hi Emma, down days are not so good! Your fella away?
Hmmmm i may do, However Matt wants to get a place somewhere close to home, and im still at uni at the mo so its a bit hard, but id move if he wanted to... definitely once i graduated:D
With these kinda relationships its always the little things u appreciate and miss.... like i miss cuddling in bed, sleepin next to Matt, etc....
Wags is always good if your feelin down, theres always someone to chat to x x x x x
It is just the little things that matter really not the big gestures, not that I every got them anyway!
We were considering moving to Lincoln so I was closer to Max but he's pretty sure he'll be based in Kinloss in the next 6/7 months so it just seemed silly to be moving back and forth. Plus Max's heart was never really in it, I think he still thinks he's in uni, got the best of both worlds, woman at home and mates down south...and the two shall never meet. Looks like it will be an easier for decision for me tho, got told this week most of our staff at work will get made redundant, work in property so it's been coming a while. Really uncertain but at least I dont have to worry abou leaving my job if we do move as i wont have a job to leave! x
I'm afraid Im off got big headache coming on, really good to speaking to Claire, speak to you soon x
You too Charlie, hope u feel better soon x x x
I know what you mean about the routine my hubbi is based 250miles away from me and when he is home he makes the journey every friday night which takes forever and then back again monday morning! You just get use to the way in which you live then they go away for anything up to 6months! Spoke to him last night via webcam and he says he cant wait to be hope as he isnt doing anything and is bored! He has been spending his day on the computer or going for a run!
Yeah Charlie, my man is based in Germany and went back last sat and is off to Canada for 3 months on Monday!! Feeling a tad down today too!! When will it end?? lol. I'm sure it's because i'm stuck at work(with nothing to do here) and i've got so much to do at home. Grrrr. And i havent even been here an hour!!
I agree about the little things. My oh is from Lincoln, so he has a bit of an accent (compared to me Essex slang, haha) and i love it!! The way he says certain words, and thats what i miss. and the little phrases he comes out with. xxx
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