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so he's home, he's been attentive and sweet, tonight is the first night we've been apart since he's been back. He hasn't wanted sex, at all. he has given in twice to my persistant attempts, he just says he doesn't fancy it.
He's been away for 3 months and we were only together 6 weeks before he went.
his outlook on life has changed a bit too, fairly understandable stuff, just the sex thing is bothering me.
what do you reckon?
hi chick, well id give him abit of time to come round, if hes only just got bk from bein on tour hes prob a bit overwhelmed wiv bein bk home and getting used to 'normal' life again! the best thing to do hun is talk to him about it, tell him how you feel and tell him to open up to you too. If you were only 2gether 6 wks b4 he went then your really only getting to know each another. hope you sort things out hun xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx:)
Id also give him alittle time to get use to been back tours can be hard no matter how long or short they are! Im sure once he settles back into a routine he will be fine X
Babe, maybe he doesnt want you to think that sex is all he wants esp after only bein together 6 weeks before he left?? He doesnt wana rush into it, coz he knows how much you mean to him?!!!
I hope that's all it is. just want things to be how they were before he left. he seems different. people keep telling me it's normal for people to change after they have been out of area, I just wish he was like he was, not just the sex, his outlook on life too. am scared am losing him.
Whats changed on his outlook in life darlin?!!
Just give him time to adjust and itll all be good!!! x x x
sounds really crazy, cos we werent together long, but I thought I was pregnant at one point before he left. he was overjoyed, we discussed marraige and everything! I got a bit carried away with it all I guess. turned out I was just late, but he still said he wanted to marry me and have kids sooner rather than later. While he was awy he wrote saying similar stuff. now he has volunteered himself for the most frequent rotations out of area, he goes again in aug for two months and then feb for two etc. He said he didnt want too much commitment now because his job is his priority. I'm OK ish with that, I knew he was young and enthusiatic, he just lives for his job now.
Aw bless ya babe... Its prob best to take things slow eh... just coz he wants to concentrate on his job right now doesnt mean ur not included in the equation... all in good time... maybe rushin into things wouldnt have been the best thing for your relationship... and now u can get to know each other and develop!! It'll all work out for the best i say x x x x x
I think I'm having the 'getting a bit close to 30 and all my friends are getting married' issues! Am, thinking maybe he said these things because he felt strongly for me, but time apart has made him more rational, it is a good thing, just feels wierd, like a rejection i guess.
I guess that could be the reason, but i say you let him adjust to normal life again.. and he will be back to normal.. i dont think hes rejectin you, the men always come back a little different.. but come back to their usual ways once they have settles in again!!! Hang in there my lovely.. Have u told him how u feel? x x
yeah, I told him, he was a bit reassuring, but also but more doubts in my mind! while I'm writing this I'm realising that maybe the issues here are with me not him, so maybe I'm worrying over nothing as you say. I'm hoping he's coming over tonight, It's less than 24 hours since i last saw him and I miss him, hard to believe I coped with 3 months now! lol
thanks hun xx
Aw bless ya... hope everythin goes ok for ya, im always here if you need to chat darlin x x x xx x x xx
thanks
He shocked me last night! we went to bed as normal, he got in bed, I went to the bathroom and he had hidden my pjs, he then started kissing me all over! yay! he's back!!!!
Woop Woop indeed! have a very big smile on my face this morning I can tell you! think I may have upset my housemates though as they had to work today! hey ho, I wasn't going to turn him down or play quietly was I?!!!
Worth every bit of agro hehe!!!!!!! :D:D:cool::cool:
definately, waited months for that moment!
Wahey - good news!
I know that I sometimes put too much pressure on my OH with that kind of thing and it almost always switches his libido down!
With regard to him being a bit changeable, think that could be a bit of a boy thing. One minute mine wants to leave the army and settle back down, retraining as a teacher. Next thing I know he's banging on about trying to find work abroad! Is so infuriating. We were both long term singletons focussed on work prior to getting together and even two years on, it's difficult to get your head around incorporating someone else into your life plans. It's difficult, but take your foot off the pedal and things might improve.
Fully sympathise on the looming 30 - I'm 29 next week and not massively keen! :eek:
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